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well I am pretty sure it is over......


CosmetologyMommy wrote: I have suspected that dh is cheating on me because of his actions.
1. FIRST HIS CHECK IS SO LOW.....THE LOWEST EVER! EVEN THOUGH HE WORKED OVERTIME AND GOT A RAISE!
2. I ASKED HIM IF HE WAS AND HE SAID, "IF I WAS, COULD U BLAME ME?"
3. HE WENT OUT LAST NIGHT AND WOULD NOT TELL ME WHERE, WITH WHO OR WHEN HE WOULD BE BACK!

we got into a very heated argument this morning and he threw some HARSH WORDS my way and I told him I could not do it anymore. I am sick of the arguing that we have been going through lately. I am almost positive it is over. It will only hurt Aidan in the long run if we stay together. I think I am going to move in with my friend Kim and her 8 month old son tyler in her townhouse. She has the extra rooms and was searching for a roommate. So If I am MIA, that is why.


wub.gif happy v day girls

Shannan

jcc64 replied: I am very very sorry. I wish you strength during this difficult time.

aspenblue1 replied: I am sorry. hug.gif

CosmetologyMommy replied: I am going to try to talk to over with him when he gets off work because I really want us to stay together.

luvbug00 replied: I'm sorry I hope you can talk it out! hug.gif

luvmykids replied: I'm so sorry, I had no idea you guys were having trouble. JMO, but if he says again "Can you blame me" you need to tell him where to stick it! hug.gif

BAC'sMom replied: I am so sorry hug.gif

ToriTrouble replied: Oh man, that is hard. I hope that you can work it out. Hugs to you!

C&K*s Mommie replied: Kinda sorta BTDT. I wish you all the strength at this time. I am sure you are going through so many conflictions in your mind, and questions that have to be answered. I hope you get some sort of peace with whatever you need to have peace with. hug.gif hug.gif PM me anytime.

kayla's mama replied: hug.gif I am sorry that you are going through this. Wishing you much strength to get through this. Hope you guys can work it out. Hope you guys were able to talk about it. Many P&PT's and hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif coming your way.

~~*Missi*~~ replied: Ahhhh honey I am so so sorry. But you are right that in the end arguing hurts the kids but it will also wear on you guys.

I am so sorry this is happening but I am glad that your a brave woman to do what you feel is right for yourself and children.... I hope all works out for you and that things stay "civil" for your sake and the childs sake.

Honey if you need ANYTHING we are all here or PM me. I am sorry! ahhh i feel horrible especially with it being v-day and all.

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Kirstenmumof3 replied: hug.gif I'm so sorry you have to go through this. It's so awful when relationships end on bad terms. I'm so glad that you and Aidan have a place to go. hug.gif

jacobsmama replied: hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif I"m so sorry that you are going through all this right now, please let us know if there is anything that we can do besides thoughts and prayers. wub.gif

holley79 replied: Just wanted to leave you with some hug.gif Hope it works out sweetie.

Edward's Mommy replied:
WTH kind of comment is that? He may be your DH but that was totally uncalled for!!! I hope that if you guys decide to part ways, you find someone better! Someone who won't cheat on you! JMO but I think you should just dump this guy if he's doing this to you! I hope you feel better and if you need to talk, we are all here!!

Brandi

CAMSMOM1 replied:

Shannan~ You know I love you sweetie. You know that what I'm about to say comes to you with love and concern for you.

I think your suspicions are right. Even though I have never been cheated on, I have had many friends that were. And what you listed above, are almost exactly what their man was doing, or saying. Almost to a tee. The men are spending money on their new girlfriend (or prostitute/stripper), they are gone a lot with lame excuses, or very secretive about their where abouts. Don't answer your phone calls. With hold sex from you. Are angry and very arguemenative/verbally abusive. Try to put the blame on you, and say it's your fault your relationship is having problems..why they don't want to have sex. They won't answer the cell around you, ect, ect, ect.

With that said, you have to follow your instints. Sometimes it's hard to admit the truth, and you want to give your DH the benefit of the doubt. The majority of men will NOT admit they are having an affair, unless you catch them. And sometimes they leave clues so they will be caught.

Can your marriage be salvaged? Yes. But both of you need to be honest and open with each other. And you need to seek marriage counseling. He has to be ready to put put "in check" and understand that he needs to earn your trust back. He has to be accountable for his money, his time, and his relationships with others.

I"m glad you are going to talk to him. Stay strong. Follow your gut & your heart. Let him know that you love him, but you don't want to live like this anylonger. And if he wants this marriage to work, then he needs to prove it to you...be honest with you...and get some help.

Does he get on the internet? Check his email, and the things he's been looking up. Check his cell phone numbers and incoming calls. Sorry to sound like an investigator, but you deserve to know the truth one way or another. And you don't deserve to be used or abused. You are a beautiful woman, and he is a lucky man to have you. Now he needs to show you that.

Sorry for being so blunt. I am speaking this out of love. I'm not judging your husband, or you, just wanted to give you some insight with the things I have learned. It may or may not apply to you. I just want the best for you, and for you to know the truth.

grouphug.gif You know I'm here for you Shannan. You'll be in my prayers.

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CantWait replied: Sounds to me as if he is looking for a way out the cowardly way. I don't know why you would go back for more. Best of luck.

3xsthefun replied: I am so sorry. hug.gif

MM'sMama replied: I am really sorry...I don't really know what to say but I wanted to offer you lots of hugs hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif and my support in whatever you decide. Good luck! hug.gif

kimberley replied: hug.gif hug.gif i am sorry to hear this Shannan. we are here if you need anything. hug.gif hug.gif

PrairieMom replied:
How'd it go? did you guys have a chance to talk?

coasterqueen replied: hug.gif

Insanemomof3 replied: So sorry you are going through this. I am going through it too. (Not in the same way) But it is tough. PM me if you need anything. hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

fashionmumofboys replied: I'm so sorry, hope everything will work itself out for you.

Good luck.

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