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want to vent... - I am tired of entertaining/holding her!


toothytracie wrote: Olivia is still having problems playing alone/entertaining herself. I am so tired of entertaining her I could scream!!!!! Everyone says it is just a phase but I am going to be in a nut house before its over! I choose not to do silly little things (like clean the spot off my pants today from spilling something) b/c I didn't want to carry her with me. She won't play in any of her toys (exersaucer, jumperoo, walker) which she used to love. Sometimes, she doesn't want to sit with me but she doesn't want to NOT sit with me. When we are out, she doesn't act like this but it might b/c we are usually somewhere where someone else is entertaining her besides me!

School is about to start and I really need to study even if she is here but I can't sit with her in the floor b/c she wants to tear up/eat my papers and books. Paper is her favor thing to chew on! I guess I could use the excuse of why my homework wasn't done was b/c my daughter chewed it up! Ok, off topic but it drives me nuts!!!!!!!

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

julesmom replied: Will she watch videos? Pop in a Baby Einstein and see if she's content for awhile.

Good luck.

toothytracie replied: nope, already tried that!!!! thanks though!

mommy_loves_chase replied: thats no fun im sorry to hear your having a hard time

jacobsmama replied: What about a swing?? Does she like that?? Or what about toys that make noise or sing?? Sometimes you just have to let them cry for a littlle bit. Because that is what they need. It is soooo hard to do but sometimes they just need that. Sorry your having such a rough time. It will get better. sad.gif

toothytracie replied: She is too fat for her swing and I have given her every toy in here and she doesn't want them.

She watches the video for about 10min screaming out and whining and then she won't watch it anymore.

I took her over to my cousin's b/c she has a 7yr old and she played in the toys there (exersaucer, walker) there rolleyes.gif I have no idea why and not home!

i will let her cry to an extent but she gets so worked up that she will start coughing and then gagging - then she will throw up. I have tried not picking her up and once she upset about it, she won't shut up til you do pick her up - even if its 2hrs later.

Until recently, she was screaming out at night too and wouldn't go back to sleep til you fed her and then she wouldn't eat on schedule in the morning. You think it is any connection? Could there be something bothering her? Is it that her naps aren't at the right time - she won't wait more than 2hrs to nap and so she will slept til 9am then I give her a power nap at 11:30 and then again at about 3 (2:30 if she won't wait) then she is up til about 7:30.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Here's just a thought - one of the churches in my area has what's called a parent's morning out. Even if you're not enrolled in their regular preschool, they will take your child for (I think) upto four hours. I haven't tried it, but if I were trying to study like you, I may think otherwise just to get a few hours in by myself. Also, a good friend of mine is studying for the bar and she puts her little girl (about the same age as yours as a matter of fact) in daycare half time. This way she gets at least two days or more to study all day without her. Mommies deserve alone time...don't feel bad about it.

julesmom replied: Is she teething?

Maybe she has an ear infection that you don't know about?

I'd take her to the ped. if you can and make sure there is nothing really bothering her.

kit_kats_mom replied: Katherine was about that age when I hired a lady to come to my home 3 days a week for 3 hours each day. I was there to nurse but otherwise the lady & her 3 year old kept K entertained so I could work. I just told everyone I knew what I needed & was flexible as far as times. This lady went to church with one of my moms co-workers & just did it to get out of the house & make a few bucks. Maybe a teenager or something? I think I paid $50 week for my lady.

mckayleesmom replied: Maybe you can find a 12 or 13 year old girl willing to come over for a couple hours every other night so that you can get some time to yourself. She probably just loves her mommy's attention when nobody else is there to entertain her.

ediep replied: Could she be bored with her toys? Maybe put some away for a while and try something new....even some tupperware, pots, anythign that is safe and new and interesting for her to look at.

if I were you, I wouldn't get so tense about the schedule.....I know because I did too and it was very frustrating when Jason got off schedule. If she is screaming at night to be fed, I would just feed her. It is probabaly a growth spurt or teething and it will pass if she is usually sleeping through the night. Try to stay flexible with mealtimes, bottles, and naps. I know its frustrating, but otherwise you'll make yourself crazy.

