What is attachment parenting?

mckayleesmom wrote: Anyone know...I have never heard of this term.

kimberley replied: most of us are AP'ers without knowing the title

it is babywearing, co-sleeping, extended nursing, NO CIO.... basically being "attached" to baby by being intune from birth and meeting babies needs.

this can describe it better than i can

mckayleesmom replied: thanks Kimberly

kimberley replied: yw

Kaitlin'smom replied: hummm never read that before, guess I never realised I was AP

thanks Kimberley

mom2tripp replied: WOW---it's a little deeper than that check this out

attachment parenting

luvbug00 replied: mild AP here and proud of it!! Nothing wrong with a little exra love is there?

mom2tripp replied: Nothing wrong with a LITTLE extra love IMO

moped replied: Ummmmmmm interesting topic this afternoon. I am not sure that I AP, perhaps a little, but with mom2tripp's website I would have to say that I don't do a lot of what it says............of course I give him a ton of love and love him more than anything but there are a few points on there that I don't agree with for me as a parent.

So does it mean we are attached to the child, or the child is attached to us?????

mom21kid2dogs replied:
Ge Di, I had you pegged from the beginning!!
(I consider it a very good thing )

Mommy2BAK replied: very intresting articles. I guess I am practicing AP here, LOL!

mom21kid2dogs replied:
The link in Kimberly's post is AP as defined by the persons who hallmarked it (Sears) the link in mom2tripp's is not (by the authors own acknowlegement). Interestingly (and like all other parenting "types") people develop their own spin on it and call it by the same name.

JMO, I have always been uncomfortable with the term "attachment parenting" not because of what it stands for but because it implies that everyone else must be "unattached" or not parenting to fully attach to their child. That simply is not true. Attachment parenting is simply one way to raise a child in a world with a myriad of choices. My sister worships Ezzo and she is a great mother with wonderful, well attached children. I am a great mom, too, with a wonderful attached child. We are making the same journey but just taking different routes!

Kaitlin'smom replied:
thanks

Not to start anything but I so hate the term your gonna spoil the baby, I never understood that, for me I was working on learning about her and learing what cues she really needed me.

mom2tripp replied:
I so agree with you---I think we are all attached in our own little ways

moped replied:
Good post - I agree!!!!!!

moped replied:
I don't like the term "spoil" either.............I think people mean that they will depend on you for everything...............independance thing maybe?

My2Beauties replied: I never really read much into this, I definitely do not agree with a lot of these techniques. Stuff like this makes me mad to read because I am one of those parents who doesn't really have a chance to stay at home with my kids and this article makes it sound like I'm a bad parent for not being able to stay home with my daughter! I don't have the option to do any different, or else we wouldn't have a roof over our heads!

I do agree with some, but I chose to breatfed but stopped when I went back to work - they make it sound like I'm awful for this. I don't agree in CIO, but I don't want to co-sleep neither, makes for a bad *ah-hem* you know what life between you and hubby in my opinion. We have a small house so we wouldn't have the option of going too many places. Not going into that that is for the P&I, but I just don't like reading about it. I think it's great for those who can do all those things, to each their own, more power to ya, etc...but I think these articles could really make some people pretty PO'd

moped replied: Very well said Lea-Ann

Jamison'smama replied: AP here--we follow Dr. Sears' version--but not strictly. We co-sleep and it hasn't had a negative impact on our "relationship" but I'm sure it can. The term attachment can make it sound like non practicing AP'ers are not attached but I always read it as --more attached to your body--baby wearing, co-sleeping, breastfeeding.

Dr. Sears talks extensively about how working moms can practice attachment parenting so it is not just for SAHMs.

We all love our kids--we just all find what works for our families--this is just what came naturally for us.

A&A'smommy replied: There are SO many different types of parenting we are sorta AP but I agree with LeaAnn and Jenhopkins its not for everyone and just because you don't doesn't make you a bad parent!!