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What would you do? - Penpal

my2monkeyboys wrote: On a homeschool forum I am a member of there was a post from a mom wanting to set up a pen pal for her son. Since he is the same age as my son I posted back that we were interested. Shortly after I hit the reply button I noticed she only has 2 posts total. So I look at her other post, which was the typical "I'm new here" post. I read it and saw where she has her oldest son (the 7-yr-old) and then 2 others. This morning I get a PM from her telling me a bit about her son and she goes on the say that she has 3 others at home, too.
So now I'm on the fence about whether she is a legitimate person who just wants a pen pal for her son, or possibly something not quite right. I'm nervous about giving her our mailing address, but I'm not sure how to respond to her now. I can't just ignore her - that would be too rude.
Any advice?? TIA!

amymom replied: You are right to be hesitant. But could it be a typo, or is it clearly one place two and the other three. Sometimes my mom would say--He is mine and I have 6 others when in reality she had 6 total. You know how that goes.

I would stall her, maybe, we are going out of town, kid has alot of work to do, We are looking at getting a po box, make something up if you have to to give her some time to be on the board some more. But then again, I might just tell her the whole truth, I didn't realize you were new to the board, I only usually respond to people who have some history. Let's get to know each other and then we can go from there. Call me cautious but heck it is my kids safety.

Good Luck.

cameragirl21 replied: Is it possible for the two boys to be penpals via email, so that you wouldn't have to give out any personal info?
I'd be hesitant too, not so much because of the 2 kids vs. 3 because like Anne Marie said, it could be a typo or maybe she has a newborn or whatever but rather, she's new to the board and you don't know who she is. I personally would be cautious, especially with two small kids at home.

DVFlyer replied: Lots of other choices for pen-pals, I'm sure. If you don't feel comfortable, move on.

my2monkeyboys replied: OK, so I'm not over-reacting by feeling a little off about this, then? I think it could have been a typo in one way, like maybe she just hit 3 when she really meant 2 others. In her intro though she typed the ages of the other 2 so I think she prob only has 3 total, not 4.
I think I may just offer the email idea for a while, just until I can see if she's a "real" parent or not.
Thanks for not making me feel foolish... blush.gif

msoulz replied:
I completely agree. I would rather be known as rude than the parent who should have known better.

MommyToAshley replied: Go with your gut, if something doesn't feel right then there's probably something not right. I wouldn't give out your information. I'd just tell her that things have come up and your son just doesn't have time to be a penpal right now. Sorry for the inconvenience and I hope that he is able to find a penpal.

Then, leave it at that. It's better to offend a perfect stranger than to put your family at risk.

youngmomofone replied: definitely would do the email or nothing at least for now.

my2monkeyboys replied: Well I kind of explained the "I don't know you, you don't know me" thing and offered to let them correspond via the PM function on that site, that way NO personal info is given that isn't already available. I haven't heard back from her yet, though. Thanks for supporting my paranoia... it's nice to know I'm not the only one who doesn't think everyone is an angel from Heaven.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
I think you did the right thing. Giving my address out to people who have been on the board for a long time makes me nervous. tongue.gif The thing with the number of kids could totally just be a typo, but then on the other hand it may not and it's just better to be safe. hug.gif

CantWait replied: Isn't there a 7 year old here that would like to be Pen Pals.

Kimberley's and my son did it for a short time, I know Robbie wasn't very good at actually doing the writting, but you never know.

I also like the idea of an email pal.

You have ever right to be hesitant though. I never trust anyone who's post count is so low, even though as a lot of us have learned that is no indication.

I hope you find someone for your little one.

kimberley replied:
lol i think they sent 2 letters. they are much better on facebook tongue.gif

i think u did the right thing. can never be too careful with our kids. thumb.gif

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