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mummy2girls wrote: I guess i was going to slow:(

I go to fast and now to slow.. how can i find the inbetween speed? I totally give up! Literally! thats it im goign to be a old cat lady! and im thinking im destined to be with that ex of mine... UGH!!!!!!!

luvmykids replied: What happened?

CAMSMOM1 replied: OH no Shelly, is it over? What happened? You said you went to slow? I think that was the smart thing to do, and if he was wanting to much to fast, then he probably wasn't the one for you.

I'm not sure what to say, without the details. But I wanted to give you a big and let you know that Mr. Right is out there. You have a lot to offer a man.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Shelly, love has a way of biting you on the bum just when you give up. I know you will not be an old cat lady, Jenna wouldn't let you. Please keep your chin up, sometimes guys are boneheads.

mummy2girls replied:
To be honest i have no idea what happened. i thought it was going good and then he throws at me that he is moving to BC and not coming back to edmonton. i am stunned. I wanted to take this slow because i seem to alwaysd go to fast! And now goign to slow just scared him away! Im really mad because he told me he wanted to go slow at first..unless my slow is too slow for him! I feel like i always get kicked in the butt everytime it starts to get serious. So i have pretty much given up because geez thsi is getting ridiculous! I asked him why is he moving to BC and asked him if he was happy with our relationship. i wasnt being nasty when ia sked him i just asked him in anormal question voice. And he says RELAX SHELLY! HUH?!?!?! Ok... this si just crazy.

Am i that ugly? ami that creepy?

luvmykids replied:
Does the move have something to do with you, or is it a job or something? From what you've said in other posts he doesn't sound like he'd be moving just to get away from you!

It sucks, but maybe it's good things went slow, if they'd moved along faster he might have had to move anyway, and then you'd be even more heartbroken.

Sorry, it's never easy. Sounds corny but the right man is out there!!!

mummy2girls replied:
no its not job related. he said he wants to get away from edmonton and me... NICE EH?

luvmykids replied:
OK, wait, WHAT? Still need more info. How, why, what?! As in he doesn't think you want the same kind of relationship as him and he's hurt, or as in we don't have a reason to pursue this?

mummy2girls replied:
didnt tell me why just he needs to get away from me! This is what is upsetting me. If only he would give me a reason then i would accept it and wouldnt be hurt. But to just say that and then thats it! And then to tell me to relax after...

I wanted this relationship to start of as friends and then buold into more. i didnt want to just jump into bed with this guy because everytime i do they dump me the next day. So thats why i wanted to build a relationship with him and then step into the next phase and be physical. but i guess he couldnt handle it so he just dumped me before we could become physical! Am i wrong to want ti build a relationship frist! Good thing i didnt introduce jenna to him! UGH!

luvmykids replied: Is there a chance he thinks you think of him as a "buddy"? Did you ask him if it was b/c you haven't gotten physical?

IMO you're very smart not to rush into that, you are a great mom and take your responsibility to Jenna seriously. You made a good decision on her behalf to take things slow. If that is why he's leaving, he's a jerk for not at least talking to you and finding out why you stand where you do, KWIM? I would think a decent guy would respect the single mom part of you enough to at least have that discussion.

I'm so sorry, I can tell you're very hurt by this. I hope you can talk to him some more about it, even if just to get a reason.

mummy2girls replied:
no he didnt think we were just buddies....its hard to explain on here without it turnign into a novel ... but lets just say he told me numerous times that he didnt think of me as a friend and i told him the same. We were building our relationship and he even started calling me sweetie and honey and vise versa. I know all of us has called each of us hun and sweetie but this is different and you can tell between a friend sweetie and a love sweetie. I hope you get what im saying.. Oh well i have just decided im going to live alone with jenna and adopt 30 cats...

CAMSMOM1 replied: I think it's wrong for him to not give you an answer. You deserve an explanation. ANd I can see why it upset you.

You did NOTHING wrong! You took it slow, like you should, and you got to know each other. And if all he wanted was sex, well....he's not the one.

We can never have enough explanations to satisfy us. But it's good that you found out now, and you didn't go to the next phase with him.

You said you are "destined to be w/your ex". Do you still have feelings for him?

I truely believe everything happens for a reason. And there is a man out there that will love you and Jenna, and give you everything you need in a relationship. I know it's hard to realize that right now, but it will happen.

I'm here for you if you need a shoulder to cry on. And you never know, once he moves he may realize how much you mean to him, that is if you still want him back.

Hang in there Shelly! It'll get better.

My3LilMonkeys replied:

amymom replied: Oh Shelly, I am so sorry.

I think this was absolutly the right way to handle this. I know that you will make right choices and things will work out.

I must tell you, I didn't find my prince until I was 27 and we are married 20 years now. And it was really worth the wait and keeping within the values and standards you have set for yourself. I know others who were in their mid 30's and happy they waited.

A&A'smommy replied: OH shelly geez you just can't seem to catch a darn break (saying that nicely as I can) men can be such jerks sometimes.. its like finding a needle in the hay stack. I have to say I may only be 20 but I have been through my share of frogs.. or worse it will get better and there are good guys out there you just have to keep looking and praying that God will send you the man you are suppose to be with!! I'm here for you dear!!