Can you taker her for a walk in the stroller or to the park, those things used to tire Jason out when he was a baby.

Can anyone come over and give you a break or some study time? Take advantage of family or friends...may they could even take the baby for a walk so you can study.

Try to relax, it will get easier

moped replied: Ummmm, well at that age Jack loved and still loves the kitchen stuff - tupperware etc...baby einstein in the high chair, ripping magazines, books to throw around, playing with is shoes, almost anything that isn't a toy!

I am so sorry, it sounds terrible

Is she used to other kids?

It sounds like she sleeps pretty good - how about at night?

toothytracie replied: She will be going to a daycare in a few weeks but I don't know if I can make it til then. She is driving me absolutely batty!

She is teething and I know that is part of it but this has been going on for quiet some time. She used to play just fine by herself and we have never held her alot so she didn't get spoiled to that.

There are NO churches here that do that b/c I have already tried, back when she had colic.

I got my 7yr old neice over here to help play with her. I felt so bad asking b/c I thought it was stupid that I had to get a child to come help me control my own kid. It might be worse though b/c Olivia doesn't eat good when ppl are around. I know she needs to get out of that but still...

I am strict with her schedule b/c if I don't, she is ALL over the place. She doesn't eat good and she is so sparatic that I basically can't leave the house b/c she will want to eat again even though I just fed her.

It is too hot for the park right now unless I go in the early morning and I am just too tired from the day and b/c she screams out all night long.

She has NEVER slept good at night. Until 5mon, she got up every 2.5hrs to eat on the dot. Then, she slept through the night for about 2mon and then she stopped for about 2mon and then started for about a week and then now she does it off and on. If she does get up, she will scream and scream and scream and sometimes she doesn't want the bottle or anything and I have no idea what is wrong with her. If she does eat at night, then she won't eat from whatever time she ate (usually abot 2:30) until 11am....seems too long.

We have NO family that is in our town that is willing to help - my family is 30miles away and won't help either. That is why I about lost my mind when she had colic b/c NOONE is willing to help. She is used to other kids, she did go to one babysitter before that had 2 and kept 1 other and she is always around my neices and nephews.

THanks for all the suggestions gals! I know I have a 101 excuses on why everything won't work but I have tried alot of stuff!

ediep replied: well, you sound at your wits end and if she is really as unhappy as you are describing, I'd talk to her ped....even if she isn't sick, the doc may have some sugestions for you

good luck!

boobies4virtue replied: Virtue wouldn't entertain herself, so to give myself a break, I bought one of those Tubby seats and would fill up the tub and let her splash while i sat on the counter with a book or magazine. Or i'd put her in the kitchen sink while I scrubbed the ounters and put the dishes away. You can't get a whole lot accomlished, but It could give you a break so your brain doesn't burst.

gr33n3y3z replied: It sounds like she is feeling your stress
and when you both are stressed out your both not going to get any where.

Good luck I hope things start working out for you

MomToMany replied: I think you need to take a deep breath and be thankful that she wants to be near you. I think you are making a bigger deal of it than it is. Calm down!!!!

coasterqueen replied:
While you might feel this is true Mollie, I think we've all felt this way before. I know I do from time to time and especially with two little ones now. And sometimes venting about it makes a world of difference and helps us not take it out on our children. If we can't come here to vent about things like this and feel like we can do it with open arms then where can we go?

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moped replied:
I agree.....this is the first place that i would go to vent for sure!!!!

ANyways, I have been reading your posts and I feel bad for you - because at that age it should be getting a bit easier in that department. How does she sleep? Is she allergic? cold/flus? How many hours of day and night sleep combined does she get?

coasterqueen replied:
I'm not sure what to say but to say that I've been there before. grouphug.gif DD1 was extremely spirited (still is, lol) and needed my constant attention (still does, lol). She didn't like any of her toys and couldn't play by herself even for a minute while I went to the bathroom. It can feel very frustrating at times and sometimes the stress level hits the roof.

