Spin the bottle... - Is it a big deal?

toady_buckshot_noodle wrote: My 13 year old dd went to a birthday party Friday night. It was a boy/girl party. Well, they played "spin the bottle". I then find out that she didn't actually kiss anybody because she didn't wnat to ruin her first kiss by having it during a silly game. AWWWW!

Anyway, I have mixed feeling about this. On one hand I am furious that the parents let them play this (the mom actually played!). Yet on the other hand, is it really a big deal?!! Can't decide.

What do you think?

mckayleesmom replied: Well....I think that at that age...that game shows up in alot of parties. I find it more odd that the mom played, then the fact that the kids played it.

mom2my2cuties replied: First - I congratulate your daugther on being such a strong person and being strong enough to stand by her beliefs!

Yes - I think it is a big deal. The mother should have had more sense than to allow teenagers to play this game. In most people kissing leads from one thing to another - So I don't think that is an appropriate game for parents to encourage let alone participate in.

ETA - I know this game shows up at a lot of teen parties and my problem with it doesn't lie in that - it is the mother encouraging it and the mother participating in it.

CantWait replied: IMHO it's not a big deal at all. It's a time honored tradition to play this at boy/girl parties, and as long as a kiss is as far as it goes, I think it's harmless.

mckayleesmom replied: To answer the rest of your question...No, I don't think its a big deal. Your daughter chose not to participate...and as long as her friends respected her decision, then so be it. I think the day I find out that Mckaylee or Russell was playing spin the bottle...I would feel like you though....On one hand upset, but on the other....who didn't play spin the bottle...kwim?. In some ways I want them to have the same traditions that have been passed on over the years like spin the bottle...and in another I want to analize the situation....When do we stop analizing everything...kwim?

redchief replied: I say kudos to your daughter for not caving to peer pressure and holding on to her values.

I honestly don't think spin the bottle is terrible. We all played, right? Anyway, I think the best thing to do is commend your daughter for making a mature, thoughtful choice, and make sure she knows everything she needs to know in order to make good decisions regarding her sexuality and adolescence.

gr33n3y3z replied: I rather my kids play spin the bottle then truth or dare

luvbug00 replied:

deffinately more odd.

I think it's a brilliant game next to some of the others kids have been playing wich i can explain to you in a PM anytime you like.

coasterqueen replied: Ok, it might not be a big deal, but should the mother have encourage/played along with them......ummmmm I think not. I won't elaborate further.

TheOaf66 replied: well I don't really know how to answer it. Would I be upset if Tanner came home and said he played it no, it is bound to happen so I would not be upset by that. Now an actual parent approving of it and participating that does kind of make me cringe. These are best things done while sneaking around like we had to do

mckayleesmom replied:
Like I said...I think its more disturbing that the mom played it and encouraged it......The whole point of spin the bottle was to be dangerous and sneaky.....Not play it because our moms thought it was fun

Cece00 replied: I dont think its a huge deal. We all did it when we were younger...

HOWEVER- a mom playing it with the kids? I do find that to be a big deal...what mother encourages that??

coasterqueen replied:
Yeah...not sure I'd want to be kissing a boy at that age if my mom was watching. EWWWWW!

Jolyn replied: I also find it strange that the mother was involved!!!

Now a days you have to wonder if kissing is as far as it goes. From some of the reports about oral sex in teenagers it would make me uncomfortable. Sorry if that's to graffic.
Hopefully it's as innocent as it was when we were kids.

Crystalina replied: Spin the bottle...not harmless and is to be expected. Kids have to be kids.


Mom playing....a little nuts and now that you know she obviousely looks at herself as a peer then I'd be leary of my dd going there. There are things you do with your child and things you just don't.

Your dd seems to have a good head on her shoulder.

redchief replied: I missed the part about "mom" playing too. That's weird. Really weird.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Better Spin the Bottle than Rainbow.

mom2my2cuties replied: I am going to regret this I know - But what is "rainbow" ??

holley79 replied: I was wondering what Rainbow is also. Does it have anything to do with, what we use to call friendship bracelets? If so, they are different colored bracelets the girls are now wearing. Each color constitutes as a "sexual" act. If a boy can get the bracelet off by breaking it then the girl has to perform it.

As for the spin the bottle. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. As for the mother I would have issues with that.

Crystalina replied:
I was going to ask the same thing.

Crystalina replied:
I've heard about that. What gets me is that parents know this and still allow their daughters to walk out of the house wearing them.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I agree with Tish! I would think it was a big deal personally if it was my daughter. Plus, just because it's considered to be usual at parties doesn't make it OK or right for them to be playing it.

My2Beauties replied: Spin the bottle - nah I mean kids will do it regardless but the mother being a part of it - that is weird and I think we would have a talk

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Nope...Rainbow is not that, but that's an equally disgusting game.

Rainbow is a game where the girls all wear different shades of lipsticks, and amuse themselves making rings around the shaft of the guys' ... uh... shaft....With all the different colors of lipsticks, hence the name Rainbow.

mom2my2cuties replied: That is just wrong...

I agree with Crystal about the Bracelets - I wouldn't let her out the door like that.

TANNER'S MOM replied: well my daughter is 13 and i have one who is 16

I have been thru the first one being kissed.. I hated it on one hand but then was so pleased to share tht feeling with her..

Now Tiffny hs never been kissed.. nd it would bother me if her first kiss ws with spin the bottle. But it's just gme..

Now if my son Justin went to prty nd told me grown womn plyed spin the bottle with him.. it would be on.. I would be knocking on the door nd sking her wht the heck she ws doing! The sme for the girls if dd tried to ply...

sorry the first letter in the lphbet hs stopped working on my keybord nd the it guy is gone..

coasterqueen replied:
OMG I remember this! Ok....I didn't play it.....but I remember this.

mckayleesmom replied: So now Mckaylee is not allowed to have LIPSTICK or BRACELETS......got it

That is just disgusting.

Jolyn replied: Well now that i heard about Rainbow i wasn't too far off with my concerns about oral sex.

My3LilMonkeys replied: In my opinion, Spin the Bottle is not such a big deal - the mom playing, well, to me that's just wrong. What healthy reason could a mother have to want to play a kissing game with 13 year olds?

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I played spin the bottle when I was 13, no moms played with us...we snuck around to do it and it was fun. But, I was a lot different at 13 than some of these girls are nowadays. I guess the mom thought that if she played with the kids it would keep the game clean and under control. Who knows what she was thinking. Kind of like the parents who let their underage teenagers drink as long as they are at their house. I'll never understand that mentality.

Crystalina replied:
OMG! Are you feakin seriouse?! That is way worse then I thought it was. Don't girls have respect for themselves anymore? What is up with that? I would never even think to kiss a guy if he had kissed someone else much less put my mouth on something like that when I know that someone else was just there. Boy, times have changed alot since I was a kid.

jcc64 replied: The mom played?!!!!!! That is just....creepy. Maybe she should get together with the mother who had her 18 month old do bong hits.


Spin the bottle is pretty harmless, imo. The other thing, Rainbow, that's a completely different animal. Yikes.

toady_buckshot_noodle replied: In all fairness, I think the mother may have just walked through and played a couple of spins. And I THINK the kisses were on the cheek. Anyway, I gave me the willies too.

I personally don't think spin the bottle is that big of a deal either but as a mother I would NEVER have thrown a party and knowingly allowed other people's children to play it!! There are several children who will never be allowed to go back to that home again.

I had never heard of that RAINBOW "game" but that is just disturbing!!