Need to Vent! Sorry Got a Little Long! - It's about my teenage borders!

Kirstenmumof3 wrote: Oh I'm so upset right now! Actually I've been upset since Saturday! Saturday afternoon DH and I discovered that my purse was missing. We searched everywhere, I even looked in the freezer! I had bought some bread on Friday and thought maybe I had put it in there, by this point we were pretty frantic searching the whole house! My mom had taken me shopping Saturday afternoon and if she hadn't I probably wouldn't have even noticed my purse missing until Wednesday! Anyway by Saturday evening we still had not found it and had to decide if we wanted to ask our borders (3 teenage boys) if they had seen it. We called the on-call counsellor to see how we should handle it, she told us just to go down mention that it was missing. Tell them that if they see it, or come across it just to put it in the Dining Room! So we went down to talk to the students, but one of the boys wasn't home. By Sunday evening it still had not surfaced. I was pretty upset, but not because I lost my cel phone, credit cards, bank cards, health card or anything like that, but because that purse was my Mothers Day present! I went to bed Sunday evening around 10:45. DH went outside for a cigarette and to let the dog out. Well the dog was acting pretty strange and my DH could smell something. Well he caught one of our students sniffing gasoline! He got the bag of gasoline away from him and sent him in the house, he then caught him sniffing an areosal deoderant container. I think they call this "huffing" but I'm not sure! Anyway DH called the on-call counsellor again and let her know what was going on. She sent over one of the other on-call workers and they talked to our student together! Well DH told the on-call worker about my missing purse and how we had talked to them but this student hadn't been home. He said with the way he is acting he wanted to search the room. We have been told in the past that we can search there room if we suspect drug or alchohol use. So he searched the room. He did not find my purse! So this morning I cancelled my credit cards and my bank card. I was making arrangements to go tomorrow to have my health card and my social insurance number cancelled. At around 2:00 we recieved a message on our voicemail from someone. He said he found my wallet in his backyard and left his number! I called him back and the first thing I asked was if my purse was found too and he said no, just a little red wallet. So my DH went over there. The house is about a block away from me, the man has an 8 foot fence. My wallet was obviously thrown over the fence. DH searched the backlane and no sign of my purse! So we checked my wallet and they took all my change (about $4.00) and my buspass (brand new that cost me $30.00) and my cel phone attena was chewed by the dogs that the person who found it owned! I'm pretty upset because now I know that it was one of the borders! I had my purse with me on Friday, I could not have gotten in the house without it because my keys were in my purse. I can't picture someone just walking into my house and stealing my purse! I feel so violated! And there isn't anyway to know which one of those students took it! I had to sit here this evening and have dinner with them and pretend that everything was fine! Anyway the student that was caught sniffing the gasoline wants to go back to his reservation and mentioned wanting to be transferred to another house. I say fine let him go! I don't need these kinds of problems! OH I don't know what to do! I'm so sad!

ediep replied: OMG!!! THAT IS HORRIBLE!!!!!!

definately let him go, I bet it was the huffing kid!!!

heavenly_1970 replied: Thats awful Kirsten! Im so sorry... I hope its all worked out soon!

redchief replied: Kirsten,

I'm not real big on finger-pointing, but drug users (and huffing is drug use) are well known for stealing petty cash and just about anything in pursuit of their next high. It is my educated opinion that he is your thief. Regardless, the young man needs more than a couple hours of counseling. Huffing is dangerous, carcinogenic and causes permanent brain damage.

Be very careful with him. I'm sorry you have to deal with such a difficult situation.

aspenblue1 replied: That is horrible. I am so sorry. I would definately let him go, I agree he was probably the one who stole your purese.

maestra replied: I would want him out too, because that is not the kind of person you want around your kids. What if one of them had seen him? I personally would ask to have him removed immediately. Your dh saw him, so it's not a suspicion, you know for a fact he's huffing.

to all of you, and I'm sorry that your mother's day present was stolen!

A&A'smommy replied: OMG I'm SO sorry ((((BIG HUGS)))) I think if it was me I would ask for him to leave what he is doing is a BAD influence on your children even if he isn't around them very often! That is horrible!!!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Thanks everyone! The counsellors of all 3 boys are supposed to call us tomorrow and talk to us about what happened this weekend! DH and I decided that we are going to ask that the student who was huffing be removed from our home. I had already pretty much decided this, but after reading all of your responses I know I've made the right decission. RedChief you mentioned that he would need help, unfortunately I'm just his bording parent and I can't find counselling for him. It's sad to say this but the counsellors at the school aren't really trained the way Guidance Counsellors are at regular schools. I agree that he does need someone more qualified to help him. I was shocked that the on-call worker didn't bring him to the hospital. But I guess they decided that my DH had caught him in before it got too bad. I don't know. This whole thing just blows my mind.

MommyToAshley replied: I am so sorry this happened to you. I think you are doing the right thing by having the student removed. Anything could happen... your children could see him, he could do something while he is high, or he could catch your house on fire with the gasoline. You have every right to ask him to be removed.

I am so sorry you lost your Mother's Day present.

I hope things settle down once this boy is removed.

kimberley replied: omg! how awful! i agree, you are making the best decision to have that kid removed. sorry you lost your mom day present does this mean you will get another student to replace him? hope things are better soon.

amynicole21 replied: That's Terrible!! I'm glad you have decided to have him removed. I wouldn't want someone like that around my kids I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope your purse turns up!

Kirstenmumof3 replied:
I sure hope so! We take in the borders to help supliment my income. We already lost 1 student (we started with 4) and if we loose another one, I don't know how we are going to pay off our loan!

My2Beauties replied: I am so sorry you had to deal with this!! I would definitely have the kid removed from my home, he does need some professional help, won't the state step in and help this kid? It's really sad and while he probably did steal your purse I still feel sorry for him, he has probably had a really messed up life. I'm sorry about your mother's day present and that you had to deal with this whole mess in general. I wouldn't want him around my kids and huffing is very dangerous, what if one of your little ones found him doing it and later tried to imitate him I would definitely have him removed ASAP!!

(((BIG HUGS TO YOU)))

coasterqueen replied: OMG Kirsten! I can't believe this. ((HUGS)) hon. I'm so sorry this happened to you.