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Calimama wrote: So my friend just found out she's having a boy and she's really depressed about it (she has an 18 month old little boy). My other friend and I thought it would be cute to get a bunch of cute baby boy clothes to surprise her, her favorite meal and movie and have her come over and have a girls night. Well she was really excited about it but she called me today and asked me to leave Miabella with a babysitter tomorrow night because it's too hard to see her. huh.gif My issue is that they are coming over at 9... wayyyy after Miabella will be in bed and I don't particularly want to send her to a babysitter for 4 hours in the middle of her bed time because my friend is upset that I have a girl. I'm trying to be sensitive to her feelings but I've explained to her Miabella will be in bed and she doesn't typically wake up in the middle of the night. Well now she's mad and is saying I'm not taking her feelings into account. I know she's a little erm.. hormonal.. but I'm not sure. Am I being unreasonable? huh.gif

Twelve Volt Man replied: Disclaimer: I am a guy, and therefore, have a much less sensitive point of view.

In my opinion, you are NOT out of line. It's understandable that your friend wants a little girl, but she should not let it interfere with the generosity of her friends. Since she already has one child, I can assume that she knows how conception works. We can't pick and choose the sex of our children. If she is so devastated by the thought of having another boy, she should have taken steps to prevent a pregnancy. You are going out of your way to be there for her; she needs to realize that.

luvmykids replied: You're not being unreasonable at all hug.gif As a matter of fact, I think she is wink.gif Since Miabella will be in bed by then anyway, whats the problem?

mummy2girls replied: nope your not ... Why make her be with a babysitter the time she is usually sleeps. And if she wakes up its not like your tellign her to go deal with her... ohmy.gif

stella6979 replied: Ummmm.......no, you are definitely not the unreasonable one. I can understand being a little disappointed to find out you're not having what you hoped for, but it shouldn't take long to come to your senses and realize that you have a HEALTHY baby growing inside of you. There are lots and lots of couples who want nothing more than to have a baby and can't and for her to be that upset about the sex just baffles me. I mean really, she doesn't want Miabella in her own house, because it will upset her? Maybe I'm being an insensitive jerk, but I just don't understand that. Sounds to me like you're a way better friend to her than she is to you. JMO. hug.gif

My3LilMonkeys replied:
I'm not a guy, and I agree with you 100%. It's understandable that she wanted a girl, but you're doing something for her and I think it's unreasonable for her to ask you to hide your child from her just because she's disappointed.

MoonMama replied:
iagree.gif too.

Calimama replied: Thanks! I kinda felt guilty but I think she's being way nuts about it.

Man I don't miss those pregnancy hormones. rolling_smile.gif

punkeemunkee'smom replied: ohmy.gif Wow! First of all I think she is being more then unreasonable...I think she is being a witch! blink.gif I would tell her that Mia is staying at your house and if she is THAT upset by having a baby boy then she needs to think about HIS feelings in the matter and realize he is probably less than thrilled in his choice of mother right now! wacko.gif blink.gif sad.gif

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: YAH -- I think SHE is being totally unreasonable.

cameragirl21 replied: ok, let me get this straight--your so called friend is asking you to disrupt your daughter's sleep schedule and kick her out of her own home because she is jealous that you have a girl and you think YOU are being unreasonable?
Hormones aside, God has blessed her with another boy, she should hope he's healthy instead of trying to keep your girl out of her sight. This may sound harsh but she sounds a bit too immature to be someone's mother based on what you've said....

mommy~to~a~bunch replied:
ITA! She's being a selfish little brat; tell her you will come over again when she grows up. That poor baby; he will have issues his whole life sad.gif .

gr33n3y3z replied: A REAL friend would never ask you to do that.
She needs to grow up and stop being a baby

lovemy2 replied: How could she be so depressed about the fact that its a boy not a girl - my gosh - its healthy who the heck cares - I certainly wouldn't send Miabella to a babysitter for that - unsure.gif

mckayleesmom replied:
I have to jump on this bandwagon too. Personally...I would cancel the get together until she comes to terms with how selfish and childish she is acting. Treating people poorly and not expecting to see baby girls everywhere is ridiculous. Pouting and being inconsiderate isn't going to make a vagina grow on her baby...so she needs to get over it...hormones or not.

punkeemunkee'smom replied:

Wellllllllllllllll........if she pouts long enough-you never know what he may decide to become when he grows up! rolling_smile.gif

mckayleesmom replied:
laugh.gif Only you would think of that.... rolling_smile.gif

Danalana replied: Yikes, that's messed up!
I can understand wanting one sex or the other, but this is a little weird. How long has she known it's a boy? She's gonna have to be able to be around friends who have girls at some point, and it's ridiculous to ask you to take Miabella somewhere else. That's a tough situation!

ETA: I think I subconsciously always saw myself having girls. When I found out I was having a boy, I was stunned, but not unhappy. In just a few minutes, I was as excited as ever! Maybe it's different after your first, but that's how it was for me. I would love to have one of each (we want at least one more...maybe two), but I would be totally ecstatic with just boys. I can't imagine having any baby other than Kade wub.gif

grapfruit replied: I have a friend that is having a girl (in like 4 weeks!) smile.gif This is her 2nd. She REALLY wanted a boy this time, that's all she could think of. Well, of course, you can't pick. Instead she's having little Baby Grace (as she calls her now).

Sure she was a little disappointed, now she can't wait to meet her second baby girl...

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Ditto. I totally agree.

I don't mean to sound insensitive, but she needs to get over it. She should be thankful she is able to even HAVE children. She sounds a little selfish, IMO. Again, don't mean to sound rude, but I just can't fathom someone I know acting like that.

Calimama replied:
For about 8 days now I think.

My2Beauties replied: Yeah she really needs to get over it. DH and I both wanted a boy when I was pg with Aubrey but after we found out it was a girl, after DH asked the lady to check again 3 more times tongue.gif he just said he's happy that the baby is healthy and he couldn't wait to meet his 3rd little girl! wub.gif she is being very inconsiderate! dry.gif

~Roo'sMama~ replied: ohmy.gif unsure.gif OMG. I'm at a loss for words - I can't believe any mother would be THAT upset about the gender of her child. I can understand being a little disappointed, but not to the point where she doesn't even want to see a little girl! She's acting the way I'd expect someone who just experienced a loss to act, not someone who just found out they have a perfectly healthy baby who just happens to be another boy! I can't believe she actually asked that you get Miabella out of the house for her. huh.gif I agree with Lisa - she needs to grow up. dry.gif


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