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You guys, I need help. - I am an idiot.

Insanemomof3 wrote: As you guys know, I have left James many times in the last 4 years. (since my sister died from drugs). Since then we have tried several different times to make it work. We could not do it. Recently, we gave it another go but I knew it would not work...we have too many differences, always have and they don't work together in a relationship.

The last time him and I split, I met someone and moved to North Dakota to start over and make a new life. I was so happy. I was working on being my own person, a better person and the man I was dating treated me like a queen (something I have NEVER had.) But I hurt him. I left him in a way that was horrible.

He gave me a second chance...And after 3 days I am already screwing it up. I have been told in the past that I am bipolar. I don't know if I am or not, all I know is everytime I turn around I am hurting someone, and myself in the process. I can't take it anymore. Lately, I have even wanted to end myself. I am so scared with everything that I do. I am sorry to go on and on. I just need help. And advice. And you guys have always been there no matter what. I don't know what to do.

cameragirl21 replied: omg, Denise, please don't speak of ending anything, you have so much to live for. if you think you may be bipolar, please consider seeing a therapist. idk what to say, how do you mean you are already screwing it up?
why do you think you may be bipolar?
lots of hug.gif to you, please take care.

luvmykids replied: Oh Denise hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

Please give yourself and your kids every chance in the book....find someone to talk to, whether it's a hotline or a pastor or whatever. Understand that whether or not you have a mental disorder, there is help, and there is nothing wrong with needing it.

gr33n3y3z replied: sweetie you have been treated like crap for how many years??
Its not you hon its what he molded you into and you can change it right now your so scared and your defence is to make ppl. suffer so you dont hurt any more very common feeling.
Please hun go talk to someone go to your Dr or someone who you trust
Please keep us posted
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luvbug00 replied: hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: hug.gif Please take care of yourself and the kids. hug.gif There is help out there. Like Monica said, talk with someone from church, or your doctor, anyone. hug.gif

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Denise, sometimes people are co-dependant towards the "bad" in their lives. Your coping mechanism seems to be "hurt them before they hurt me"... and maybe I'm wrong, but that's not an easy thing to surpass. If you think you may have some bipolar issues, have you discussed it with this guy? Maybe you should call a hotline, they're more trained to help than we are. But we can give you all the hugs you want. hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

We're here for you. hug.gif

MommyToAshley replied: Denise, first of all.... hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

You may think you that you always hurt people and others, but you should give yourself credit for the huge step you just took. You just admitted that you need help and you want to change things in your life.... that is a big step and one that a lot of people can't bring themselves to make. That takes a lot of courage. Of course we will always be here for you ... we'll always be your moral support. But, I hope you also follow through and talk to someone that is in a position to help... a pastor and/or a crisis line would both be a good place to start. Please make the call... you can do it and you are much stronger than you give yourself credit for.

Please promise let us know how you are doing, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. hug.gif

redchief replied: hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif First.

Plenty more hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

At the risk of being repetitive, your first step has been taken. You've recognized that you don't want to be who you are right now, but Rocky and Lisa are right. Sometimes the pains from the past kicks in such defense mechanisms to prevent further injury to yourself. For these issues I'm certain that you should talk to someone who can help you find the balance that you already recognize is missing. We'll always be here for you, and will help however we can, hug.gif hug.gif

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I don't have any advice, but I certainly with pray for you. hug.gif God can do amazing things in a person's life. hug.gif

A&A'smommy replied: hug.gif hug.gif I don't have any advice either but I think the others gave some great advice!!! hug.gif hug.gif

Insanemomof3 replied: Thanks everyone for the advice and hug.gif 's You guys are wonderful people. I just started working, that is helping me a bit...I don't feel so worthless right now. I am going to find someone to talk to soon.

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm glad
many hug.gif and were always here for you

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I hope you find someone soon. In the mean time, we're here for you. Sorry I haven't responded sooner. You pretty much got good advice, so I won't prattle on repeating what's already been said. KUP and congrats on finding a job. What are you doing?

Mommy2BAK replied: hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

We ALL need a little bit of help or direction or even just a shouler to lean on from time to time. All of us here at PC are here for you anytime to need us! You are a greta person and wonderful mommy! I hope you will find the help you may need very soon! Please update us soon!

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