What do your dh's do - for guy time

b&bsmom wrote: My dh I have just figured out really does not have any friends. He does nothing outside of work or bowling. I feel bad because I have set up my girls night plus I have bowling and I have playgroup. He has no one to vent to or talk to but me and that doesn't work very well if I happen to be the problem ( but that is never the case lol) anyway I am wondering what your guys do for guy time. I am trying to set up things with other couples just to get him something but I was just curious about other dh's.

booey2 replied: Sounds like my dh however he doesn't even bowl or have anyother interest right now. He does talk to his co-workers and goes out once a week for a focus group with a few of them to just shoot the breeze and vent about life including their jobs. I have tried getting him into other stuff but haven't been successful. He is waiting for Matthew to get interested in hockey and then he hopes to help coach and get to meet other parents.

Terri

coasterqueen replied: My Dh has started back to going to "movie night" at his friends house. He doesn't leave until after dinner is done and cleaned up, so that's a big help to me. He gets home after I've gone to bed most weeks. He does this every Wednesday.

I wish Dh would get back into bowling. We used to bowl on a league before having kids and we'd both LOVE to go back to doing it, maybe when the kids are older.

Dh also has his basement where he goes after the girls are in bed and watches all his scif fi movies he loves. I don't bother him while he's down there, so if the girls wake up I take care of him - that's pretty good "me" time for him if I do say so myself.

luvbug00 replied: Brad and I have become very eachother dependant. We like to just hang together and so He talks to me and if he wants some alone time he spends it on his 360 with tigger woods.

A&A'smommy replied: he and his friends play dungeouns and dragons (its nothing LIKE what they made it to be on tv) the only bad thing is there is a girl (one of the guys wives) that plays and none of the guys like her.. her husband barely likes her

kit_kats_mom replied: Mine does fantasy football during football season & he watches the games with his friends. Other than that, computer games mainly

luvmykids replied: Golf. Him and his golf buddies and all the wives and kids are stuck together so much we're basically one big cult family.

mommymonster replied: Mine is real big into working on his cars, so he plays out in garage all day and night working on projects, when his friends notice he has not been 'around' in days, they just come by and find him in what I call his "man-cave" (the garage) and they hang out in there.

kayla's mama replied: DH doesn't really have many friends and he doesn't associate with his co-workers. When baseball season comes around he does fantasy baseball league stuff. He will play golf, his second fave thing to do!!!!

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b&bsmom replied: My dh likes to golf to but hardly ever goes because he doesn't like going by himself. It is nice to know he is not all alone I guess. I just feel guilty I guess sometimes.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: We have the exact same problem at home and we actually had a major talk about it about a week ago! My DH doesn't have any friends either outside of work and doesn't even do anything with those he DOES work with. I have several friends, mom's club, playgroup, hot mama's club, etc. So I typically have a lot of things planned, which doesn't bother DH, but I can tell he wants more to do on the weekends besides chores. He works really hard during the week, but he doesn't "plan" anything during the weekends or his time off. His excuse was that he feels obligated to spend time with us, since he works so much...which is sweet, but at the same time, I'm not telling him he HAS to spend the whole weekend with us. I would be happy if he planned a night out with the guys or a golf day, but he never does. So I'm at a total loss as well. It's such a touchy subject because he doesn't want me to make friends for him, but at the same time, I don't want to hear him complain if he isn't going to make the effort, kwim? I guess the best thing to do is introduce our DHs to our friend's husbands and leave the ball in their court. I've tried this and it hasn't worked, but I suppose I just have to keep trying. I also gave him golf lessons for his birthday, so that will help some. And I just try and not ask him to do too much around the house on the weekends so that maybe he'll get motivated to go do something just for himself.

Sorry I'm not help, but I'm with ya on this one all the way! It's tough...

moped replied: Golf Golf Golf!

luvmykids replied:
I'm with ya sista, DH is in Vegas for a tournament as we speak ...

CosmetologyMommy replied: Goes to the bar with friends or gets pierced or tattooed!

