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MIL VENT!!!!!!!!!!


coasterqueen wrote: I am so angry right now I could spit and I don't even know why. mad.gif My MIL moved back here last December. She never contacted us to let us know she moved here from California, several months later we finally contacted her. She had NEVER saw Kylie ever in her life and Megan was on the way at the time. So we started getting together with her and her DH several times a month and things have been great. We have bumps in the road with her religious preference (Jehovah Witness) but we deal. We even let her give us "lessons" on her religion just so she'll spend time with the girls.

Anyways, DH has asked and asked for me to call his mom and set up a visit here and there so the girls could see her and her DH. I contacted her right after Dh left for Louisiana once but she never got back to me. Then DH asked her if she could go to Chicago with me and the girls in December and watch them while I put on a conference for three days. She said sure, no problem, but was being rather difficult on HOW we were actually going to get to Chicago. So then a month went by and she all of a sudden decides she CAN'T go to Chicago and help me out because her back is bad and she's afraid it will go out why she's in Chicago and her DH can't come with her because someone has to watch the dog. Umm, her other son comes to her house daily, can't HE feed the dog. Grrrrr. mad.gif

So I got over that whole issue even though a month has gone by and I ended up having to beg my FIL and Step-MIL to go with me.

Well I decided over the weekend to email her and ask if she wanted to get together and also if she could watch the girls for 4 hours max over next weekend so I can go get my hair done. I figured this would be her time to spend w/the girls. Hadn't heard back from her on that.......(more to this)

THEN this morning my sitter told me she needs to take Thursday off unexpectedly and I already had to take yesterday off because she had another appt. SO I called her and LM because she didn't answer BEGGING her to watch the girls for me Thursday because I'm desperate for a sitter.

Well I just got an email from her telling me she wants to get together Friday night to visit but that she can't watch the girls this weekend because her DH has committed to helping her sister move over the next two weeks and she is afraid her back will go out and he can't help her. UM, WHATEVER! dry.gif SO I emailed her back asking her if she got my phone message and if she could watch the girls this Thursday. NO reponse yet. But my assumption is if they can't this weekend then they can't this Thursday. So I guess I have to go in and ask my boss off for MORE time. sleep.gif Man this is so tough with DH gone. bawling.gif bawling.gif bawling.gif

I swear I'm NEVER asking that woman for another thing. Ok, so she has a bad back BUT she sure can go work on this house they bought to fix up whenever she feels like it and she sure makes it to ALL Jehovah Witness meetings but she can't help me out when I'm in a bind? growl.gif growl.gif growl.gif growl.gif

I would ask my FIL and Step-MIL to watch the girls this Thursday but they are already not happy about taking 3 days off in December so I don't want to ask them for more help. Can't ask my mother because she was off yesterday for a funeral. bawling.gif bawling.gif bawling.gif bawling.gif

I need a punching bag right now I'm so upset. growl.gif growl.gif growl.gif

Nathansmom replied: I'm sorry you're MIL is being like that...I would be so angry too!

That's why I don't talk to my MIL...it just got too nasty and made me too angry all the time. I'm better off now.

TANNER'S MOM replied: We need a In Law stress ball around here.

I am sorry you are feeling this stress. I am sorry you can't count on her. And I am like you I wouldn't ask her for anything ever.. and I probably wouldn't call her again..until she made the effort... But that is how I became a bitter old woman. I hope you work it out. And if you have to ask your boss for time off.. I hope the good fairy waves a nice wand over his head..lol

JP&KJMOM replied: Sorry that you are having to deal with a MIL nightmare. I have one too and it is so frustrating all the time. She hurts my feelings on a daily basis and has for the last 12 years. I have just stopped asking mine too and ignore most of her terrible comments but it is hard.

Hopefully you will find a good solution to your sitter problem.


amymom replied: hug.gif I am so sorry.

My2Beauties replied: I'm sorry MIL is being a PITA! hug.gif I hope she comes around soon. I can't believe she moved from California and didn't even tell you guys ohmy.gif

ammommy replied: I'm sorry she's like that. The sad thing is that in a few years, she will realize how much time she has missed with everyone. I don't have a punching bag, but you can Slap a clown if it makes you feel better tongue.gif

3xsthefun replied: I'm so sorry your MIL is being a PITA! hug.gif

mckayleesmom replied: Sorry girlie...I wish I still lived in Illinois...I would have drove up and watched them..The girls would have had a blast and Russell could have met his future wife laugh.gif

gr33n3y3z replied: I wish I lived closer to you I would help you out anytime day or night

(( hugs ))

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: What a total PITA! I don't know what to say... hug.gif

lisar replied: Girl I know how you feel. My MIL is the same way. She will beg to see them but when it is convient for me it isnt for her. She hasnt seen the new baby in 2mths. And she lives 10 minutes away. I hope everything works out for you

LIsa

coasterqueen replied: Lisa (ammommy) that's great! Thanks for letting me slap the clown. laugh.gif

Thank you everyone for letting me vent and your support. My MIL called back late this afternoon and said she'd take the girls on Thursday but has a meeting in the morning she can't get out of (Jehovah witness bible study) so I will only have to take 1/2 day off.

I still won't ever ask her for help again. dry.gif


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