So a bit of a spin off - what is your current issue
moped wrote: with your toddler? A few posts have made me think of this. So what is the current issue with your child - maybe we can all help each other.
My issue right now is that he DOES NOT LISTEN - EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh and saucy - very very saucy.
You????
lovemy2 replied: The SASSY SASSY mouth - like the "I know that already Mom" and flat out "NO" and "I can't do two things at once Mom" (ok she got that one from me but still) and this one is great "I am too big for that" oh ok you little 32 lb twerp and when Dylan is acting up and I say come on Dylan give me a break I get from her "He's just a baby Mom he can't help it" duh...I know that for the love of god but I can still be annoyed at his whining!!!
Can we spin off on this about what it is our DH or SO is currently doing that is WAY annoying....
Mine - is a KNOW IT ALL lately - and also very snippy - hmmm maybe him and her are commiserating in the nite hours when I am sleeping...nope couldn't be - I don't sleep I lay there thinking of all the things I have to do that DH doesn't help with  Oh this is fun, I could go on and on and on  
moped replied: How old is Olivia again?
Jack is soooo saucy - I can't believe it! Same thing here......and he knows everything and can do everything by himself.....so I guess I am not help on htat one - anyone - can anyone help our saucy kids?????
moped replied:
Yes I think that should be a post all on it;'s own!
boyohboyohboy replied: I guess I am at the young end of this age spectrum here, but Jake cant really talk yet, but his eyes tell me if he could he would be what you are describing. I think my main issues are disipline at this young age. I tell him know, closely to his face, and make sure he knows what we are talking about, but he just sticks his little lip out and then does it again. and time outs at his age just dont seem to work. when we do try, we spend so much time fighting to hold him in place that I know he forgot what we were punishing him for.
I also feel like he understands more then he can communicate. I find it hard not to compair him to my first son, who never had terrible two's, never gave me a hard time, was so sweet really...this kid, fights and hits and spits, and doesnt want to listen. I am afraid to really have him near kids his age or younger, for fear he might hurt them. he doesnt share either..
I am ashamed to say, I havent done a good job so far with Jake.
I need super nanny for a week.
moped replied: I have been told and don't believe time outs really work until about 2
lovemy2 replied:
She will be FIVE on Thursday but if you ask her she is at least 17.....  I am waiting for her to ask for the keys to the car...of course I drive a minivan so that may not be cool enough for her...she will probably ask me to take out a loan to buy her a mustang or something "cool" like that
moped replied: So basically it gets worse from here - I never had a problem with 2, 3 is going to be interesting - and it gets worse??????????????????
lovemy2 replied:
I don't think you are doing a bad job - do you think alot of his behavior stuff stems from that fact that maybe he just doesn't feel good alot of the time - he has had so many eating issues and sleeping issues, etc. that it has to be hard for him....I posted in Rae's post that I know for a fact that diet and sleep have ALOT to do with Olivia's behavior...
You are a good Mom - don't put yourself down....you have had alot to deal with with Jake... 
lovemy2 replied:
I can't say it has gotten worse but it just changes constantly...at 3 it was temper tantrums and 4 it was not listening and testing the waters now at 5 its flat out telling me where to go and how to get there
moped replied:
Oh I can't wait!~
boyohboyohboy replied:
Thank you! I try to tell myself that most of the time, it could be related to jakes eating issues, but I hate to make excuses for bad behavior. I know he is feeling better, and sometimes I think that he is just finally pushing the limits because he feels well enough to fight, and I hate to stop his need to explore and try new things, but not at the risk of hitting or spitting on others.
I know we babied jake for a long time now, and its going to take some time to adjust to his new behaviors, but its embarrassing and we just dont go anywhere right now because of it.
i agree that time outs are just not right for him now.
coasterqueen replied:  Where do I begin? I love Megan to pieces but she's driving me crazy. I thought it was just me because I tend to get a bit on edge very easily, but Dh is OVER the edge these days with her and that's completely NOT normal. SO I know I'm not crazy about the way she's acting. Kylie never ever acted like this.
