i see no one cares!!!!!

Jamie wrote: well i had put on the calender that today is my DW's EDD and no one even asks or comments to it!?!?! is it that no one cares? cuz i have seen post thing about others events they put on the calender but when it comes to mine i get nothing!!!! oh well, i guess no one cares. i mean i do really like this board and all . oh well plus i get hardly any replies to my DW's appt updates but so many views, while others get tones of replies to thier updates........but like i said already......oh well

maliksmommy replied: Jamie, I am sorry that you feel that we don't care because we do! I never look at the calendar so I didn't notice that today was the day until you just posted and saw it in your signature. I know you probably won't believe this, but I was just about to start a topic because I just read your other post and realized today was the day. How is your wife doing? We are all very excited for you guys and can't wait to see pictures of the little one. Please keep us updated, we do want to hear details!

amynicole21 replied: Jamie, I'm so sorry!! It wasn't an intentional oversight by any means!!

I wonder if there is a way that TLCDad could program it so that events happening TODAY showed up as well as events coming up in the next 14 days. Sometimes I don't know if something is happening that day, or maybe 10 days from now. I hardly ever check the calender myself! Bad, I know....

I bet your DW is positively bursting with anticipation!! Ugh, I'm so glad I didn't go to my due date! I was ready about a month before that day!! Tell her to start her jumping jacks!!

jdkjd replied: Hey Jamie! Of course we care. I know I'm terrible about checking the calendar. And I know that everyone has been checking on you and Supermom so much, I figured that you're probably getting bugged enough...

Please don't feel neglected. I know this is a rough time for most of the mommies with the start of school and everything.

How is Kimberly doing anyway? The last months are such a drag. Did you have an appointment today?

coasterqueen replied: Jamie,

I'm really new here, so I haven't gotten the hang of the board yet, and haven't been on here regularly lately. So I haven't remembered to look at the calendar or write down dates

Soon I hope to get in the swing of things.

I hope your baby comes soon I hate the anticipation wondering when the baby is going to come. They are just never ready as fast as we are.

Come out baby, come out, we want to see a picture of you and hear about your birth!!!

((HUGS)) to you and your family. Keep us posted, PLEASE!!!!

MomofTay&Sam replied: I never see the calendar either, I have the active posts page bookmarked. I really don't think anyone choose to ignore you. As for alot of views on other posts, I for one have no time to reply during the day but sneak in and read often. I come back at night and reply but can't always get to them all. Have a nice day.

mckayleesmom replied: I have to admit I don't look at the calender. I just posted stuff about Mckaylee recently. You might not get that many posts cause maybe on that day there arn't alot of people on and when they come on it gets overlooked with new posts. I know that I didn't get that many questions on the babyspotlight either, But I think I was just on a day that not many people were. I do read everything, but I admit I don't comment on everything cause mckaylee won't hardly let me put her down and she trys to type messages to everyone too.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I only found out recently that there was a calendar and can't for the life of me remember how to get to it! I'm sorry we haven't asked how your wife is doing! I am sending easy labour vibes out to her today! Please keep us informed as to when your new bundle arrives!

MommyToAshley replied:
There's a link to the calendar at the top of the board.

MommyToAshley replied: Jamie,

Some days I look at the calendar and some days I only have a few minutes to post. It just depends on how busy I am for that day. Please don't feel like we are neglecting you... I think it is just a timing issue depending on what everyone has going on. I have some posts that I have started that have 1 reply and some posts that have 30 replies. Like I said, it is a timing thing, I think. So, please don't take it personally! I know many members have inquired about you and your DW many times.

When the EDD is near or gone by, I know it can be stressful. The anticipation is the worst part, I think. How is Kimberly doing? Is she having contractions?