The only thing I can suggest is a sling so you can get things done. Other than that you need some *down time* just for you. Hopefully your DH can give that to you from time to time. If you haven't told him exactly how you feel and how it's stressing you I'd suggest doing so. He might not even notice this is how you are feeling and would help.

Sometimes I think there are children like yours, mine and others that are just very spirited and there is really nothing you can do to help them entertain themselves more. YOu just have to wait it out and hope you don't lose your sanity in the mean time. tongue.gif I know, not what you wanted to hear but I can tell you it does get better. In a different way, but it does. grouphug.gif

Edited to say that DD2 is just as spirited but in a different way. She needs a lot of attention but there are times when she'll sit for a mintute or two (but not more tongue.gif) while I do something. But there are times I have to stand up with her in the sling, swaying her back and forth while I try with lots of effort to eat dinner. rolleyes.gif

toothytracie replied:


She has seasonal allergies but she takes Benadryl for that. She doesn't have cold/flu that I know of - when she gets drainage she vomits and she hasn't done that since june.

She takes her turn sleeping good at night. Lately, she awakes at about 2:30 - I have NO idea why - and if I give her a drink she goes back to sleep. If she sleeps all night she sleeps from about 8pm - 7am and then she will go back down til 9:15 and then nap from 12-1 and 3-4 or about.


She doesn't like the sling - I have bought 2 of them trying to get her to sit in one.

Thanks for all your kind thoughts! It is easier said that done to calm down and it has gone to the point that it is just a down right annoyance. Thanks for letting me vent!

MomToMany replied:
Looks like everyone suggested everything that might help. Take her to the DR. then!!! If she's crying that much, it's not normal! I'd be worried about her safety around you then.

moped replied:
I think we have all been there before where you need to get some time alone - PM me if you need to vent

ediep replied:
me too! pm me if you want to vent!

Jamison'smama replied: Hang in there---it'll get better. My DD was very similar--still requires a lot of attention but since she is almost 3 I can distract her. When she was little I had to get very creative to keep her entertained. I would put about a half inch of water in a baby pool in the middle of my kitchen with all kinds of toys, I used wet washcloths and frozen ones to entertain/soothe her and they entertain my 7 month old now.

When things seem awful--change the scenery--go outside, get in the air conditioned car, take the exersaucer to McDonalds--you read and she may sit in there since there other things to look at. A change helps you both get a breath.

As far as needing you nearby---the hip carry in a sling was the best for us---at that age she didn't like to sit any other way. Take a nap with her, snuggled up together--maybe she really needs the physical closeness right now.

I have NO family in the area--well the closest is 10 hours away so I understand the lack of support.

I would go to the doctor--just rule out everything---

What type of advice would be most helpful from us--activities or soothing techniques? Or if you just need to vent, we're good for that too.

julesmom replied: Can your dh take some time with her so you can get a break? Your dd is probably sensing you are so stressed and reacting.

I think you seriously need to call a neighbor or relative to help you out. Can your nieces mom help you? I read in one of your other posts that Olivia cries for 2hrs and keeps it up even when you pick her up. Time for her to see a doctor! If she is crying for 2hrs, I don't think that is for attention, I think something is bothering her. Could the benadryl be bothering her? My kids can't take benadryl or any antihistamines...it makes that nasty.

Please come and post and let us know what is going on. I am very concerned for both of you.

toothytracie replied: My DH is out of town alot b/c he works on the road. My neices mom has her own job and another kid and can't come over here. That is what I mean when I say that we have noone to help us out.

She doesn't cry for 2hrs - I said that if you stayed out of the room that long she would probably cry til you came back. And, then, you can't calm her down then except to pick her up.

I honestly don't think it is the Benadryl. If I didn't give to her, she would have all that drainage and start vomiting. And, if it was that, she would do it when ppl are over or we were out.

You know I left some message boards b/c of the responses like MommytoMany's. And, I will leave this one if I keep getting the same type of responses. I honestly, don't know how someone could post such mean things even if they did think it. I would never hurt Olivia and the thought has never crossed my mind!