My2Beauties replied: Ugh as I've said over and over again and it bugs me, he wants to go to bars with his buddies, did I mention they're all single I only wish he would play football or something instead, but he only does it once a month or so.

Cece00 replied: At home DH will play video/computer games, or read or surf the internet.

On weekends he will go to his brother's house, hang out with friends, watch football, video games with them. Sometimes I go but sometimes not. Depends on if I feel like going, he loves for me to go & sometimes the other girlfriends/wives go so I go. For example, tonight we're all going to a parade (its Mardi Gras time )

We dont really do independent things of each other during the week. Occasionally I will give the OK for him to do that & vice versa but its very rare b/c we both think the spouses should be home @ night. There's dinner, cleanup, kids in bed, plus we want to spend time together. We dont think the other should be out late @ night, if we do go somewhere we're usually back around 10-11.

Dh NEVER goes with the guys to bars, etc. I dont care about him hanging out with friends @ their houses but it would be a serious problem if he was going out to bars with single guys, just like me going out with single girls would be a problem. We do that type of stuff together, its a mutual respect thing.

salmndr007 replied: Well, I guess I qualify as a DH, and I can tell you that I don't really have any friends outside of my office, and those that I do associate with in the office, I never meet up with outside the office. My "guy" time is spent at work on the boards. I can vent about things here and all of you listen (or at least pretend to listen to my rants and raves ) I appreciate having others to talk with and also helping others out with the problems they are having.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Chris goes out with his friends on ocassion. They are usually single and can go out almost every weekend, and even more during the week. But our of respect for us, he does not go out every weekend. Maybe twice a month, sometimes once a month. I would prefer for him to go out more, but he chooses not to.

It is the usual club thing on the beach (a co-worker plays in a band there) or hanging out at friends for major sport events nights. If his hours were different for work he would get back into bowling, but they are not, so he cannot right now.

Mom2Boyz replied: Dh spend alot of time in the garage working on his motor cycle or his truck. He also spends alot of time with his best friend. Most of the time they spend together is spent in either our garage or his though

redchief replied: FYI!!!
When we're out with our friends... be it bowling, the firehouse, a bar, or wherever; I'm sorry to say that we don't talk about our wives. We just don't.

Crystalina replied: My DH likes to hunt. We've been married 14 years and when we got married I said the hunting had to stop because I'm not a fan of guns and killing animals. Well, I let my guard up last year and now he wants to hunt all the time. That can be a problem when he drives a truck and is gone for days at a time. Rabbit season is over on the 28 (Tues) and I get my life back!

Makenzi'sMom replied: My STBX did nothing, he worked 24 FD shifts and now does nothing as I know of. He never did guy things and when I wanted to do girl things, he was always giving me crap about it.

My new Friend, is in the Military and is amazing and we spend time with his friends and their kids, we do alot of kid activities.

camneely8 replied: Golf, TV, movies, motorbikes, housework, chores, shopping, friends, internet chatting, home projects...does all of that count ?

My3LilMonkeys replied: He has a weekly poker night. Also he likes to play video games with his nephews. And he spends a lot of his "me" time catching up on TV because he's at work during the primetime shows.

3_call_me_mama replied: Computer games and watches Sci Fi mostly Stargate. Friday nights are his time form 8-10 to watch it kid free or we DVR if we are out.
Other than that he plays computer games. He isn't a social person AT ALL! Seriously. He has co workers that he is friendly with and we see ocasionally. But he's not one to go seek out guy things to do. He watches no sports (ocasional nascar with hsi dad liek 1-2 times a year) , he's played golf once. He was in a wedding adn ALL the guys were big into golf so they played teh night before the wedding (they got married at a country club ~ would've been on teh green if teh groom had his say!!) and that's the only tiem he ever played.
We don't tend to do guys nights or girls nights. We go to mutual friends houses that have kids adn that's about it. Oh and he's not a drinker and hasn't been in a bar since we got married and we went out the night before with our whoel wedding party.

Brias3 replied: My husband is big into golf and light gambling...by this I mean poker mainly (and not to the point of bad habit!). He also enjoys cars as well and all his buddies and him share similar interests.