Never met him, but I hate him - already!!!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: I'm so friggin PO right now, I could scream! I know some of you may not think this is a big deal...but it is to me! Here's the scenario: DH invited his boss and wife over for dinner next Saturday. No big deal. Tonight at dinner, DH tells me that his boss confirmed Saturday and asks DH...get this...what I was making!!! The nerve! So DH says that I haven't decided yet, but gives his boss a few menu options of what I typically make. He says prime rib roast (which is something I only make for special occasions because it's usually like $50+ for one roast), NOT even an option, chicken marbela which has prunes and capers in the recipe (sounds gross, but it's really good), and another chicken dish I make with mushrooms and wine sauce. So the guy says definitely the last option...he "prefers" the chicken with wine sauce. AS IF I'm a friggin restaurant!!..."please select your choice from the menu of Chez Rae prior to visiting!! We hope you enjoy your selection sir! Our guest's preference for dinner is our number one priority!" COME ON!! I've never even met this guy or his wife and he has THE NERVE to ask DH what I'M MAKING???!!!

DH says "come on Rae, don't get so mad, it was just typical guy talk"...and then DH says "well it's just that he is sorta a simple eater and he was probably afraid of what you might make." I'M SORRY...who cares WHAT I make...if it were me coming to his house, I would just be gracious that I was invited. Money is tight, so to me, dinner is a gift!! I looked DH in the eye and said "well I sure hope they plan to bring something...did the @#*&%#$ even ask???" DH says he's bringing a bottle of wine. Big woop! When he hands me the bottle, I should say "oh, no thanks, I don't like that kind of wine. I PREFER red."

I have such a bad taste in my mouth about this guy already that I don't even want to meet him and his wife! But I know it's important to DH. I know I'm being WAY OVER DRAMATIC...but it just really gets to me. I suppose it's because I know that him and his wife do not have kids so they probably think "housewife" Rae should be able to "cook it up right" for them. Can I put poison in the wine sauce??...hahaha...who's laughing now!

mckayleesmom replied:
I would have said....Pizza Hut

JessC replied: WHAT an A$$~!

I would have told them that you were ordering some mcdonalds

ions_momma replied: I would be really mad! What a jerk!

mammag replied: Hey, you know, they sell White Castle in the freezer section of many grocery stores.....make that!

What a jerk!!!

MommyToAshley replied: Maybe he was asking what you were cooking so he could bring a wine that is complimentary to what you were making?

If not, you could always add some laxative to the sauce, hehee.

akbutterfly83 replied:
Now that's somthing I would really do... LOL.... ans DH knows that.... LOL....

JAYMESMOM replied: That is very rude. I would make something completely differnt. LOL.

My in-laws do the same thing when we invite them over. It aggravates me to death.

ammommy replied: Wow, add me to the rude list because I often ask what's for dinner, too. It's usually just out of curiosity but sometimes I need to know because I have a few food sensitivities that I would need to prepare for.
Again I'm in the minority, I guess, because when I invite people for dinner, I like to make sure that I prepare what my guests will like. It's just the way I am, I guess. I hope you can enjoy the meal.

My2Beauties replied: That was really rude, I would never ask someone that if I were coming over thier house for dinner!

moped replied: That is one thing that really pisses me off...............my husband has done that before and I get so mad. We go to freinds for dinner and on the way he will ask what we are having - SHUT UP..................RUDE!

DansMom replied: I think it's appropriate to ask what's being served if you have food allergies or food restrictions (vegetarian, for example), but better yet: communicate that you have these restrictions and offer to bring an entree that covers your needs. We were invited to dinner recently, and I hadn't told the hosts about Daniel's and my restrictions. Needless to say, everything had cheese in it or on it, even the salad and bread They had sprinkled parm on the soup too. But we always have food with us that Daniel can eat instead, bagels and apples and such.

I would not have taken offense at what the boss said. I'm pretty thick-skinned though! Everyone in my family is blunt and asks impertinent questions.

