Question for Parents - Just Curious

mysticrose wrote: Would you sign a two-decade lease with someone you had never met before?

paradisemommy replied: my initial reaction was heck no. but i guess it would have to depend on the situation and what was going on....meaning..would you care to elaborate?

kimberley replied: that would definitely be a no! i don't care what the circumstances are lol. my life with 3 kids is constantly changing so i wouldn't feel comfortable making that kind of commitment, especially with someone i don't know. what if they do bad things around the kids or treat them badly? 20 years is a long time! what if i want to move to a different part of the country? or need a bigger place?

and yes, inquiring minds want to know give us details

MommyToAshley replied: I can't see myself signing a 20 year lease either.... but, please do give the details, you have my curiosity too.

mysticrose replied: A little bit more about this person: There is no way for me to meet her before we sign the lease, but another person in my family who knows her says she knows we will get along just great. From what I know she doesn't have a driver's license and is not going to be able to hold a job for quite some time or if ever for the duration of the lease, but I've heard that she is a wonderful companion and good with children. She would keep me from becoming bored when I'm home and would be able to help out with the housework in the future once she gains use of her legs. Until then I would have to help with a lot of caregiving. Other people in my life tell me that this arrangement is a good idea and I don't want to seem selfish by deciding not to live with her.....what do you guys think?

And no...she doesn't have fur.

lsjulee replied: I think I will be more committed to my children. So in whatever circumstances, call my selfish, I won't sign any committment other than for my children.

momof2girls replied: That is a long long time, Id have to say No..
but you have to do what is right for YOU!

paradisemommy replied: well going by what you just said then i would have to say no. 20 years is a long time to be locked into something with someone you don't even know. you may get along with her great but when it comes to actually living with someone day in and day out, it's different and if she can't hold down a job seems like that would put a lot of stress on you and you wouldn't be able to do a darn thing about it if you signed it.

BUT if finances are not a problem for you and you can handle paying for all the rent and bills and are looking for someone that would be a good companion then sounds good...

Boys r us replied: Noway!! A lot can happen in 20 years...I mean, you may have the opportunity at some point..or at many points during that time frame for your life to go in a totally opposite direction!

coasterqueen replied: I agree, there would be no way I could do that. A lot could happen in that time frame!

Kaitlin'smom replied: NO WAY!! 20 years is a long time....way to many changes can occur

DansMom replied: Do you live in Europe? I know some places in Europe have those super-long leases. Where I live in Michigan everything is year-to-year. Anyway, I would never, ever agree to live with someone I've never met for more than a year. You would be surprised how much you can learn to dislike even your best friend after a few months of living with him or her. There is no way of knowing how you will get along.