I was actually just looking to vent and maybe get some suggestions (any) along the way but now b/c of one rude poster, I won't be posting anymore threads or responses in this thread.

Thanks Edie & Jen!

toothytracie replied: Oh! And, I HAVE spoke the ped about it several times and she thinks it is b/c she is teething or is just a phase. She knows that she has always been a really fussy baby. She was at the dr on the 21st and the checked - she was doing it then and nothing is wrong unless it is something that we can't tell.

coasterqueen replied: ((HUGS)) I don't know if you will read this but I REALLY do know how you feel. I found out that others knew how I felt when I read the book "How to Raise Your Spirited Child". It really helped me see things and gave me a few ideas that would help my dd personally. I'd loan it out to you but DH is in the process of reading it now and I'm going to read it again after he's done.

Just know we ARE here to lend an ear. Gosh knows I vented a LOT about my spirited Kylie on here and everyone was so supportive...even if they didn't know what I was going through.

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Edit: I'm going to ponder on your post a bit tonight and hopefully tomorrow I can come up w/some ideas that might help you w/your DD. grouphug.gif

A&A'smommy replied: BTDT PLEASE if you get to the point where you can't stand it anymore GET HELP... I have been there I was crying as hard as she was.. i called dh and since he couldn't leave work I put her in her carseat screaming and went to dhs work by time I got there we both calmed down.. so if she likes to ride maybe try a short car ride.... I wish I could come and help you that is a VERY hard stage and some babies take longer to come out of than others. ((((((HUGS)))))) VENT anytime you need too don't worry about that post we wouldn't want you to leave here!!!

Boys r us replied: I'm so sorry that you're having a rough time with her! I think we ALL have been there, whether we vocalized our frustrations to others for support or just kept quiet about it and pretended to be supermom..we've all been there! Being a mom is so hard and I commend you for coming here looking for support and answers!

I think you've gotten a lot of good ideas here..Brenda(Jamison's mom) gave some great things to try! My first son was very mild mannered and so passive. Then 6yrs later, I had my 2nd son and OMG what a difference! When he was a baby..I remember one night got so bad, him crying non stop if I put him down, I called my husband who was out of town working at the time and told him I was bringing him to Richmond(which is where DH was and is 3 hrs away) and he needed to take care of him b/c I couldn't anymore..it's mentally and physically exhausting when you have a baby like you and I and so many othe mother's out there have..as Karen called it, Spirited babies!

Please know we are here for you ANYTIME you need to vent..and I also encourage you to visit the other areas of the board. We have a great group of people here and sometimes just having silly conversations in the general discussion board abd stuff that doesn't have anything to do with parenting is just what the dr ordered on a rough day love2.gif

mom2tripp replied:
YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME. What in the world were you thinking momtomany, I would never ever write this to someone who is trying to vent and YOU know that YOU have been there too, we ALL have.

Toothytracie, please don't let the views of one member on this board turn you away from here, we hear you and are there for you to vent and tell us anything that is bothering you. We know you wouldn't harm your child like others have implied!!!

I think we've all felt at one time or another that we just can't take it anymore, it WILL get better and we are here for you. GOOD LUCK biggrin.gif

moped replied:
I agree with mom2tripp..................toothietracy I really hope that you don't feel the need to leave. Not all of us think alike and I guess that's what's makes it interesting, I do not agree with previous comments and hope that you stay with us......

We have ALL been there a time or two and I think it is perfectly normal to have the overwhelming feelings with a baby. I just wish they could talk and tell us what they need.

Mommy2BAK replied: Hey! I know I am a little late responding, but I wanted to lend my support for you anyways. We are always here for you. I have been there. I know its not fun but it will get better. hug.gif

moped replied:
It does always get better - GOOD THOUGHT!!!!!!!!!!!

chloe&tysmommy replied: ITA with the others....please stay!! I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time right now with your daughter...I know I have been there before wacko.gif

You had a lot of good suggestions given to you but I just wanted to offer you support and I hope you know you are VERY welcome here and if you need to vent at anytime...feel free to do so here. We have sooooooooooo many good people on this board , please don't take offence to one comment hug.gif

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mom2tripp replied: HOW'S SHE DOING TOOTHIETRACY?

toothytracie replied: Well, since I put in the nap from 11:30 - 12:30 she has been much better but today she was HE**!!! Her tooth is finally coming in (it feels sharp) and so I think that is why she was today.