Let's see I can't leave her alone for even 1/2 a second. NO JOKE. With Kylie you could put her in a room to play while you cook dinner, or whatever, and she'd stay and play. Megan would have 3/4 the house torn apart in that time.
She's figured out all the child-proof locks and now gets into my bathroom cabinets and eats, yes EATS my make-up. Matter-of-fact the kid eats ANYTHING and EVERYTHING in sight. No joke.
She whines, cries and fusses 24/7. Yes, 24/7!
She wants to be held 24/7.
She doesn't listen at all. NOT AT ALL.
Dh and I agree that this child is 100 times more of a handful than her sister ever was.
She hits, kicks, slaps, pinches, runs away from you, etc, etc. She won't hold your hand to cross the street. She plays with her food instead of eating it.
She's our little terrorist.
ETA: Sad to say that we have spanked her (lightly tapped) and that didn't even phase her. She just laughed and continued doing what she wasn't supposed to do. We've tried time-outs, we-ve tried talking to her at her level, we've tried giving her more attention, etc, etc, etc. NOTHING works these days.
ZandersMama replied: I have bought about 15 toothbrushes in the last month, because while his stays in its little spot on the sink, mine ends up in the sink/toilet/garbage can no matter where I hide it.
lovemy2 replied:
No offense but I have to beg to differ on this - take him out - teach him - we ALWAYS took Olivia out to restaurants, etc. and when she really misbehaved if need be we left but we always went back - they have to learn somehow....but I also understand how you feel about it
moped replied: I might agree - when Jack was little he cried all the time - colic......he hated the car seat and stroller - So when I made him CIO in bed I also made him CIO for walks that got longer every day and in the car seat - we don't have those issues
However, I do avoid taking Jack to restaruants 100% - I don't need the stress!
tammyhopkins replied: WOW i don't write anything for 2 years now i am all about this LOL. but need to figure out all this DH, PG etc..... someone help me with that?
anyway issue well mine is the i don't hear you and if i do run and hide under the bed or in small areas where mom cannot get me. What else can i say but i love it better than what i had 6 months ago so i will take what i get and suck it up. LOL
And for Jen's jack i know him and he is the sweetest little guy ever but when i talk to him on the phone he has already started breaking hearts. He says Are you coming to see me i say not now and he says don't you love me anymore 
moped replied:
On the top where todays topics are there is an abbreviations button - that will help you with it all
pg - pregnant
dh - darling husband
ds - darling son
etc
boyohboyohboy replied: JMO but we dont take jake to the restraunts right now because well eating isnt his priority, and he gets bored easily,
and second I just feel we shouldnt interupt everyone else in a restraunt to teach my kids lessons..
we practice at home at the dinner table.
moped replied:
Yeah I agree - I hate taking kids to restarants..........I get too stressed out!
Maddie&EthansMom replied: My issues with Ethan:
Potty training He won't poop in the potty...nuff said
He is SO MESSY!!! You know that character from Peanuts, Pig Pen...that's Ethan!!! Everything he touches gets dirty...he can't eat a simple meal without it ending up all over him and everything around him.
He doesn't mind nor does he listen. He takes food into the living room right after I tell him to leave it in the kitchen.  Drives me bananas!!!!!
He's loud! He doesn't have a quiet voice.
He's needy. He has to be entertained at all times.
But, he's the cutest, sweetest little boy in the world. His kisses just melt me into a puddle and he's so loving. 
moped replied:
OMG isn't that funny - he only does it to you and Auntie Lori and Mom!!!!! He is super smart!!!!
tammyhopkins replied: We know you are training him to say that Jen you can't fool us lol
moped replied: You might want to ask Tom about that one - not me!
lovemy2 replied:
I can totally understand what you are saying....some things work better for some than others..hang in there and think of all the money you save cause you don't go out to dinner - I could buy a new outfit every week if we stopped going out to dinner
Mommy2BAK replied: I think I may have the biggest  Winer (SP?) ever!!!!
