No fighting?

kit_kats_mom wrote: Anyone else never have a fight with their spouse? Dh and I were watching a movie and the couple was very passionate and fought a lot. I told DH (in a joking way) that we should start fighting and then it struck me that we have NEVER had a fight in our 7 years together (4 of them married). Is that totally wierd? We discussed the fact that we both have such a great sense of humor that we are generally able to diffuse any situation that may arise but honestly, I've never really been mad at him at all. Irritated but not mad. We are both just so easy going that I can't see either of us getting our hackles up about anything...well, except for infidelity but I don't see that happening either. If one of us is getting frusterated with K, the other steps in without being asked...it's like utopia. what the heck is wrong with us? I'm sure Dr. Phil would have something to say about it. LOL

amynicole21 replied: Uh, no... we're fighters at our house Good for you guys though... you lead a charmed life for sure Must be very peaceful

jdkjd replied: You guys are just lucky. If Ryan didn't have such an Irish temper, we would never fight but alas...

ediep replied: you are lucky!!!! Thats great! We fight occasionally, but never too bad!

jem0622 replied: We don't usually get into yelling. It would have to be pretty bad for me to ever raise my voice in that way. We disagree. But we really try to handle it in a good way so that the kids aren't seeing us bicker. Plus...now that our time together at night is limited we'd rather not be spending it arguing over anything. It's not worth it!

I say that the healthy side is that you do disagree, but it's just how you choose to handle it. No harm in that.

JMHO

MommyToAshley replied: Try working together...LOL

Seriously, DH and I never fought the first few years that we went out. But, we do get into a few disagreements now and then. I think I am the one that has the temper .... did I just admit that? If we do have a disagreement, it is usually work related. I think I get a little stressed out when things get hectic with the business (while at the same time I try to make sure Ashley gets enough attention). But, I think a disagreement every now and then is good for us.... making up is so much fun!

coasterqueen replied: Ryan and I fight, lol. He would say we wouldn't if I wasn't so stubborn, he's not a fighter. I actually like having a fight here and there, must be my personality. ROFL.

I dated this guy for three years, we never fought. Drove me absolutely insane. He gave me a promise ring, I knew he wasn't the right one for me, lol.

Everyone always told me I should be a lawyer, because I love a good fight whether I believed in what it was we were fighting about or not.

It must be the Irish or German in me.

alice&arik replied: Me and my boyfriend fight all the time. And it is always about stupid stuff. Right now I doubt if things are going to work out between us. I don't mind an argument once in a while, I usually end up laughing at the end anyway. But I don't like how we fight at least once a day, it drives me nuts.

kimberley replied:
LOL! i am the same way. i was told the same thing about being a lawyer. not sure if it is the irish in me or that i am a scorpio but i like a good argument once in a while! making up is fun too i am not one to hold a grudge though. for me, when the argument is over, it is over. i can't stand when people drag things on for days and weeks at a time.

you are lucky Cary! i could use some peace in my house right now.

A&A'smommy replied: wow I wish dh and I had your problem we fight too much i think, but really never without laughing so I'm not worried. Thats great to you two!!!

MomToJade&Jordan replied: LOL!!!!! That's great. I wish it was the same in our house. Both of us are very hard-headed so when we disgaree about something we really disagree. We have learned to avoid some of our fights though. I have got a flash in the pan temper. It's quick and when I'm in a fighting mood watch out. DH is the same way. So when we are really angry with each other we just walk away. If we give it like 20 minutes for both of us to calm down we can disscuss things better.

mummy2girls replied: WTG guys! Im not even married to jennas daddy nor even a couple but we still fight! I got my moms oversensitive about everything from her! NUTS! Oh well. we always end up making up with in a few hours or the next day the latest..LOL

jcc64 replied: Never, Cary?!!!! I find that astonishing. Doesn't it ever get boring agreeing all the time? I think fighting is an essential part of every good relationship. Of course I'm speaking about constructive problem solving, not pointless hurtful stuff. But sometimes working through a fight can bring you closer, kwim, and then there's the make up sex.
I don't know, I'm Italian, and come from a loud, demonstrative family, it's all I know.

kit_kats_mom replied:
OK. So, yall are saying we ARE wierd. Thanks! LOL

Nope, we never fight. We don't always agree on everything but so far, neither one of us has been so set in our ways that we aren't able to come up with a workable solution.
Now, my previous relationship was a very passionate one. We fought all the time and it was exciting and kept me on my toes. Would I be single tomorrow? Will he just take off one of these times? Will I? I found it to be too stressful.

I kind of like our boring life. LOL

jcc64 replied: No, I'm not saying YOU'RE weird, maybe we're the disfunctional poster family, lol?! Dh sounds like you, very non confrontational and quiet, but me, I need a good debate once and awhile. And in the end, even though dh seems more easy going, is quite passive-aggressive and stubborn. Needs a good smack in the head once and awhile lol!

kit_kats_mom replied:
LOL. You've got us pegged. Although I do have an evil side that flares up sometimes and I'll play devils advocate just to see if I can get a rise out of him. Hasn't worked yet. He just plays along and either I quit or he leaves before he gets really irritated.