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My inlaws outlaws drive me crazy - And Tanner told them off today!!


TANNER'S MOM wrote: Okay, Those who have been here a while know that my inlaws are my outlaws. I love them I really do, but they just don't treat my children the same. Tanner is there natural grandson, not step. My kids are step and they can't even get a hello. A graduation gift, heck most of the time not even a Christmas gift.

So, here is the story. Tanner has seen his Grandparents twice this summer. They love one town away. He wanted to spend the night w/ his Grandma and I told him SHE had to call him. But he sneak around and called her and invited himself. I didn't have the heart to not let him. That visit didn't go that well. I ended up made at her for something she did and said to him.

Anyway today Dh took Tanner over there for visit number 2. He was there for about 2 hours before I got off work. While he is there Tanner finds out they have planned a big camping and fishing trip with the other grandchildren and didn't invite him. They are spending the weekend and taking ALL the grandchildren except mine of course. Tanner loves fishing and he is very good at it. My Dad takes him ALL THE TIME. I bet last summer he caught over 150 fish. He isn't a worm and bobber kids anymore. He is artifical bait and the whole works. We are taking bass fishing with this kid. So, the fishing really hurt him. His Grandpa was home yet. They were leaving as soon as he got home. But I got the first. He was sulled up and I didn't know why. As we were telling DH's mom bye, Tanner looked at her and said, You know I am your grandkid too. Not just Colton and Cody. I love to fish and I am good at it. But I guess I am not good enough for you. He said my Dad might even like to be invited to the family camp ground too. But thanks for nothing. Randy's mom said Oh you can go Tanner. Just stay and Go with us. He said NO, you tell my Grandpa to call me when he gets here if he wants me to go. She said James doesn't call anyone Tanner, Tanner looked at her and said evidently he does. He called Uncle Randy (my BIL, my husband and BIL are both Randy) to set this up didn't he. And we left.

That kid watched his phone for hours. He kept saying I think Grandpa is off work now. It broke my heart. About 9 he came into me and was crying and said why does my Grandparent not love me. It makes me want to say very bad things to them b/c they hurt my son. I guess I will have to have a no contact rule or something. I have no idea what to say to my child at all. growl.gif

Thanks for reading b/c I have no idea how to handle this. When he was small it was different. I would kind of ignore it. But know he is old to notice the difference himself. And now it hurts.

Darn them!

mckayleesmom replied: UGH!. That just rips my heart out for Tanner. D)(*M them anyways!. They should be ashamed of themselves. growl.gif

Nina J replied: Thats so sad.

My Oma never liked me, it always made me upset. She was a terrible alcoholic and I think it played a part. I remember one night she was over for dinner with Opa, and I was so happy because she actually started a conversation with me. But then I smelt the alcohol on her. So, she never talked to me unless she was drunk. Not really the same situation, but it made me think of my Oma.

Teesa®© replied: bawling.gif bawling.gif I'm so sorry they treat your children like that. They don't know what they're missing.

BAC'sMom replied: Poor Tanner. hug.gif Sorry Mel that sucks! sad.gif

But boy does this sound familiar to me. My Mil has little to do with my kids… her only grandkids. She doesn’t call on birthdays and rarely sends cards for Christmas etc. She has seen Brandeis about 8 times in his life and he’s 12, Ansley twice and Callum only once. Tell Tanner he is not messing out they are! They are missing out on the opportunity to get to know/spend time with a wonderful little boy. That’s what I tell me kids.

gr33n3y3z replied: That really sucks that they act that way tords Tanner
I guess you can plan a camping/fishing trip as part of your family

I cant stand one way ppl. I know it hurts him but its time for him to see what these ppl. are really like.

sparkys2boys replied: Oh Mel, that was realy rotten of them. I would SOOO be saying something to them about the way they treat the people that are to mean the most to them.. family. Poor Tanner, I feel terrible for him.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: hug.gif hug.gif That's heartbreaking! Poor Tanner, but good for him for sticking up for himself! You should be very proud of him, as I know you probably are! hug.gif hug.gif

MoonMama replied: bawling.gif bawling.gif That totally breaks my heart! bawling.gif bawling.gif WTH is wrong with them?! growl.gif mad.gif Tons of hugs for Tanner. hug.gif hug.gif

lisar replied: OMG. How can they do that. It tears me apart just reading that. How can you put a kid thru heart ache like that. I would be calling them and telling them off.

Celestrina replied: Why would they do that? How could they possibly treat a child that way? growl.gif

My2Beauties replied: growl.gif I am so PO'd for you Mel! Poor Tanner bawling.gif sad.gif

Danalana replied: That's awful! Someday they will realize what a great kid they missed out on.

msoulz replied:
This is true - it's their loss. But I am sorry it hurt Tanner's feelings. That is the lousy part. sad.gif

A&A'smommy replied: growl.gif growl.gif That makes me SOOO mad I don't understand people.. growl.gif growl.gif Poor Tanner bawling.gif hug.gif hug.gif

Calimama replied: I would be steaming!!! Poor Tanner. sleep.gif hug.gif


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