OK I have a vent.... - please help me out here!!!

punkeemunkee'smom wrote: I am sorry but I just can NOT believe the $%^& that people will say to you knowing you are pregnant and (like all newly pregnant women) are worried about the baby....I swear to all that is holy I have heard every story about every woman that anyone in my general circle has ever known or heard of that has miscarried without any cramping or bleeding, had a baby pass away after they saw a heartbeat, or had HORRIBLE things happen. I also swear that the next person who asks me if I will be able to carry this baby is going to get punched! I have had a few miscarriages very early (like 5 weeks or less) I only knew I was pregnant with one before it happened-the other 3 I found out during it happening cuz I knew something was wrong. So that is 4 in a period of 13 years people.....My doctor says that early they are not even cause for concern as soooo many women have them and I would probably never know except that I do have issues so I am pretty on top of when things are wacky-KWIM? ANYWAY I have losing sleep and making myself crazy worrying about all the crap I keep hearing! These people are supposed to be friends or at least like minded and 1/2 way freakin decent- OR JUST smart enough not to say stupid *(&^ like I keep hearing!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok sorry! I feel a little better now!

lisar replied: Dont stress over what everyone keeps telling you. It wont be good for the healthy baby in you.

Crystalina replied: I'm so sorry but I know just what your saying. In my case the Negative-Nelly is my sister the RN. She's a PITA!!! She told me just last week about how a girl she knows lost her baby in the 8th month (where I am) because the umbilical cord got a knot in it. Every step of my pg she's had something to say and the thing is she's also pg (6mos) and she's just as negative towards her own pg.

She's also the one who told me she thinks Evan has cancer when I discovered a "knot" on his groin when he was 1 and another on his leg. We never did find out what they were but they went away on their own. She's always diagnosing someone with a terminal disease and ever since I could remember she's been dying and has had her nose stuck in a medical bood to figure out what disease was killing her (although she had no symptoms ).

Don't let them get to you. Just do what you've been doing. Some people just don't think before they open their traps.

Don't stress over it. That's not good.

Swood75 replied: I am so sorry that some people are so arrogant..It is enough to worry about your baby when you are pregnant WITHOUT people saying things to worry you more..I am 21 weeks today and worry a lot (even though everything has been fine)I guess it is just part of being pregnant..But I hope people lay off you and let you try to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy without butting in anymore...

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Thanks ya'll!
Crystal-I am sorry you have one like that with your preganncy too! Sometimes don't you just want to slap the crap outta her?

I know things can go wrong but goodness-things can go wrong for the rest of our lives....If you want to get right down to it NOBODY is promised tomorrow so why worry about it. I pray that everyone in my life lives to the ripe old age of 150 and leave it at that! I have not had any problems with this pregnancy. I am nauseus and my tatas are sore but those are both good things as far as I have always heard. I honestly have been scared to even let myself get too excited that I am pregnant because of all this negative crap around me! I am done with that TODAY! I am going to tell people to shut-up from now on! Seriously if you are stupid enough to say this stuff you deserve to have to listen to whatever I choose to say-right?

O and BTW alot of what I have heard comes from people who don't even know I have ever had any problems they just assume it cuz I have such a gap between Tay and this baby! You know what they say about ASSuming!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: FWIW Abbie, I've had a good feeling about this baby from the beginning. I don't know why people say those things. Maybe it's their own fears and insecurities? For some reason everyone worries when they are pregnant. It's the fear of the unknown, I guess. And everyone knows someone who has lost a child or had a child with birth defects, but it doesn't mean you have to love your bean any less. What do they think this information is going to do for you? Change your mind about your unborn child? So many people I know are afraid to get attached to their fetus b/c of this reason, when really they are only hurting themselves. So don't let this change your heart. I know how greatly this baby is loved and how much this baby loves you. There is no need to worry.

BAC'sMom replied: First off I think I would finds some new friends. I think sometimes PEOPLE don’t think before they SPEAK! The next time one of them starts spouting off I think I would set them straight but you know me lol. Tell them that you do not need there negative comments or stories. That you are trying to remain positive and don’t need and or want to hear the BS!

I was told or had to hear horrible stories with every one of my PG’s so I know exactly what you are talking about. Try not to let it get you down…. keep the faith honey.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: It is soo easy to worry when you are pregnant, but Abbie just take it one day at a time and try not to worry or stress out because thats not good for the baby. Think positive. Everything happens for a reason.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: And to comment on losing a baby very early on...this happened to me in January. It is hard to handle, that is for sure, especially when you are ttc. I tested the day before af was due because it was my birthday and I wanted a bfp on my special day. Well I got my bfp, but lost the baby at 5wks and some days. It is true that it happens to so many women and they never know it because its still early to even know they are pregnant.
Dont worry sweety.

DillsMommy replied: Try not to let other people's rudeness bother you. Before you know it--you'll have a beautiful, healthy baby.

Calimama replied: Want me to come over and smack them for you?

Don't listen to them. People can be so negative. I never understand why people waste SO much energy on being like that! So don't let them affect you. Ignore them (easier said then done I know) and think about how healthy and gorgeous your baby will be...

gr33n3y3z replied: Yell no comments from the peanut gallery sometimes dont you wish ppl. would just shut up and not let their opions out of their minds lol
Sorry sweetie things will be fine you just wait and see

Crystalina replied:
Oh that would be a major yes!!!

It started out with us TTC. She said I was too old and that more then likely it would take me 6mos to a year. It only took one month.

Then, "well now your baby may have Down Syndrome". .....

"You are a bit overweight. I bet you get high blood pressure and gestaional diabetes. " Ah, nope. Everything came back fine sister dear.

luvmykids replied: Oh Ab, I'm sorry people have to throw every stupid thought that comes to mind out into the universe

HuskerMom replied: I'm sorry, just ignore them, if there going to say negative things then they're not worth your time.

Before we found out I was pregnant with Keith we had been TTC for 5 years and I kept getting people asking me when we were going to have kids. That just added more stress.