You know I'm just so tired

coasterqueen wrote: of doctors! Most of you know about Megan's sucking tongue issue and how we are seeing a gastro specialist/feeding team for it. WELL I saw them last Monday and they told me all kinds of stuff I didn't really like at the appointment and mentioned they would send me a letter with instructional tips in it as well as to new tools I can use to help her problem. The letter came Friday and there was a LOT more in it than they said in the meeting. It stated they are more concerned about her weight than they said in the meeting, blamed BF (BIG TIME) for the issues, want me to change the type of bottle she uses which I'm actually trying to wean her off and a bunch of other crap. I was so mad I was in tears just reading it.

So I decided that I was going to call my PED and demand for her to be seen, address the letter I got from the gastro specialist/feeding team and I want answers NOW! So we go to the PED Friday morning and hopefully we'll get some answers and I'm also going to suggest a new feeding team/gastro specialist. Wish us luck! We could finally use some answers that make sense and stops making me feel like I'm not being a good mom. I'm so tired of docs making me feel like I'm not doing everything I can to keep weight on Megan.

You know the funny thing is if you look at a picture of Megan she looks pleasantly plump but if you see her in person she is tiny.

gr33n3y3z replied: Dont feel bad your a good mom
Dr's have a way of making ppl. feel that way just ignore them and if you dont like them find another. But make sure the issues are taken care of

kayla's mama replied: You are not a bad mom
Hope the visit on Friday goes good and that you get the answers you are looking for.

moped replied: Ah Karen, I am sure you are sick of this, but see what the ped says Friday and please let us know!!!!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Hope Friday goes well and you get the answers you deserve. You're a good mom in so many ways, but seeking a second opinion is definitely one of them! Hang in there.

amynicole21 replied: That's insane. I hope you can get some answers at the Ped on Friday.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: That's ridiculous. I hope you get some answers on Friday. Ethan is small, too. Don't get me started on my soapbox.

You are doing nothing wrong. YOu are a great mom.

kit_kats_mom replied: Karen, remember way back when K was a little over a year old and we were going through all of that testing and stuff? My ped contacted one of the leading breastfeeding people in the nation and she advised that nursing was best. I probably made a post about it back then if you want to look for it. One thing that you may want to ask the ped, find out if you can borrow an infant scale for a week. Weigh Megan before and after each feeding and note how much she ate. I found out that I really had dropped in production so I made a concentrated effort to boost my supply. Good luck and don't take thier bs.
I'm also trying to find the email that Dr.Greene sent me regarding this. I'll pm you if I find it.

CantWait replied: What a bunch of know it nots. That baby girl is healthier then a horse and you're doing the absolute best which is awesome. Don't listen to them and stick to your guns about finding someone else. Good luck on Friday.

b&bsmom replied: Go with your gut!! You are not a bad mom and if you don't like the docs answers or explantions go get another opionion. It does suck because we waste so much time with the run around here there and everywhere. Good luck on friday and will keep you in our thoughts and prayers!!

redchief replied: Sorry you're having such a tough time Karen. You are NOT a bad mother. Keep at it until you're satisfied with the care and communication you're getting from the professionals. I think docs and other medical people sometimes forget that they aren't just dealing with patients... They're also dealing with customers. If you're not a happy customer, find a doctor that you can connect with. Good luck!

coasterqueen replied: Thank you everyone. I really feel in my gut that I need to get some answers and I hope I do on Friday. I emailed DH yesterday that I'm not leaving til the doc makes me happy with some answers. He replied "ooooh we are going to be there a very very long time". Probably right!

Kaitlin'smom replied: thats right Karen you take what ever time you need with that Doctor. Your a WONDERFUL mom, dont let them blow smoke at you. I agree if your not happy find another opinion.

let us know what they say

My2Beauties replied: You are a wonderful mother and doing the best for your children! I would get a second opinion as well. You know some kids are just smaller, I mean that's just the way life is, hence the reasons we have averages, there are those below the average weight and under it, I mean some people are just small! I don't know why they're so concerned with her weight. She looks fine to me.

A&A'smommy replied: ohh goodness I can't believe how some doctors and can SOOOO GRRRRR. Your a wonderful mother, Karen and I agree maybe get a second opinion!!!

3_call_me_mama replied: HUGS and hang in there. You're doing what is best for her and some kids are just smaller than others. Hope you get the answers you need Friday and they listen to you cause you know her best!!