I DID call the ped about the benadryl and they said that they didn't think that was it but I could take her off of it and see. She hasn't been taking it every day for the length of time she has been driving me nuts smile.gif though so I really don't think that is it. I really don't know what to do if her drainage gets bad again since she sounds like she needs SOMETHING. However, they wouldn't tell me how to do a schedule or anything that might be the source of her problem. They just said, "She might not be able to be put on a schedule." BUt the only reason she is on one is b/c she fusses SO MUCH that I have no idea what is wrong with her so I have to have some kind of something for her (and me) to follow. So, I don't know what to do.

Any ideas on WHO I could talk to about maybe helping me by observing her and tell me if I am doing something wrong with the schedule or what would be the best one? I have fretted about her schedule for months now and I am just darn tired of it!!! I know there is someone out there that does that b/c I have heard of it, I just don't know who they would be!

I am really sensitive today b/c I had someone comment that her schedule wasn't right and I think that might be it. Only, I didn't pull it out of my :moon: I did watch her and see how long she went between feedings etc. to see how to do it.

Poor thing is not eating very much and I feel like a horrible person b/c I have to literally make her or she would only eat a total of 3oz all day long. PLZ! Don't anyone knock my feeding techniques like i am a bad mother of I will just bawling.gif

I really just need to go to bed, I am just an emotional wreck today about this whole thing and feeling so bad for her hurting so much - I guess.

Thanks so much to the ones that are wondering how I am doing and had so many good suggestions! I am trying ALL of them!

Jamison'smama replied: Hang in there--you'll get through it. I have a friend who is gets very wired on Benedryl--wouldn't it be nice if it were as simple as that. If so, there are lots of other allergy meds that might help.

I might be able to help you find some parenting assistance--since that is a lot of what I do here, where are you (you can PM me if you don't want to post it).

If a schedule isn't working---it's okay to give it up. We really have a flexable schedule here---two naps a day, usually around 11 and 2 but I am always going someplace so he naps in the car sometimes or in my arms other times. He eats whenever he seems hungry and as much as he asks for. Now, that being said, Jack is my EASY baby. Jamison had to be more scheduled as she was CRAZY if she didn't nap. I do recommend the book, Raising Your Spirited Child or How to Raise Your spirited child---I think it has some helpful ideas, sounds like you may be a member of that club---I can sympathize.

Tell me, what is it that is most frustrating--that she cries when she isn't being held? If you sat and held her all day would she be happy? If so, it doesn't seem to be medical. Is she eating a lot of solid food? Do you feed her the bottle before her solids? Is it that she doesn't want to eat from a bottle or wants to be held to eat? What are some of the specific issues and maybe someone will have ideas.

Sorry to throw so many questions out there...PM me if you want some help locating parenting assistance in your area--again, I do this for a living.

toothytracie replied: I live in Gainesville texas, it is close to the dallas area. Oh! someone that specializes in parenting!

She has been on several different allergy meds and Benadryl was the only thing that would do the trick when it was so bad it was making her vomit before.

I don't know what the problem is exactly. She won't let you leave the room - even for a sec and she wants you to be right there. She acts like she wants you to hold her but she won't sit still in your lap and then fusses there too. She would let me carry her around if I was walking around all day though.

She hasn't been eating good but I think that is b/c of the teething. She eats 4-6oz (2oz cereal in it) 3x's per day (7am, 1pm & 7:30pm) and eats 1-2 jars of babyfood around 11am and 5pm. The babyfood doesnt' hold her over very long so that is why we have do it that way. She won't take formula and babyfood in the same feeding and if she would, I wouldn't know how much of each to offer since she doesn't eat the "recommended" amts anyways and she doesn't eat the same amt consistenently. I was trying to get her to nap at 9am and 2 or 3 but I have a hard time staying up at 7am since I am NOT a morning person, so I let her go back to sleep and she sleeps til 9 but if she does that she won't wait til 2 or 3 to nap and I thought that was her problem so I have been letting her nap around 11:30 for an hour and then again at 3 and she will usually only sleep 1hr then as well.

