Rude comments about having all boys.

elvisfan wrote: I am really frustrated with people. I am pregnant with my fourth child and all of my children are boys. (this one is supposed to be a boy as well.) When people ask if I know and I say yes another boy I get such negative responses!! It is really frustrating me. One lady even said, "Oh, I'm so sorry!" I was really mad at her response. No one died! I've just been blessed with having all boys! And I'm not very quick thinking so I don't know what to say in return.

JAYMESMOM replied: That is rude of them to make comments like that. Some people don't realize that you can be happy with the children God gives you. Boys are just as special as girls. Good luck on the new baby.

jcc64 replied: Just tell them you're going for an entire starting line-up basketball team.
Boys are awesome (have 2)- just say these are the kind you were meant to have. We're not raising salt and pepper shakers, kwim?

Kaitlin'smom replied: how rude, I would ask and whats wrong with boys?

not to be rude but are they responding to they way you say its a boy? just wondering if they are picking something up your not aware of. (ducking now from the tomatoes) I hoep you dont take that the wrong way

ammommy replied: You know, people are rude when they don't know what to say. I'm sick of "oh, you have a boy and a girl are you done now?" Yes, our goal in life was to have the " perfect" family
I would just make sure that you have a smile on your face when you tell people that you are having a boy. Or really shock them and lie and say that you don't know.

A&A'smommy replied: Well I would just ignore it, even though I'm pretty sure I would be tired of the comments too!

elvisfan replied: J/K! Well, I hope I am not portraying it as something negative! I really am happy about it! I have decided that I really don't want to tell anyone else. My dh is a pastor so everyone at the church is asking so I think from now on I'm gonna tell them they'll have to wait and see!

mammag replied: I agree that people can be rude. I don't think they necessarily mean to be. And maybe we wouldn't think anything of it if it was just once someone says it but it just starts to get annoying when you can almost know what's going to come out of their mouths before they say it. I have three boys and wouldn't trade them for anything! Sometimes I'll say, yeah but the boys put together are easier than the one girl or something. Kristen even gets comments all the time like....do you feel outnumbered? etc....

You could also be saying it's a boy in a way that they are picking up on because of the fact that you know what's coming, kwim? Like you might be thinking...."here we go again" and that's coming throuh in your tone and they think it's that you're upset about it being a boy.

I try to just blow off the comments. If anything, I agree, say something like "yes, God has blessed my family with another boy".

gr33n3y3z replied: That is rude
that woman should meet my uncle he has 9 boys kept trying for that girls

guertin31 replied:
Who gives a flyin "FLOOBEE" to what other people think or say!? Its people like that who are misrable with their own lives. It makes them look better (in their own mind) if they put other peoples situation down.

I have a son and I am in love... If I had 40 more I would be just as happy... (maybe not my wife cause 40 kids is alot)

Congrats on the baby and smile... God has blessed you with another child who can carry the family name!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I think people can be clueless when it comes to what to say to a pregnant woman! I remember having a whole bunch of awful remarks. My sister has three girls and when she was pregnant with her third, she actually didn't find out the sex because of this reason. She was so tired of people saying "well I bet you hope it's a boy this time". It made her upset. But when she looked at the big picture, she realized how blessed she is to have three healthy kids, regardless of sex. I would respond that way "I'm just happy they're healthy, it doesn't matter what sex they are". Or if you want to get rude back say, "I bet your mother wished you were a ______ (boy/girl) huh? Too bad for her".

5littleladies replied: I know the feeling, except I am on the opposite side. I am having my 4th girl. We are so thrilled, but people keep giving me pitying looks and opinions. I just tell them that we are so happy and content with whatever God wants to send us and hey-most people have boys AND girls. How common is it to have all one gender?