Poll about... - when things in my life become tough, i

hopefulmomtobe wrote: I see that someone voted that they dont change a bit when things are tough in their life. Please, let me know how to do that because I really need help with that! When things are tough in my life it really affects me...I cant concentrate at work, I have anxiety...the works...so how do you do it? I would love to know.

luvbug00 replied: tell me about it too! i get super depressed.

grapfruit replied: I guess for me added stress makes me be in a bad mood. I try to logically move through things. I think it just depends on the person, and the way you look at things.

hopefulmomtobe replied: I agree with you guys, that is why I was asking the question I did because I really just dont believe that someone could have a tough time in their life and go on like there is no problem. Just too hard to believe, I think changes effects everyone just in different ways, but I dont believe that someone wouldnt be affected at all. KWIM?

lisar replied: Well for me when things get tough I normally get stressed about them. And when things are tough for me I will go to the forest and hop on my 4-wheeler and just ride. My friends that go with me normally know why I am going (never go by myself it's not safe). They cant ever keep up with me. I am a much better rider than most of them. That is my stress reliver. It works for me. Diffrent things work for diffrent people though. Before I rode I would get in my car and take a long drive.

luvmykids replied: I think I'm partly just used to a high stress level, so it doesn't affect me like it used to but the other part is the mantra I live by....Is worrying, crying, etc going to change it? No? Ok, well then I have laundry to do, kids to care for, etc. I do have my little moments where I cry or whatever but for me it's just the fact that I have too many other people depending on me to do anything but put one foot in front of the other.

The other thing I try to remember is even when I think my little world is falling apart it's never as bad as it could be...we're all healthy and together with a roof over our heads. And I'm not making light of what some people go through...the last two years I've had to deal with things I consider nightmares come to life. But still, in comparison, it could be worse. Everything is temporary anyway.

stella6979 replied:
I voted that I'm the same and that's the truth. I used to freak out about everything, but I've since learned that freaking out doesn't resolve anything. I stay calm and try to figure things out cause life is way to short to be stressed about every little thing.
It's an anonymous poll, so I'm not sure why anyone would lie.

lisar replied:
I know what you mean. I didnt vote that way I picked the one above it. Cause I do have a stress reliever. But I dont think I freak out or anything. I just sit down and figure out a way to deal with it and then blow off steam on the tracks.

And life is way to short to stress out over everything.

hopefulmomtobe replied:
Wierd...where does it say that I called someone was lier? Funny how you found that in there when it wasnt. What I did say though, if I really need to explain...is what do people do to not have stress affect them, I find it hard to believe that it doesnt affect them at all. Then I asked for pointers on what they did to help it not affect them. I also said that I am not like that so any advice I would love to try. But, I do think everyone gets affected...just in different ways...and that is what I said.

But, I like typing so repeating myself is fun. Thanks!

stella6979 replied:
Wow, was that response really necessary? I answered your question and by saying that you don't believe that someone couldn't be affected is pretty much the same as calling those who voted that way a liar. JMO.

hopefulmomtobe replied: Ok, thanks!

Calimama replied:
I can tell that you picked that one, it seems like you, it seems like it would take a lot to throw you off. That's admirable.

I need to follow your example, I get anxious.

kimberley replied: i voted depression but as i get older, it sure takes a lot more to get me there. daily chaos used to stress me out but as has been said above, you need to take a breath, step back and see what you are dealing with and work towards fixing it or moving on. no amount of crying or lost sleep is going to change what happened, so i think it is just accepting the situation and keep going. in most situations, it really can be much worse. perspective will almost always keep me from "sweatin the small stuff". i have my health, my family, a roof over my head, food to eat and some other pluses (like the internet) some people may never see in their lives.
so my husband left his socks on the floor again or the kids spilled a box of cheerios.. so what? at least i have a family to love. i won't let it ruin my life.

i hope i answered your question lol. i am tired and rambling.

C&K*s Mommie replied: It depends on the stress as to what reaction I may have. Either I will close up and retreat to my own thoughts so that I can work out a plan of action in my head, or I will become anxious and on edge.

I thank GOD I have not had major stresses in my life, but from what I have had I have dealt well in retrospect I know I can still hold my head high knowing that in some shape or form I am not alone. I am not one to think negatively often, and I despise being around people who do, so keeping a positive attitude about things seems to come naturally for me.

I have not voted in today's poll since none of the answers expressed my thoughts in the least. But if I were to vote, it would be closer to the last choice, but the others may apply too.

The only advice I can give is to
1) know you are not alone in it- someone whether you realize it or not has/is gone through what you are/have.
2) Taking it step by step- having a 'crawl before you walk' attitude can help too.
3) Surrounding yourself with others who will lift you up, not let you wallow in the stress for too long can help as well.