So sick of cleaning!!! - vent at Dh and just in general

5littleladies wrote: I have had it!!! My house is an untamable mess and no one is helping me. I swear I do more in a day than not-so-dear-husband does in a week, and he comes home everyday whining about how tired he is and all the stuff he did at work today and BOO-DIDDLY-HOO!!! I am nearly in tears from exhaustion and that's just from doing daily maintenance to make sure we aren't living in a garbage dump. I can't even find the time to do the nitty gritty stuff and to de-clutter, which we so desperately need done. I really, really want to get the house in order before Alyssa gets here because I know that first week, when I'm resting and recouperating and Dh is in charge of the house, if things aren't in order, everything will turn to chaos and like I need to deal with that when I have a new baby in the house AND a crazy toddler AND am starting homeschool for the year. I have tried talking, even pleading with Jason about this and he just doesn't seem to get it. I'm so frustrated.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I know how you feel. I go thru phases of caring (way too much and getting frustrated) or not caring enough and letting it go. The only things I can keep up with are the day to day things (barely). I just don't know how some people do it *ahem* CARY *ahem*

Try not putting so much pressure on yourself, hun. It will get done. Just take one task at a time.

BTW- Glad to see you around more today...I've been missing you!

kit_kats_mom replied: Tell him to work a few more hours then use that money for a maid. You'd really be suprised at how affordable they can be.

Aimee...surely you jest? Me LOL

MM'sMama replied: I no how you feel and its annoying. I get to the point sometimes to where I'm in tears my Dh doesn't get it ether. Hang in there hon and keep your head up tomorrow will be a better day. lots of hugs.

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
Yes, YOU!

I need a maid. I can't decide if I want to send Tater to Mother's Day out a couple of days a week so I can clean or get a maid. I don't even have time to pick up, let alone declutter and deep clean on top of that. Not with Ethan under my feet. In that case, I think a maid would be pointless b/c they don't do any of that.

SOUTHERN MOMMY replied: I know how you feel just try and not let it bother you if i were you i would try and get some help just temp. until after you settle in with the new baby

mommy_loves_chase replied: mine is the same way he works less hours then i do and i clean the house and then he thinks that he can just throw his junk all over the place and that i will just clean it up cause he is too tired lazy would be the correct word

MM'sMama replied: Maid? Maid? Whats that ! Dh seems to think I'm his own personal maid. Honey hey get me this or that and do this or that for me! Get it or do it yourself!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: I was going to suggest one of 3 things

1) hire a maid to hlep with the nitty gritty things, and general claning so you cande-clutter

2) bribe the older kids to help?

3) let it all go for a day and show him

I dunno if any of this is practiacl but its worth a try. For once my house is pretty clean, working on more rooms to finfish other wise I am moving and all that stuff is NOT comming with me. I really hope to finish decluttering (espicially my bedroom) and the rest of spring cleaning by Aug

kit_kats_mom replied:
Ah but they will! That's the beauty of it. You are hiring them to do a job for you so you tell them what you want done. I was getting my old house (1600sq ft) cleaned every other Thursday for $45 a pop. Not bad when you consider that I never had to clean my bathrooms, change the air filters, mop or empty the trash. Plus I got to spend that time with Katherine. I just instructed her to do her regular surface cleaning and then I'd leave a note for her about a specific project for that week. Air filters, ceiling fans, baseboards, windows etc.

Yes, I do tend to keep the kitchen clean and the floors picked up of stuff but honestly, if you came to my home you'd probably notice the dust that has settled on all of my belongings. That dust will stay there too until I find another maid.

MissyKay2005 replied: Sorry your having to do it all have your husband take over for a day and tell him he has to do what you do in the day and see what he says when he comes home from work then. Us moms have the toughtest job in the world. Fortunatly I have a great husband who is eager to help when he can. he would perfer to help casue he knows it is tough. And only gets hradewr the more kids you have to clean up after. I feel for you. Hope it gets better and you get a much needed vacation

A&A'smommy replied: (((((BIG HUGS)))))) I hope your dh will be sweet enough to realize how frustrated you are and start helping!!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I know how you feel too. I've been crying all day about this very thing. For what it's worth, I think your house looks spotless compared to mine. I AM living in a garbage dump, and no I'm not exaggerating! Part of the reason I've been at your house so much is so that I can get away from the Pit.
I know what you mean about wanting to get all the nitty gritty stuff done, but don't feel bad if all you can do is daily maintenance - at least you are doing that much!

5littleladies replied: ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! Jason is home and I have tried talking to him about this twice today-once on the phone and now that he is home and what does he do? He gets annoyed that I am so "crabby" and he is now snoozing away on the couch. I'm ready to boot his butt to the curb.

I guess I'll just keep plugging away. I do have the girls help, but I don't want to take advantage of the fact that I have free help-I hated it when my mom made me clean ALL the time. And getting a maid isn't really my thing so that's out. Maybe someday dh will wake up and see that I really could use a hand (or 6 ).



Thanks Aimee!! I've been lurking a bit here and there but haven't had too many opportunities to post. I'll try to be on more-I miss everyone!