Potty training help

Danalana wrote: I've always waited until Kade expressed interest in potty training because I didn't want a battle on my hands. About a month ago, he was pulling off his diaper and I said "no", as I always do. He said "peepee". I asked him if he wanted to peepee in the potty and he took off to the bathroom. I got lazy for a few days...I was just exhausted and didn't feel like taking him every 20 or 30 minutes. PLUS, he still doesn't poop in the potty. I had underwear on him all morning, telling him that he needs to peepee AND poopoo in the potty. He said "poopoo underwear". So I made it clear to him all morning, what he needed to do. He still pooped in his underwear I don't know what to do, yall. He always poops when he is out of my sight, even if he has a diaper on. But he DID tell me right after that he pooped.
Does anybody have any advice about helping him make the connection? He HATES how it feels when he poops in his underwear. He'll barely walk and has his legs so far apart he's almost doing splits I know he's just a little guy and I have to have patience, but I just don't know what to do. I haven't really been consistent on the potty training, but I don't know if I should just put the underwear on him and let him poop in them. Makes me wanna wait til he poops for the day to put the underwear on him.
Oh, and when he poops in his underwear, I have him watch me empty it into the potty, telling him that poopoo goes in the potty.
Please help! Does it just take some time? He'll pee all day long, if I take him. He'll be three on February 18th. I know there aren't any rules saying he HAS to be completely potty trained when he turns 3, but it makes me anxious.
Thanks!

lisar replied: I dont have boys but my advice is PATIENCE! It takes time for all of them, just keep reminding him to pee and poop in the potty. How about a reward system, every time he pees or poops in the potty he gets some M&M's or something like that.

PrairieMom replied: patience patience patience.

It took FOREVER for Ben to poo in the potty. what you are doing sounds good to me, I would just keep up with it.

Our Lil' Family replied:
Same here. We didn't even attempt PT until 2 months before Thomas' 3rd birthday and it took a good 6 months for him to poop on the potty. I honestly thought he'd start Kindergarten pooping his pants! But I think one day he just got it. Keep making him watch you put it in the toilet....and keep talking about where it goes.

We offered rewards, like 3-4 coins per success and when he got enough he could "buy" a train (it was what he wanted most at the time). So you could try something like that.

A&A'smommy replied: yeap sounds about right to me... Autumn completely potty trained pretty quickly but has regressed in the poopoo area... just be consistent, it will eventually work!!

Danalana replied: Thank you, ladies. I know he will eventually get it...I'll just try and enjoy this last bit of time that he is still a "baby" (although he will always be my baby!). I honestly don't mind changing diapers at all, but I don't wanna hold him back or anything. Plus, he looks ADORABLE in his underwear

moped replied: I waited until Jack was 3 and 1 week old....took a day......dont rush him just yet....thats my advice, wait til just after 3 and he will catch on quick!

With Laila we would be right away, but are driving 12 hours soon so will wait til we get home, so I will update you by months end on her progress!

boyohboyohboy replied: I wish I had a solution too!
Andrew is 3 yrs. 4 months, he only goes in the potty if I take him and sit him on it!
I can take him faithfully and keep him dry, as soon as I don't, he goes in his pants...it's frustrating!
I am worried he won't be trained by spring in time to go to preschool!

coasterqueen replied:
My DCP had a child who was going to Kindy and he would still poop his pants. He caught on to peeing in potty, but absolutely refused to go poop in potty. So she'd make him clean himself up when he'd do this and he would do it at school too. FINALLY after having to deal with it at school he finally decided it was worth actually going in the toilet instead of his drawers! So they eventually get it. As in most things in life, kids don't want to be rushed and when you rush them they fight back.

boyohboyohboy replied: Dana, I have to post a pic of Andrew, he looks just like that your cutie has on!

youngmomofone replied: My daughter is special needs (went from CP to maybe autism to developmentally delayed) so I dont know when she could have actually trained. She trained at 5yo pretty quickly. I'm talking days. She showed no signs of being ready. I tried different times over the years to no avail. Her kindergarten spec ed teacher is aggressive with the kids (as in they will be expected to do as the others do to the best of their ability ) so I will forever be grateful for her. Now my daughter is main stream and getting smarter by the day to where I know she will be just fine by middle school. Anyway the point is, I did have a child go to K without being potty trained, but it was nipped in the bud fast so I wouldn't worry about it too much. He's a smart lil man, so I'm sure he will be trained in no time

flirtycuddle replied: My son is 4 and a half and still in pull ups at this point. He got potty on the potty but what a battle. I got sick of it and let him do it at his own pace. I could change to underware now but i still have 2 packs of pullups lol. He will do it when hes ready.