The reason I am so dead set on a schedule is b/c I wouldn't know when she is wanting to nap, eat or when she is just fussing. I did that for about 6 months and she ate 2oz every 2hrs and I just can't handle that anymore. She should be going longer and eating more at each feeding. For months, I couldn't go anywhere even if she had just ate and napped b/c she would throw a fit when we were out and I didn't know what it was. When I would get home 1hr later, she would eat again.

She has ALWAYS been very fussy b/c she has reflux really bad. But, it should be slacking off I think and it is worse. I don't know if she has seperation anxiety or if she is hurting and it is comforting to have you there or she is just tired and needs a nap.

That is what I am looking for.. to see what exactly it could be.

coasterqueen replied: I think I ttally missed out on the fact that she has reflux! ohmy.gif Okay, I'm going to try to type this but got Megan in the sling here so excuse any typos. tongue.gif Reflux babies have a higher tendency to be allergic to things like dairy and such. Have you ever ruled out a dairy sensitivity? If not that could very well be the problem. Has your PED put her on different formulas? I'm sorry if you mentioned any of this above, but Megan has had me up very early this morning and I'm a bit too tired to re-read right now, lol.

Also what is she taking for her reflux? Teething can make reflux flare up big time so know that even though her reflux should be calming down a bit it's normal for it to flare right up again and sometimes seem worse. I know it sucks! Megan's reflux has been flaring up a bit and I think she may be teething. rolleyes.gif

As far as schedules we are very lax here. Whenever Megan wants to eat, she eats. Whenever she wants to sleep, she sleeps. For me that has made life easier because I'm not stressed over it. BUT in the same token you never know what's going to happen next and hard to plan your day. You have to do what's right for your family so do what schedule you need to. I won't comment on this anymore than I have to because we all have different beliefs on it.

Please. please let me know about the dairy issue and reflux. Those two tend to go hand in hand and putting her on a dairy elim diet can make the WORLD of difference in a matter of days!!!!!!

grouphug.gif and hang in there! We are here for you.

mom2tripp replied: I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time but I think there are some GREAT people on here that have had similiar problems that can really help you out, KEEP US UPDATED and let's see if we can help you out, I can tell you are a REALLY GREAT MOM biggrin.gif

coasterqueen replied: I sorta went back and re-read some stuff and one thing about the eating issue is that i have read and experieced 1st hand that refluxers tend to want to eat constantly becuz it hurts and eating takes away the pain temporarily.

oops want to say more but Megan is crying now.

julesmom replied:
I just want to comment on this part.

My son was 2 when we put him on an antihistamine for his allergies. The ped. and I never thought his behaviour could be bc of the med. He went to prek at 3 and his teacher mentioned it. We tried another antihistamine and another, until we realized he can't handle any. Once he was off all of them, we and the teacher noticed the difference.

So, we only gave him something if he really needed it. I don't know if that's an option for you or not.

He was my first and my next 2 are the same. Now all 3 are on singulair for their allergies. That is for ages 2 and up though, I think, so that won't be a help for your dd.

But, even now my oldest cannot take benadryl. I gave it to him once and sent him to school and he was crazy, even ended up in the VP office for punching some kid. Normally, he is NOT like that.

On another note, maybe she is allergic to benadryl. I know alot of people who can't take it because it gives them heart palpatations. dunno.gif

julesmom replied:
Karen-I have found babies that are allergic to dairy will do that same. As a baby, my ds would nurse constantly, but then scream like he was starving. It was the dairy I was eating that was causing him pain.

Once I eliminated dairy, he became a happy baby, still spirited, but much better.


