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question about potty training


Celestrina wrote: Ben is EXTREMELY resistant regarding PT, mainly because of a motor skills problem. Now when I put him on the potty, he'll just dribble a little, but then complete the task after his pants are back on. Just getting him to sit on the potty and tinkle was hard enough, how do I get him to fully empty his bladder in the toilet?

amynicole21 replied: It will take some time. Nora does the same thing! Especially with #2 - she only lets it out a little at a time. Annoying dry.gif Sometimes with Nora we play "let's listen" and we wait to hear the tinkles then make a big deal over it. She likes to make the sounds, so she'll sometimes force a little more out. rolleyes.gif

coasterqueen replied: I wish I had some advice for you, but I think Megan will be a teenager before we ever get her potty trained. rolleyes.gif dry.gif She knows when she goes, she changes her own diaper after she pees, etc, but she refuses to go in the potty. She's gone a few times by accident but won't sit on the darn thing anymore. growl.gif

Celestrina replied: Ben is four! He has cousins way younger than him starting to potty train.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Have you tried just putting him in underwear and letting him wet himself? How often do you you take him to the potty?

Celestrina replied: Yes, but that doesn't seem to bother him. sad.gif I put him on several times a day, especially (but not limited to) first thing in the morning and about a half-hour after he eats or drinks.

coasterqueen replied:
Megan didn't care about peeing in undies, either. She just kept on doing what she was doing and I'd find wet spots everywhere. IMO, when they act like this they just aren't ready. Some are ready faster than others. I'm just going to be patient with Megan and in time she'll let me know. Kylie did it, she just did it earlier. happy.gif

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Take him every 30 minutes-1 hour. He needs to be put on more than several times a day when starting out.

At this age I'd also get firm about it. I know a lot of people say "when they are ready", but IMO there is a difference between not "wanting" to and not "being able" to. Sometimes they are ready and we just need to put our foot down about it. That's just me. smile.gif

Kaitlin'smom replied:
I have to agree at age 4 they darn well know better.

What did work for us (on number 2, did not have to do this for peeing) was to let her pick out her reward, she picked out suckers and when she went #2 she got one then once she was doing it reg we cut back on the rewards then I would only give her one when asked and eventually she stoped asking, we only went thought about 1/2 the bag of suckers for this. I know some wont agree to this but it worked for us.

what does he like? stickers, fav candy? toys? For me I started with peeing first and making it a big deal when she went, then once that was masters we went to number #2 and we had to change stragies, hence the rewards.

coasterqueen replied: Sorry, I didn't read the part where you said he is 4. blush.gif

There are other reasons why he may not be able to go at this age, but I'm sure the others are right with their assessment. smile.gif

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I really am confused when people judge a child's age with when he/she is not reaching a particular milestone. My kids have both been late at just about everything, but I don't blame them in any part because they are just not willing. I know that it takes a lot of work on us parents' part in helping guide our kids along the way, but how can someone just say four is too old when there could most definitely be other issues involved with why a child may not be learning as fast as the "norm". I know that Wil has a learning disability. Especially with his speech. I may seem to be making excuses, but I truly think that this delay is in correlation with his inability to learn to potty train at this time. If I just said he were being stubborn, well then how am I teaching my kid to see his own potential. I'm not saying to sit back and wait for everything to happen on its own. I'm obviously not saying this because both my kids are in therapy (both PT and ST). But I think potty training is just like a child learning his/her ABCs, some kids just learn it faster than others. And some who may have a learning disability (which I'm not saying Ben has), may just take a little longer.

I suggest talking to Ben's ped about it. He/she may give you some new ideas or rule out any other underlying issues. I read that kids associate pee and poo with themself, so think about it, flushing "me" down the toilet (to the far beyond) IS scary. hug.gif

ETA: Have you tried just asking him whether something is scary about the potty? Wil has such a wild imagination. He said there were elephants downstairs the other night, so it makes me wonder at times what goes through his mind when he refuses to sit on the potty.

holley79 replied: I know everyone is going to think me totally nuts but I just put Annika's potty in the living room. It was hit and miss for a bit but then she got to the point she didn't want to poo or pee in her diaper because it was against her bum. We use big girl panties at home and diapers when we are running errands. As soon as she tinkles she says Eww and wants it changed.

Have you tried aiming at cherrios? Maybe make a game out of it.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I did forget something when Kaitlin first startign using the big potty she was afraid of it and had a couple accidents when I found out what was bothering her no more accidents. Have you talked to him about it? Kaitlin was afraid she would fall in so she started sitting backwards, holding on to the lid so she felt safe.

I normally go with the flow of when they are ready but her post lead me ot beileve he knows better. However I could be wrong.


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