CantWait replied: if you ask me that's a really selfish post Jamie, there have been plenty of times where I have asked you something in a post and have gotten no response... I'm not going to sit here and grip about it, instead I move on. From everything that I've seen on the board, people are constantly asking about you and you DW. Not only that you've been updating us almost daily recently......
That's my piece said, everyone else seems to have been pretty nice about this but I'd rather speak what I'm thinking and give you the cold hard truth...sorry you're not having such a great day.

dolfinrse replied:

My thoughts exactly!

mckayleesmom replied: I have to admit that I agree with cantwait and dolfinsrse. Im sure nobody means to hurt your feelings. But its kind of rude to demand that people pay attention to your messages. You can see that people read it but didn't reply,,,maybe they just couldn't. You have to take in consideration that not everyone can reply right away,,,alot of us are taking care of babys when they are on her..I know Mckaylee is usually on my lap and its hard to type with her on my lap cause she thinks she is the typing queen. And some people are aslo at work and are busy working. I wouldn't take it personally. We all love hearing about everybody and their events and updates, but we can't reply on demand.

+Zemirah+ replied: Frankly I'm really surprised to see you posting this Jamie. I posted this

http://forums.parentingclub.com/index.php?...t=ST&f=9&t=3177

just yesterday, well aware that your DW's due date is today. So far I have not seen you post and receive fewer than 5 responses and many many threads have been started directly asking you how things are and what's up with you, names you may choose, etc. I for one didn't read your post until just now... goodness, not like I have six children here and a DH who is working roughly 85-90 hours per week right now. I for one have a terrible time looking at the calendar, as I pop in and out most of the time (I haven't a lot of time to be online right now). I had intended to come in here and make a comment about today being the date (guess it wasn't good enough to comment last night now that I see your post) -- but honestly I am not big on due dates at ALL because they are so approximate and it can be discouraging to new parents (and even old-timers/experienced folk) to see the day come and go without a baby. So commenting on it isn't always what people want to see. I think this post of yours is quite rude and I am going to chalk it up to late-pregnancy stress, and hope that's what it really is.

TLCDad replied: Hi Jamie,
I'm sure this post was due to being under alot of stress... I know the feeling... but in no way was anyone intentially ignoring your DW EDD. I saw posts asking how things are actually.

Some people probably think I ignor them, which I am not meaning to because I do not post alot.. Sometimes just too busy taking care of the business, the server etc.

So, how are things. I know what your going through and I understand the anxiousness and stress. Please reply and let us know how you and your wife are doing. I know your going through alot of emotions right now... and it might be easier to just write about them.

kimberley replied: i think we should all take it easy here. sorry, but i feel the need to put in my two cents worth in my DH's defence.

this has been a long and very difficult pg for both of us. i was happy he finally found this nice board where he can get support from at least one other guy and the ladies of the board.

he is 25 yrs old and this is his first experience with pg and was a little hurt that no one really acknowledged "the big day". i was too. this is the biggest thing in our lives right now and i have been no help to him emotionally with all the illnesses i have suffered in the last month, so he enjoys the nice posts he gets here a lot. maybe the way things were said was not the appropriate way to do it, but if he were the pg mom venting, wouldn't you have been a little more understanding and not so quick to call names?!

i thought these boards were a place to vent, share and support each other whether good or bad. and understand we all have our "moments", i know i do and have never gotten such a harsh response from the boards i am a part of.

sorry this got so long, but i just couldn't read these posts without saying something.

kimberley

TLCDad replied: Hi Kimberly! Welcome to Parenting Club. How are you feeling? Looking forward to updates and pictures.


Also to everyone, just to clarify something: Just because a message says it has 100 views for example does not mean it was viewed by 100 people. The board will store each page refresh, etc as a view so everytime the message is sent to someone even if they read it already it counts as a view. When you read a message and reply the view count will increase by at least 3. I wish there was a way to be more accurate at this but then it would be a heavy load keeping track of so many people, etc... the board would slow to a crawl. It works out ok as it is. hehe I've seen posts made by me show a view count kinda high but it was just me refreshing it and making edits (fixing my typos mainly). hehehe

mckayleesmom replied: I don't think that anybody is trying to cause any problems. We all love Jaimie and are just as exited for him and you. But nobody meant to overlook his post. I think what happened was he often posts updates about you and the baby and everyone thought it was a previous post. Not intentionally done. Also alot of us are taking care of babies right now so we only get certain times of the day to post, and alot don't post everyday. I know personally I didn't even know the calender existed until a week ago or so. I think it was more the way he said it then anything. We know he is really exited about the baby and we are exited for him. And like somebody else mentioned earlier, some people might not have posted anything cause they know how annoying it can sometimes be when someone one keeps asking you if the baby is here yet. So maybe it was just a misunderstanding. Next time he should just remind us instead of posting the way he did. I think thats why it set off some steam. If you make a harsh statement, you are going to get harsh reactions.