If something doesn't go her way she will just sit there and cry, or worse wine and wine about it forever!!!
Sarah&Mackenzie replied:
Karen~ this is Mackenzie to a T!!!! She is driving me and DH
moped replied: I heard and I can't remember where that phases last 6 months with children - anyone believe this????
mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Well you guys all know mine.  But I have to chime in with the whole WHINING issue! OMG does that kill me. I just ignore it. Or I say "when you can talk to me using a nice voice, I will listen". I did it yesterday and he calmed down and said nicely "mommy, juice please". I think the more I over-react, get mad, start yelling, he just whines more. So remaining calm has helped me.
My ST has also showed me that some kids need pressure, like a physical bear hug or rub on the back to calm their anxiety. So I'm working on that with Wil. He starts to get really overwhelmed or better yet, over stimulated sometimes, so he acts out. So the ST showed me to just place my hand on his back and press down lightly. It works, believe me! Who doesn't want a big hug when you're feeling overwhelmed right??
Yes, Wil is getting a bit saucy and talks back to me sometimes. "No Mahi, you stop" he says. I'm no expert, obviously, but I've been giving him the choice on how to talk nice (by actually giving him the words to say, since Wil is still not speaking that well, ask him to repeat me) or he goes to TO. Yesterday I sat down with him and started to color. He loved it for about two minutes until he asked to trade books, then he wanted mine back. Kept yelling "my book", although he gave me the book! So instead of giving in and giving back the book, I told him he had to share and that it was mommy's turn. He threw a tantrum, so again, "you can sit here and color with mommy, we can play something else, or you need to sit in time out". He went in TO. 
MyBrownEyedBoy replied:
Aimee, that sounds just like I could have written it, except add in spitting and complete refusal to use the potty at all and take away needing to be constantly entertained. LOL. And I love the end.
mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Oh yes, Wil absolutely refuses to use the potty. He pees occasionally, but never poop. And he would much rather be in a dirty diaper than trying the potty. 
lisar replied:
Oh yes Lexi is six and now its the whole attitude thing. Stopming off to her room and the whole "But what did I do wrong" after i tell her what she done wrong 10 times she still ask "But what did I do wrong".
And Raygen is the whole punishment thing. I havent found a way to really punish her. Yesterday she was getting into my wedding cabinet and I told her no not to do that. Well she done it again and I asked her if she wanted time out and she said no. So I told her is she touched it again that I would put her time out and not to touch it. She didnt touch that but she did push a chair up to the counter so she could climb up. If it isnt one thing its another. She will be 2 at the end of this month and the terrible 2's have already started.
CantWait replied: My issues right now.
Robbie (11), no matter how many times I tell him to clean his room (daily) I'll go in the next day or two days later and there's clothes everywhere. They never make it to the laundry room which is two doors down from him.
Anthony (almost 4), is a tv junkie and won't play with his toys. When I do tell him to shut the tv off, he doesn't want to play, and if by chance he does pick up his toys, it's to throw them all over the floor, and then he won't clean them up.
My3LilMonkeys replied: Mine are the same as a lot of other people's.
Brooke is a whiner. I HATE whining. And she has entered a talking phase - the child talks NONSTOP most days. She'll repeat herself 4 or 5 times if she runs out of things to say. And her pronunciation isn't great so I am forever translating for everyone, but she refuses to learn to pronounce things correctly (or else isn't capable and has speech issues - I'm trying to figure out which)
Madison is quite often defiant. If I say leave it alone, she plays with it. Won't pick up her toys when you tell her to, won't do anything she doesn't want to. Discipline has no effect on her most of the time - reasoning, time outs, taking toys away, even swatting her hand doesn't faze her at all. But then she gives me her "I'm cute and I know it" smile and laughs and I just melt.
My2Beauties replied:
OMG right before I read your post I literally typed a thread about this....I just thought that was funny. Im' so glad I'm not the only one, not that I don't want him to listen to you, but gosh I felt like I was a total idiot and just didn't know how to get my child to listen.
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