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Iluvmyboys wrote: Ben invited his friend over for dinner (the one who confessed to me she had an eating disorder a few months ago) well she didnt actually have dinner with us. She mostly played some video game with Ben while the rest of us had dinner. I swear shes only getting thiner, her hairs falling out, she complained that she might have to quit her job because her back always hurts, and she just doesnt look good at all. Its heard watching someone do this to themself

Calimama replied: I hope she gets the help she needs.. and quickly. sad.gif

redplaydoh replied: Very sad. Can some agency like CPS "make" her seek help?

lovemykiddies replied: Eating disorders are so, so hard. I have one. I'm in treatment for it though. Does she admit to having one, at least? I know of some wonderful recovery websites, so just let me know if you'd like me to send them. I don't know if we are allowed to post links here or not. They are at least a step towards maybe wanting to get help.

CPS can't get involved unless she's under 18.

Iluvmyboys replied: Umm yeah CPS cant get involved since shes 19 I think...But it would be great if yo can send me those links lovemykiddies smile.gif That would help alot since I dont know to much about these things. Could you please PM them to me? Im not sure if were aloud to post links either

MommyToAshley replied:
You can post the link to the site here... no problem. If it will help her and others, please feel free to post the link.

We just don't allow people to post links to their business and affiliate sites as then the board becomes consumed with spam and it's no fun for anyone.

I hope Ben's friend gets help soon. Are the parents aware of the situation? It may be obvious to you, but sometimes kids are good at hiding these things from their parents. I wouldn't want to defy the girls trust, but this is a matter of life or death and she needs help now. I would definitely talk to the parents.

lisar replied: So sad. What do her parents say about it? Are they any help? Can they be help? I saw a show once named Intervention. It was really good. They all get together all the friends and family and write her a letter and then read it to them. Its a really good start 99% of the people on there seek help ASAP. Do a search on it and see if they have any good advice. I am sorry you have to see that girl doing that. I hope she gets help soon.

lovemykiddies replied: There are a lot of websites out there, but many are triggering and not helpful to recovery at all. This one is great...they have very supportive message boards. They even have forums for parents/loved ones. I'm glad I can post it.

http://www.something-fishy.org

PM me any time if there is a way I can help. Since I'm currently struggling, I know what sort of things are harmful, helpful, etc. Like I said earlier, eating disorders are very hard to recover from and extremely dangerous. I really, really hope this girl gets help. I'm 21, but was just a little younger than your son's friend (about 18) when my eating disorder began.

Iluvmyboys replied: Thank you so much lovemykiddies smile.gif Like I mentioned I dont know to much about eating disorders. She seems pretty open about this to me which I thought was kind of odd. But I guess she has no one else to talk to. Shes been dealing with this for almost two years she says but recently its gotten worse. She talks to her parents on the phone but I dont think she sees them that often. They kicked her out of the house because of her eating disorder so I dont think they really keep in touch that often. Her parents arent really that much of a help. Maybe I'll talk to her or refer her to this website some how.

sparkys2boys replied: I can imagine how hard it is to see her like this and not be able to do alot for her. Just keep letting her know that you are there if she wants to talk.

lovemykiddies replied: Just wanted to add that my parents are not supportive either. They kicked her out over that? That's rough. I feel for her...at least she has you and your sons. Definitely be open to talking to her...and the website is great (if you could find a way to bring it up!). The message boards have very supportive people who are struggling just like her.

Cece00 replied: can she not be commited for that? arent eating disorders actually mental disorders?

lovemykiddies replied: Yes, eating disorders are mental illnesses. If her doctor feels she is in immediate danger, she can be hospitalized against her will, but that is unlikely to happen. Even if it does, she will be released once medically stabilized. For the most part, they don't have any authority to keep her if she refuses help.

Iluvmyboys replied: Yes, Im trying to figure out ways on how I can bring this up... I see her almost every day so theres a lot of chances to do so. She must be pretty bad off though, she even fainted I think back in January at her job sleep.gif Its so hard to see this shes a good kid and all going to college full time, has two jobs and living on her own with 6 other roomates. Shes almost like one of the family really

lovemykiddies replied: Has she seen her regular doctor recently? That's the least she should do...get a full check up/blood work. If she's fainting that is not good.

gr33n3y3z replied:
Yeah I remember that happend when you mentioned it last time
But her parents gave her a choice they would get her help or move out if she didnt accept she chose to move out.
Its very sad to watch someone you know slipping away sad.gif

Iluvmyboys replied: Well Im not actually sure if her parents offered her any kind of help. I dont think they did. I know they just told her to quit being silly and eat more and thats shes too old to have an eating disorder. I dont think she even sees a doctor either

gr33n3y3z replied: so so sad what is wrong with parents
I know she is of age to do as she pleases but someone has to be able to help this girl.

Iluvmyboys replied: Yes I was really surprised myself ohmy.gif Ive met her parents a few years ago. I never really knew them that well but they seemed like really nice, caring people who wouldnt do that. Its so strange


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