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i'm a little bit torn..... - what do I do??


uwishucudfly wrote: So, my husband and I took the kids to the mall yesterday, and at the mall they have those stands for ear piercing. My husband and Devin were sitting on a bench very close to the ear piercing stand while I was in the store with Brandon. Anyway, as my husband tells it, some kid about 16 years old came up and wanted his ear pierced. His mother was there and so the store said yes. As Devin is watching him get his ear pierced, he starts asking my husband how boys can get their ears pierced. Devin thinks that only girls can get their ears pierced. Well, DH points out the fact that he has his ear pierced and that it isn't only for girls, but boys can do it too! THANKS! Because now, Devin wants to be just like his father and get his ear pierced!! The worst part is that my husband thinks this is a good idea!

I pointed out the fact that it would hurt him, and my husband said that he didn't think Devin would cry (which is probably right, he almost never cries, in fact I think he might be scared of crying or something).....I think that it would look cool, but I am not sure. I just don't want people to think I am a horrible mother, like a child abuser or something. I guess I would be OK with it, but I don't want people to think I have no morals and stuff.....I know that isn't what I should be worried about, but I can't help it!

stanleygirl replied: I don't see a problem with piercings, if you are comfortable and he is comfortable, then I say go for it, if not maybe you could give him a time frame you would be comfortable with.

BUT

Please reconsider a place in the mall, I used to work in a store, and I went through the training to do piercings. It really wasn't much training at all. I got to pierce a friends ears three times and voila! I could pierce kids ears. I would not take anyone in my family to a place like that.
I would personally suggest going to a place that specializes in body piercing. They can then do it properly, and you can see that they are licensed and clean.
I know where I am there are tons of places like these, but if you can't find one, you can call tatoo parlors, as they normally employ a body piercer as well.
JMO Good luck!!

TeagansMom609 replied: I wouldn't get it done. But thats just me. I see alot of girls my daughters age with their ears pierced and I just wonder what the point of it is? I know alot of people say, "Well I was tired of people saying what a cute little boy so i pierced her ears." I just think its pointless to pierce kids ears. Especially when their young. I would let Teagan make the decision herself when shes a little bit older. Now, if I had a son I would defininitly not do it, just because he's a boy. I just don't like the whole look on guys or boys at all. Just my opinion. tongue.gif

paradisemommy replied: tongue.gif taven has a cousin who is a year older than him (3) and when he was a baby, they pierced both his ears and i'm talking like around one - i was shocked that they had it done and would never personally do it myself but to each his own - if my dh had his ear pierced then i'm sure ds would want one as well - but mine is anti-piercings and tatoos so i don't have to worry about that!! tongue.gif

A&A'smommy replied: I wouldn't do it because he is still kind of a baby and he is boy being a young boy he will probably get made fun of... I would wait until he was older and let him do it then wink.gif that is just my opinion though your his mother do whatever you think is right for him!

JessC replied: I would say.... maybe wait until hes at least a couple of years older and then he can kinda understand it a little more. thumb.gif

b&bsmom replied: My thought is to wait. My husband has his ear pierced too but I don't think he would let our two yr old do it. My experience ... my mom made me get my ears peirced when I was 4 and since I was so young the girl made the holes too low so as I get bigger the hole was too low and I had to watch what kind of earrings I wore. I would wait until he is older and can make a better decision. JMO good luck smile.gif

gr33n3y3z replied: If it were me I would wait a little longer
But its up to you and your hubby and son.
Plus why should care what ppl. think wink.gif

uwishucudfly replied: Thank you so much for the advice.....I think that I am more comfortable waiting a little while before I let him get one. I want to make sure this isn't just a phase and that he will be happy with this. Plus...he isn't even three yet!! DH and DS will just have to wait!

ferocity302 replied: I waited until my DD was 9. She wanted to have them pierced and then when we went to get them done she decided not. She waited another year to do it.

If it were my son, it would be no different.

Mommy2BAK replied: This is your 2 year old right?

Well I say that he is your child and it is your decision since he is too young to make that decision on his own. If it was me, I wouldn't do it.

Josie83 replied: I would say that you don't have to worry about what other people think, worry about what YOU think! If you think its okay for him to get it done, then get it done. But if you think its a mistake, then go with your gut feeling and wait. Its realy none else's business whether or not you pierce your son's ear, and if anyone looks down on you for it their opinion probably doesn't matter anyway! JMO xx

kel replied: i think irrespective of sex i wouldnt get it done ..i cringe when i see 6 month old baby's with their ears pierced..its my opinion, that a young child is too immature to make such decisions for themselves and even more so with very young babies..what right do we have to pierce their ears?..
i think when they are much older children can understand exactly what they are doing..i was 10 when i was allowed to have mine pierced..
thats just my opinion though..everyone is different..

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Ouch. Touchy subject. Here's my opinion:

I wouldn't get it done. Simply because a child, especially a 2 year oild child, is most likely going to rip it out once it starts itching or if it hurt. He can catch it on something etc etc..... if it would have been done as a baby, there would be less of a problem with that, because he wouldn't know any better, he wouldn't know how to get it caught on something, because it's always been there.

I'd wait until he is a little bit older. I'm waiting until my kids ask me for one. If they're able to take care of it themselves, then fine, it's their body.

Just for your info:

DH has no piercings, no tattoos.

I have 5 holes in one ear, 4 in the other, and I've had one in my tongue (which is closed now because I took it out a few years ago), one in my lebret (under the lower lip, also closed now) in my belly button (also closed now). I also have 6 tattoos (I've had one retouched, so I've had it done seven times) and I agree that it should be done in a specialized place. Those earring guns are stupid. Too easy to get the hole wrong.

uwishucudfly replied: Thanks for the advice everyone....I think we are going to wait because I'm not sure if Devin is old enough. If he still wants one in a few years, then we will get it for him, but he is so young. The truth is, he will probably forget that he wants one within a week or so. He's just not ready yet.....well, I'm not ready yet.


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