Please Tell me Why I'm Such a LOSER
Kirstenmumof3 wrote:  I don't fit in with the other parents and they sure are letting me know this. They are all a bunch of snobs and b*tches! I can't say anthing right, so I've given up talking to them. I was so hoping to be able to have someone to talk too! I'm so alone here. This other women have there husbands, mothers and MIL's to help them. And I'm here all alone. I guess I'm just giong to have to accept this!
CantWait replied:   I'm so sorry Kirsten. People can be so harsh sometimes and it's unfornate these ladies should know better. All of you are going through the same thing, and they should be there to support one another. You're better then them. I know sometimes it doesn't help, but we're here for times like this when you need to vent or need a virtual hug
cameragirl21 replied: i don't think you're a loser at all, Kirsten.
what happened, what did the women say to you? maybe the problem is with them...i mean who would say mean things to a woman whose son is in the hospital on chemo?!
Kirstenmumof3 replied:
We were in a Parents Meeting, run by one of the Social Workers and they kept interrupting me, not letting me talk, putting down my suggestions. Then later that afternoon, I was talking with another mother about how the staff (doctors and nurses) discriminate against the boys and how girls are always given preference when a Step Down room becomes available, it's basically a private room with there own bathrooms. Anyway one of the mothers (that had been in the group that afternoon) came in and told us that her daughter just got a step down room. So I turned to the other mother and said "See I told you a girl would get a room before Spencer". The other mother told me that it was because her daughter engrafted before Spencer, not true, Spencer engrafted first. So I guess basically I have two problems the parents and I'm sick of sitting in an isolation room where my son has a commode chair and a urinal and has to be sponge bathed by his mother!
Calimama replied: Hun you definitely aren't a loser!! You're better off without friends like that anyway.
J-rod replied: you're not a loser by any means...stay strong....you'll do fine
cameragirl21 replied:
Kirsten, i know you're having a hard time and are in a terrible position that no mother should have to be in so it's obviously much easier to give advice than to take it but i feel you should assert yourself...stand up for yourself.
next time there is a meeting and you're interrupted just say something like, "excuse me but i wasn't finished speaking, i'm sure you wouldn't want to be interrupted when YOU'RE speaking, would you?" and if they're going to put down your suggestions then i think you should ask them if they have any better suggestions and what problems they have with your suggestions.
also, as for Spencer not getting a private room, i think you should take that to the hospital president or someone very high up and tell them that it's very uncomfortable for a boy to have to get a sponge bath from his mother and that while you respect the rights of the girls as well as the boys, it's high time Spencer got a private room, you and he have been waiting long enough.
speak up for yourself because it looks like no one else is willing to speak up for you.
mummy2girls replied: Oh Kirsten i know its hard but try not to let them get to you! i know liek i said easier said than done right? you are at an emotional part of your life because of everything you are going through and have to endure. People like that just pee me off because its like they dont care about others and feel the world should revolve around them  If you need someone to talkt o please give me a call anytime...
my2monkeyboys replied: I agree totally with cameragirl... stand up for yourself. You're going through enough without dealing with inconsiderate b*tches and hospital decisions. Make your feelings and thoughts known, and if they don't like they can kiss your butt.
I hate that you're going through this on top of what is already going on.
HuskerMom replied: Don't worry about it. Maybe they're just jealous of you 
MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Kirsten, you aren't a loser. It will probably be harder to break into this group, but only because they already have support systems there and they aren't looking to expand them. I'm so sorry you have to do this alone. It can't be easy.
As for standing up for you and Spencer, you may have to do it. I know you can, you've done it before. I hope things clear up soon. What a giant PITA this must be for you.
kimberley replied: oh hon, you are NOT a loser, they are! i wish i had a 24/7 sitter so i could stay with you a couple of days. i know this is so hard on you. if you really need to talk you can call anytime.. i am an insomniac 
luvmykids replied: You are not the problem here. Think of what kind of person it takes to treat someone the way they're treating you...then tell me who is the problem.
Kirstenmumof3 replied: Thanks everyone! You sure know how to make a person feel so much better! I guess everything is just starting to get to me and I'm a little sensitive. But you can bet your A$$ that if Spencer doesn't get the next step down room I will say something!
lisar replied: Honey you are not a loser. No way shape or form are you a loser. I think you are a very strong woman.
Maddie&EthansMom replied: Kirsten you're the last person I would ever think of as a loser!  You have shown more patience and strength thru all of this than I think I am capable of in an entire lifetime. I can't begin to imagine how difficult it is for you to go thru each day w/little to no IRL support. On top of that you have to deal w/judgemental, rude women. I'm so sorry. You are better than that. You certainly don't need them. I hope Spencer gets the next step down room. I'm so sorry things are difficult right now.
MoonMama replied:
Dito...I am so sorry Kirsten. Hang in there, you are the strongest women I know!
A&A'smommy replied: I'm so sorry honey, people can be terrible I don't understand why.. probably never will. You are a WONDERFUL woman in every perspective its there loss!!!
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