My brother might be moving in with us

Maddie&EthansMom wrote: I'm pretty sure. I haven't talked to him yet, but I don't see why he wouldn't do it. Scotty and I talked about it and HE is on board..I was shocked, but Scotty is a good man and he'll give anyone a chance if they are trying to help themselves.

Jody isn't in the best situation right now. He's in a recovery home with no car, no job, no money, no way to do anything or get anywhere. He's never lived on his own, He's been on drugs for 15 years and does not know how to rationalize. He gets so flustered. I don't blame him. He is just thrown out there and has no way to do anything. I keep taking him food, but the other people in the house eat it all. I can't keep taking him food, my mother can't keep sending him money. He is living with the guy who started this program, but he is so wishy washy and Jody may not see him for DAYS and he promises Jody things and doesn't follow thru. Jody hates to keep asking him.

I think if he came here it would be easier for him to get a job. Jody is a hard worker..he would help me around the house as well. We could help him save his money and get on his feet. He could find a group and go to church with us every Sunday. He's doing SO well and I'm very proud of him. I just want to make it a little easier for him to get on his feet. He would have his money saved in no time and could get an apartment nearby.

Right now he's just running in circles and he's trying so hard to get a job, to get his license back and to pay rent, etc. Nothing is going in his favor lately. I will not enable him. I'm too hard for that and he knows it. That's the reason I want him here and not home with my parents. They will enable him and he'll fall back into his old habits. Besides, there's nowhere to work up there and he doesn't want to be there. He wants an opportunity for a fresh start. He deserves it.

I will keep you posted and let you know what HE says when I talk to him.

amynicole21 replied: Wow - that's great! I hope everything works out.

Bee_Kay replied: OMG Aimee, I wish all of you the best of luck.

I've been there with my sister. She was into drugs, drinking, an abusive relationship.
She called me on night crying (she lived 3 hours away) and asked that we come get her immediately because "my bf will really kill me this time".
So, we did and didn't expect much from her right away.

As much as i love my sister, it didn't last too long. She was out drinking (and regretfully) sleeping around... coming in drunk at all hours of the night and waking my kids by stumbling around.

So, finally I had to tell her (and it hurt to to do)... no more or you have to leave.

She straightened right up.

I really hope and pray it goes well and hope your brother gets his life in order!!

C&K*s Mommie replied: What an incredible human you are and an incredible sister! I hope he agrees and is able to take more strides in the best direction for himself. Prayers that he will accept your offer, and that everything will work for the best for him.

gr33n3y3z replied: I think your a great sister for helping out your brother

mckayleesmom replied: Aimee...that is very nice of you and Scotty. I just want to heed one warning because I have been there and done that. BE CAREFUL. I know you love your brother but sometimes they do anything to get that money for drugs. They might love you back but they will steal to get what they need......Lock up all your valuables before he comes to stay...I urge you.

BAC'sMom replied: I think you are a wonderful sister for trying to help.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I should add that Jody has 7 months sober now. He has absolutely no desire to use. He's been around drugs and has had a really hard time these past 3 weeks and has stayed clean. He was really, really tired of that lifestyle and ready to make a change. I've seen it all. I know what drug addicts are capable of. Trust me when I say that I am hard. I will have no qualms about kicking him out on the street if he burns me. He knows it, too. All of my brothers know that I would not lift a finger for them unless they are helping themselves. Jody had a bad bad bad bad problem. I cannot even express to you how bad off he was. I can truly say that he has turned his life around and is doing very well. I would not think twice about letting him in my home around my children unless I knew this for sure. He did have a problem with stealing. He stole everything from my parents and my grandmother. Wiped them out. My mother still has trouble forgiving him. He stole my grandmother's checks and wrote thousands in hot checks. He's a completely different person now. He doesn't even know that Jody anymore.

Bee_Kay replied: Well..... I hope his life continues on the UP-AND-UP!!!

Congrats to him for getting and staying clean!!

mammag replied: Aimee that is so great of you. It sounds like that will be his best chance of getting back on track again.

I wish him....and you all the luck. The world could use more people like you!

C&K*s Mommie replied: CONGRATS to him on 7months clean!

kimberley replied: that is a good thing you and Scotty are doing. i hope your brother accepts. p&pt that it all works out. keep us posted.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Scotty and you have a good heart. I hope it all works out for him and he gets his life where he wants it.

ions_momma replied: That is greta of you guys to do!! I hope everything works out for all of you and that he is able to get back on his feet.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: What a lucky guy to have such an awesome sister!! I trust that you wouldn't bring him around your kids if you didn't trust that he was clean...so sounds like a good idea IMO. Good luck...keep us posted!

CantWait replied: I hope he decides to do the best thing for himself. That really sounds like starting new and moving in with you guys. Best of luck

ashtonsmama replied:


KUP.

Brias3 replied: Wow, Aimee, best of luck. That's wonderful what you and Scotty are willing to do for your brother. Hope this is the break he needs to get on his feet!

luvmykids replied: Aimee, you and Scotty are great! I know exactly what you mean about helping someone trying to help themselves, theres a big difference between that and still playing the victim. The fact that he's making such great strides and has 7 months sober under his belt is huge! I think it's wonderful that you're in a position to help him get on his feet and sounds to me like he really just needs a little support.

A&A'smommy replied: Amiee that is wonderful I really hope that starting new will be good for him, Good luck to ya'll!! And for 7months that is awesome!!

My2Beauties replied: You are such a wonderful person Aimee for doing this. I know you're making the right decision. I hope he accepts!