Parenting Club - Parenting Advice, Parenting Message Boards, Baby Message Boards, Pregnancy Message Boards, TTC Messge Boards
Shop for Baby Items | Parenting & Family Blogs

Maybe he's not ready for preschool


Maddie&EthansMom wrote: Ethan cried briefly on his first day of school (last Weds) and did really well the rest of the day. Well, he didn't nap, but he was in a good mood. Monday was his second day of school and the same thing...he cried briefly when I left, but this time he napped 30 mins and cried the full hour til I came to pick him up. sad.gif This morning he started whimpering when we pulled into the parking lot and he looked so scared and sad. bawling.gif My mom said it might be a good idea to pick him up after a couple of hours and each time just keep adding more time until he adjusts. I'm not sure what to do. I told Scotty I would wait til the end of this month and withdraw him if it's not any better. He's fine after I leave. I think he's just putting on a show for me, but I feel so bad. Especially when I don't HAVE to leave him there. sleep.gif

What would you do?

Our Lil' Family replied: I like your mom's idea. Don't give up just yet....anything new takes an adjustment period!

Just thought about this....is today his first day back from your weekend away?? Maybe that had something to do with it?

amynicole21 replied: Poor guy. sad.gif I can tell you from experience though - it IS just a show for you. Both of my kids do it. The teachers roll their eyes at my little drama queens and say "you realize they're fine 2 minutes after you leave, right?" rolleyes.gif And they've been going to the same place for over a year! hug.gif

A&A'smommy replied: hug.gif awwwieee well I certaintly don't know what to tell you but I hope you find something that works for you!!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
Monday was his first day back and I know he was exhausted..thus the reason he slept. I think when he woke up on Monday from his nap he was still sleepy and probably confused. He is such a momma's boy. I go pick him up in 20 mins. I will let you know how his day went. I hope he did fine.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Kait still does this on occasion, its mainly for show and she is fine once I leave. Sometimes its simply cause she misses me, like when I have had to work longer hours and dont get to see her much. hug.gif give him time.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
It's very common, and yes, kids do like to put on a show for their parents. He may feel genuinely upset, but usually it's after mom leaves (out of sight, out of mind type thing) that they usually stop. It has only been a few days, so you have to give it time. Some kids take a month to 2 months to adjust. He will get use to it and adjust within time. Even kids who have been in places for ages do it because they want to see if mom or dad will stay. And, when a parent does, it only makes it worse because they know "mom will just stay if I keep doing it". If he's fine after you leave, then he will probably do just fine after he adjusts for awhile.

Try not to stick around too long when you drop him off. It will only delay the inevitable and not help him adjust more quickly. Say goodbye, give him a kiss and say I love you, and then leave. Just a suggestion. It works. Good luck!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Well, whaddaya know...he had a wonderful day! tongue.gif He napped for an hour and a half and woke up in a really good mood. The teachers said to give him time to adjust that it's just the age. Some days are good and some are bad. They definitely suggested I stick with it. wink.gif



Trust me, I'm not the type of mom to hang around. (that sounds worse than it really is laugh.gif ) We show up, I hand him over to his teacher, tell him bye and leave. I think in part that is why he doesn't cry very long, but as long as I"m there he is crying. I can't stand to watch that. Maddie was the complete and total opposite. I will get used to this and he will be fine. Thank you all for your support. hug.gif

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I wish more parents that I have had in daycare would have realized this. So glad he had a wonderful day! He'll do great!

kimberley replied: wub.gif glad he did better today. it is a small adjustment but i think he will be just fine. he will benefit so greatly interacting with the other kids. give it time.
when i worked at a daycare, we wouldn't allow full day drop offs for the first week. it was just too hard on the kids and us. it was a few hours with mom the first day, then a couple of hours alone the second, and just adding more and more time until the end of the week. but those kids were really young, i am sure Ethan will adjust much faster. hug.gif

C&K*s Mommie replied: Glad he is adjusting. hug.gif Good to know also that you are not the type to linger on while their child puts on a show. wink.gif That definately has plays a big part in it.

CantWait replied: Glad he's adjusting. hug.gif hug.gif Sometimes things just take a little longer.

luvmykids replied: hug.gif Glad today was a better day. Even when I know it's all an act I am heartbroken for a little while after, guess those mama's boys just know how to hit us where it hurts wink.gif

coasterqueen replied: Glad he had a better day.

I'm not sure I believe kids act like that for 'show'. I believe they truly are a bit sad, maybe even scared that we leave them. I know when Kylie and Megan whimper or cry they genuinely don't want me to leave, but unfortunately I DO have to leave to work. They both do well once I leave but they don't act after I leave because they know there's nothing more they can do about it. It's not like they can scream and cry to their dcp and it's going to bring me back and they know that.

So I really, personally, don't think kids do it for "show". I think they genuinely feel sad, etc and are expressing that to us and it shouldn't be dismissed.

If my girls continued to have issues, I personally wouldn't keep taking them if I DIDN'T have to, but that might be easier said that I'm not in that situation.

hug.gif hug.gif

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
Nope, I don't have to send him and that's why I was so conflicted, but I feel better now that he had such a great day. I think it will be good for both of us. happy.gif


CommunityNewsResources | Entertainment | Link To Us |Terms of Use | Privacy PolicyAdvertising
©2024 Parenting Club.com All Rights Reserved