+Zemirah+ replied: ?? I'm sorry. Who called names? ( I must have missed it...) At any rate, I for one wasn't emotional when I wrote my post, so I can't say I need to calm down ... I didn't read anyone else to be emotional in posting either except Jamie, but as I said I think it must be due to stress as it isn't the "normal" tone of his posts, iykwim. I think had he waited and not posted by noon pacific time he might have seen some posts but even not so, I think it is unfair to characterize us as being uncaring when the folks here have many times shown tremendous care and interest for Jamie and you and your pregnancy Kimberley -- and we try to with all of our fellow moms and dads. Personally -- I posted my note to Jamie yesterday while waiting to hear from my dear friend who is miscarrying her second baby, and that is a very personally charged issue for me at this time. I wouldn't have stepped back from that overwhelming situation and posted to the "due" folks if I didn't care. Which I do.

with love,

kit_kats_mom replied: sorry Jamie.

I don't get to type much since when I'm at my computer, i usually have a nursing, wiggly baby in my lap. I can work the mouse and read the posts but I generally can't type. When I do have time to post, I try to answer the posts where I can put in my 2 cents rather than just repeat what everyone else has said. I wish all the babies happy birthdays and I think all the pictures are adorable, even though I don't always post responses. I also have never looked at the calendar, mainly because someone else usually does and starts a thread...I'm lazy that way but I certianly don't mean to offend .

I can't wait to hear your childs birth story however and I hope you choose to stick around.

supermom replied:
OK, time for my :twocents: and I have waited for the whole day before responding to this post. First of all, I have to agree with some others here. The oversite was definately not intentional and it wasn't meant to hurt you or put you off in any way, shape or form. It has been a busy monday for us, and as usual Mondays are not the best day for me to post at work, so sometimes all I can do is read and not answer or just answer a few posts where I can answer with some help.

There are times that it takes days to get a response from a post made asking a question for help, even in the other topic I moderate. For example, Can't Wait asked a question about Fennel and it was almost the next day before ANYONE even replied to it. That didn't mean she went off in a huff about it, she waited patiently and then we did eventually answer. We do have other lives, and we've got things that keep us busy. Sorry, but sometimes R/L takes priority.

And as far as calling names, I didn't see once where we called Jaime any name what-so-ever. And as far as him venting, I really don't have a problem when someone vents TO us, but when someone vents ABOUT us, well, then, that's something totally and completely different. And it isn't the first time that he's chosen to take that attitude. I am really sorry that you feel that "most" of us don't care, because we really, really do. But it does make it difficult to respond when the first thing that happens is that we get slammed before the day is even out, and we're not even given a chance.

I've really enjoyed "keeping tabs" on each and every one of you, to see both how your PG and also your children have grown and progressed. I also would hate to have someone leave because of bad feelings. But also, I don't appreciate being slammed for something that really is beyond my control, and just told off because someone feels slighted when there are no real grounds for it.

I really do hope that you chose to stay Jaime, we would love to hear your birth story, see your little one grow up and learn more about you and your DW. And, if you are just having a bad day, then here are some major <<<<hugs>>>>, we're all entitled. But please, don't make it a personal attack, just vent because you are feeling down without trying to place blame on the people here. Thanks!!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: This is why I left the September2002Playgroup on ParentsPlace! I would really hope that this is not going to start here! It ruined a lot of friendships and we had a lot of hurt feelings! I was the victom of a personal attack on that board! I would really hate to see this start happening here!

MommyToAshley replied: Jamie has apologized in another thread... a lot is going on with him.

We've all "kissed and made up" so I am closing this thread so that it doesn't get out of hand.