Tracy-this might be the problem, but don't rely on your pediatrician to say it. I nursed and found alot of peds. don't believe a bf baby could have a dairy allergy
I know you are bottlefeeding, but maybe your dd needs a different formula. Just an idea.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Well... maybe what you could do is take a day off...

I mean that you spend literally all day in bed with Olivia. Sleep when she wants to sleep - or just cuddle her. Let her eat when she wants to eat... and the amount.... i know that my son didn,t eat the recommended amounts - he ate wayyy more than the recommended amount - but he was a normal weight.

My daughter on the other hand, ate EVERYTHING IN SIGHT. She could have 1/2 cup of cereal for breakfast, then eat a whole jar of fruit - then 6 ounces of formula/milk at around 7am - then at 9:30 she`d have another bottle.... then have lunch, which usually consisted of 1 big jar and one little jar, PLUS some yogurt, or applesauce, PLUS a whole 8 ounce bottle of forula/milk. Then a 'snack' around 2pm, if she wasn't sleeping, of a cookie (arrowroot or whatever) and an 8 ounce bottle of formula/mlk... then dinner, which was usually a big and a small jar of babyfood, plus little bites of other things like pasta, cheerios, cheese.... whatever was soft enough for her to gum to death... and of course her bottle of formula (usually 6 ounces) and then another bottle of formula before bed aorund 8:30pm.

My MIL babysat her once and refused to feed her all that much in a day - she ended up with a relaly cranky baby - when I picked her up, I knew right away it`s because she was HUNGRY. It might be the case with yours... although with the reflus, I'm not so sure....

Of course... that`s about 3 times the recommended daily intake of food for a kid that was about 5 months old.... lol but she`s healthy, never been overweight - and she still eats like a piglet. Of course, she`s got the energy to.... *sigh*


Just try to take it easy - try not to depend so much on schedules. I used to depend on schedules too - and I`d get so frustrated/mad/resentful when the kids didn`t follow mY schedule... took me some time to figure out that they wanted what then wanted...and no schedule was going to make them not want it, know what I mean? blush.gif

Good luck.... definitely keep us posted!!!!!!!!!

coasterqueen replied:
Thanks julesmom. I did eliminate dairy for two months, all obvious and hidden and it didn't seem to make a difference. I've been off dairy for about a month now and there are no symptom differences for Megan. Hers was definitely reflux. Once we put her on the meds she stopped arching, choking, gagging, projectile vomiting, etc.

ediep replied: toothietracy- have you read The baby Whisperer? It is an exellent book, I highly reccommend it. She is the type of assistance that you are looking for, but unfortuately, she is in England. Hopefully, you can find some help near you.

Do you have a wellness center at your local hospital? Here, the wellness center is where you have classes like lamaze, parenting, Cpr...whatever...After Jason was born, I took classes like infant parenting, mommy and me just to get out and spend time with other moms. If you get a chance look in your phone book to see if you have a wellness center or even ask your ped or your OB.

toothytracie replied: Well, I took her to another dr today. I tried to call the old one yesterday to see if they could tell me some place that offers parenting classes (so I could talk to the instructor) and the nurse acted like it wasn't her on the phone and she gave it to someone else - which I thought was VERY unprofessional!

Unfortunately, he says it is just seperation anxiety and it will go away sooner than 2yrs :eek: He said she is just a "spirited' child so I guess I should go get that book. He said she will grow out of it eventually - which I didn't want to hear, I am tooo impatient.

She has been hard the last couple of days but one of the top teeth just came through and 2 others are about to break the skin.

He said she did have a red ear and he increased her zantac incase the reflux is bothering her.

Thanks for all your help ladies! I know this has been a controversial thread (I guess that is the word) but I appreciate all the input! I guess I will just have to wait it out - at least til school starts for me!

Jamison'smama replied: Tracie--I haven't had a chance to call any of these--which I planned to do but maybe one of these can give you the information you need.

Community Council of Greater Dallas

Dallas Association for Parent Education This one looks pretty good if there is anything in your area.

Sometimes if these aren't in your area--they may be able to direct you to something that is.


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