Yesterday.... - he hurt my feelings

MomToMany wrote: Shane came home from work early so he could do some work outside that HAS to get done NOW. He comes in the house and says the throttle linkage(?) is broken on the plow truck (that's used to plow the snow). He needed my help to try to get it to shift so it could be moved. Well, that didn't go well. He was getting real mad at the truck at that point. I ended up having to pull the plow truck with his truck up to the garage. He started yelling at me that I wasn't doing it right, which really hurt my feelings. The first time he's ever yelled at me! I tried not to start crying. Meanwhile the kids were strapped into their carsets in the van, because he originally thought we could just follow him to town to the gas station/repair shop. That didn't work, so the kids just stayed in the van. Once we were done towing it to the garage, I go check on the kids to make sure they weren't screaming their heads off or something. They were fine; I just needed a distraction so I wouldn't start crying.

So, Shane tells me to pull him around the driveway and to go up alongside of the garage. I do that, and he says I might as well take the kids inside since the truck wasn't going to go anywhere by itself. Fine by me! I lose it in the house, and just start bawling. He keeps tinkering with the truck. Then he comes in the house and asks me to tow him into town to the service station (2 1/2 miles away) when the boys get home so they can watch the other kids. I'm like NO...I don't want to do that since I can't even do it right in the driveway. He said that it would cost $60 to have the tow truck do it, and I said Get the tow truck, I'm NOT doing it. He storms out of the house, slamming the door behind him. The boys come home, and he comes in the house and asks me again to tow him to town. I was still crying from before. He was calmed down a bit and wanted to know why I was crying. I said I don't appreciate getting yelled at. He said he was sorry, and was just mad at the truck. He said he wouldn't yell anymore. So I towed him into town. I was nervous doing that, but it went all right.

He apologized more on the drive home. I knew he didn't mean to yell at me, but it still hurt my feelings a LOT.

Everything's OK now .

mammag replied: Chris does that when we are working on the cars together. He does it less now because I started calling him on it. Even though you know they are more frustrated with whatever they are working on it still hurts your feelings to be yelled at like you're an idiot.

I'm glad things are okay now.

coasterqueen replied: Mollie. Sometimes when we get frustrated we take it out on the ones we love. Sorry he did that but glad he apologized to you and everything is fine now.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Oh I have been there..I have kinda learned to just not say much to Randy when these things happens. At my house it seems to be when a horse or cow gets out, that really gets him to going...

But on the other side of that is that I do blow up about stuff too. He knows that when I am cooking supper, leave me be in my kitchen and keep the kids busy, or the answer you get will be short and you won't like them.

I am sorry he hurt your feelings so, he was just upset and couldn't handle his own feelings at the time!

kimberley replied: sorry that happened . it is so true that we hurt those closest to us the most without realizing it half the time. i am glad he apologized and you got some snuggle time .

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Mollie that is SO frustrating!! I've been there. Especially when Scotty works a lot and is very tired. I'm glad things are better.

A&A'smommy replied: awwwww sweetie I know how that feels I'm REALLY sensitive especially after having Alyssa, I hate being yelled at!! (((((HUGS)))) I'm glad everything is okay now!

Kila replied: I'm sorry you had to deal with that. He probably was really stress out though. I know that's no excuse, though. At least you called him on it and hopefully think before he spreaks next time. I'm glad everything worked out.

Josie83 replied: I'm so sorry that he hurt your feelings, Mollie. I hate to hthink of you crying . . . sending you a big hug! xx

MomToMany replied: Sorry for the whining ladies. I don't know why I made such a big deal out of it. I guess I was a bit more stressed out, which didn't help. I didn't mean to sound like such a baby.

A&A'smommy replied:
awww I don't think you sounded like a baby sometimes we just need to vent that is what we are here for!

mt_joy replied: I'm sorry you had to go through that. Sometimes people lose their tempers. Just because it's normal does not mean that we feel any better about it. At least he was apologetic; a lot of guys aren't. Take care!

loveydad replied: It's a guy thing. I get so frustrated (though I haven't really at Tavia so far) and I just take it out on whoevers around. Sometimes that happens to be a dog or cat or a bird flying in the bleepin' sky, but I feel better if I SCREAM at something. I just can't yell at my kids or my wife yet. But i'm sure someday I will. LOL