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
Same here. I can see how that would upset you, even though I don't think he meant to be rude about it. Some people are just curious that way (or are picky like me ). Try to have a great time. Sometimes when I'm thinking the most negative about a person or situation before it ever happens...I show up and I'm on my best behavior and I end up having so much fun! Make the most of it! Let us know how it goes!

kidsarecrazy replied: I say if he has such a sensitive stomach...perhaps you should dine out or make it a potluck...It's one thing to ask a couple of days before, but like a week in advance? Man, I rarely know what I'm making for lunch and it's almost lunchtime!

Boys r us replied:
Actually I was going to say the samething!

Not to mention, it is sort of shoot the sh*t talk..ya know..they probably happened to be talking about dinner sat night and then the guy said..well what we having..you know guys and food!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
No you're right...it is appropriate if you have allergies or are strict vegan or something. But this wasn't the case. And I don't think it was because he was trying to pair wine with the menu ether. But maybe. I suppose when the office goes out for lunch, my DH always orders what others would think is "strange". Not strange to US. But stuff like sushi...which the boss said he doesn't like. Okay fine. Plus, my DH mentioned to him about a month ago that I make really great lamb shanks. Well I know lamb isn't for everyone, you either love it or hate it, but I guesss the boss really turned up his nose and said he didn't like lamb and even said to my DH that he hopes I don't make lamb. So I'm only assuming...but I imagine the jerk was scared that I would make lamb or something STRANGE and that was why he was asking. I find that very rude...How about I open the door in a waitressing costume??

Allergies or no allergies...please teach your kids to TRY everything once. I was eating proscuito and mussels as a kid. We had neighbors from Italy and Mexico and they always invited us to dinner. I believe that is why I am so open to so many different types of food now that I'm older. If I didn't like something, my mother taught me to say "no thank you" or just take one bite and leave the rest without saying anything. Always thank your host.

I just think it's rude to think people that invite you over should cater to your needs. But YES, I am someone who wants my guests to feel comfortable and enjoy my cooking.......so even though I'm bitter right now, I will work my little behind off to make them what they want and will try to enjoy myself.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Yep, that's exactly how my DH explained it....just casual guy talk. So you're right. I told DH though that IF HE EVER did this, I would be mortified!!!

You guys are probably all scared to come to MY house now huh??

redchief replied: I'll be over the following Saturday.. I would prefer the rib!

j/k Dominoes delivers.

DansMom replied: I'll come! But I definitely want the prime rib roast

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
I know...you would think this jerk would ask for the prime?? You guys are too funny...thanks for making me laugh!!

3xsthefun replied: I guess I am use to it because Rob asks me alot what is for dinner or what are we going have. Yes it does bug me sometimes but most times I just try to ignore it.

When we have guest over for dinner I try tell them ahead of time what we are having. Just incase there is something they can not eat or do not like. I want make sure that our company enjoys their dinner.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: That`s definitely rude. I would never ask anyone what they`re serving, - but if I`m really curious about the food, I say:
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'can I bring something to complement dinner?'

And usually, the person says.... 'oh no, don`t worry about it, it's just.....spaghetti. Or hamburgers and hotdogs on the bbq. Or pork chops....dot dot dot'

or, 'if you really want to bring something, a bottle of white wine would go well with the chicken'

or soemthign like that.

Thre are ways to phrase things so that you don`t sound rude, and you get the informatino you want without even having to ask for it.

Whever I invite someone over, if I plan it ahead of time, I will tell them what I'm planning to serve, and if there are any problems with that. I have a cousin who is married to a muslim, and he doesn`t eat pork. I wasn`t too sure the first time, so I asked him straight up if he had any alelrgies, or if he had dietary restrictions. He was a little uncomfortable, but he told me what he couldn`t eat, and so i didnt`t make it....and the next time he was over, it was for a bigger gathering, and so I made 2 kinds of stuffed shells - mixed meat (pork and beef) and regular beef, and I told him discreetely that I had some set aside with no pork in it for him. He was very grateful.

Although - on the other hadn - wouldn`t you feel HORRIBLE going to someone`s house and realizing they`re serving what you don`t eat? lol

luvbug00 replied: I would be sooo PO I would tell my Husband "If you want him to come to dinner now, then you cook dinner." His boss didn't need to ask what you were seving for allergies or anything he just should've said, by the way i'm allergic to so and so can you let your wife know. what a jerk!