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coasterqueen wrote: Last night Kylie and I were getting our swim suits on in the Y women's locker room. There are only benches in front of lockers...no real dressing rooms. I think nothing of it and get dressed right there in front of everyone.. I don't care. There was a woman right beside us with her little boy and she looked at me like I was a freak for getting dressed right there. She took her little boy into the bathroom and got dressed in a stall. EWWWWWWWWWWWW!

I guess my mother always taught me that there's nothing to be ashamed about no matter how fat you may be. tongue.gif

MomToMany replied: I'd change in the bathroom. I'm so ashamed of myself, I wouldn't want anyone else to see that.

The last time we went swimming at the Y, everyone kept staring at me, probably because of my HUGE (O)(O)'s. I'm so self-conscious, I went & changed.

Boys r us replied: I just change right there in front of everyone...my parents always made sure we were comfortable with our bodies and taught us that our bodies are nothing to be ashamed of.

favre4fan replied: rolling_smile.gif I am the same way!! my oldest son doesen't care either. He was telling me the football coach had said that they could wear swinsuits when they get their showers after practice. Nolan said he didn't care he would walk around the whole locker room naked!! Of course this is coming from 2 boys that mooned my 72 year old aunt at my dads house when they were swimming while we were in florida for our wedding. gee I am glad they are so comfortable with there bodies!! rolleyes.gif

coasterqueen replied:
See that's what my mom taught me as well. Although I am ashamed of how I look (from within)...I really don't give a rats patootie what others think of me...well for the most part, lol. I guess I just barf at the thought of dragging Kylie to a bathroom stall to change. First it shows her to be ashamed of her body...second she'd be touching every disgusting germ in there while I'm trying to get dressed. rolling_smile.gif

coasterqueen replied:
Hee hee that reminds me..I asked DH this question last night and he says he's fine with changing in front of everyone in the locker room but he's VERY uncomfortable seeing men just getting out of the shower walking around strutting their stuff while their towel is on their shoulder. They could have the decency to wrap it around them while they are walking around he said. rolling_smile.gif rolling_smile.gif

Boys r us replied: Men are always unconfortable seeing the beans and franks of other men!
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I try to understand this...but I can't really. DH and I have discussed this on many occaisions..and he's like, I just don't WANT to see it. and I'm like well, why..? what's it matter? it's no different than his elbow..
But he just can't grasp it...I guess we grew up in very different households.
My parents always said, your bodies and sex and all of that stuff, it's nothing to be ashamed of or to be kept a secret or taboo..but I understand a lot of people didn't grow up with that privledge and I say privledge b/c I truly think it is...it helps create a open person who doesn't ever have to feel ashamed over natural things..not to mention it's a wonderful thing to be able ot be open and honest with your parents as a teenager about things going on with your body and your relationships.

alice&arik replied: I would just change out there in the open. When I was in the Army we had to shower together to. There were 8 shower stalls for about 60+ girls. And we only had 30 minutes to get showered and in bed. Some nights we only got 15 minutes. So can you picture us all in the shower stalls. Some nights we had to have 3 to a stall, then you run under the water, run out and soap, run back under to rinse. rolling_smile.gif I was always embarassed about my body until then. And I learned that nobody is perfect. But I am still self-conscious. blush.gif

kimberley replied: when i took water aerobics, i always went in the change room/ washroom to change but... OMG... these 50-70yo women are sooooooo not shy!! they are in the buff everywhere you look. guess i am a bit of a prude that way... and a little insecure blush.gif

Kaitlin'smom replied:
rolling_smile.gif OMG ohmy.gif that is soooo funny, it actually hurt to laugh so hard glad I was not drinking my juice

coasterqueen replied:
You so just made a pregnant woman about pee her pants!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG ROFLMAO!!!!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: we have changing room out the gym, but if I had to choose i woudl do it in the open, granted I would not run around stark naked but change one half then the other, i am a bit uncomfortable with my body right now hense going to the gym

A&A'smommy replied: LOLOL ya'll are so funny, I unfortuantly am ashamed of my body now, before I got pg I was just a little shy.

jcc64 replied: While I found the beans and frank comment infinitely amusing, I don't quite agree with it. We have a very sports oriented family- my dad was a high school football coach, dh was an all county football/baseball player, brothers, my own kids, etc.
I was always shocked at how they all walked around the locker room naked for extended periods and showered in the big common shower rooms, and seemed utterly casual about it. When I pick up my son after his football games, the door to the locker room is wide open, and I can see them all walking around naked, RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE DOOR, like they could care less who saw them. I don't think they discussed or commented on each others' equipment, but I don't think they avoided the exposure the way many girls seem to.

coasterqueen replied:
emlaugh.gif emlaugh.gif Sorry I'm still cracking up on the beans and frank thing. Hee hee.

It's great that they don't feel that way. I know my Dh and his friends will say that walking around like that is a bit uncomfortable for them, though. Don't really know why. I think they are afraid they are going to turn gay or something stupid like that. rolleyes.gif

So Jeanine....are you just as comfortable dressing out in an open locker room too? Just curious...you commented about the men.

favre4fan replied: rolling_smile.gif beans and franks!!My boys call their members PICKLES!!Thanks to the Dh that is his fault!! When we first moved in together Austin came out of the bathroom naked and DH said "Boy put your pickle away!" It has stuck ever since!

paradisemommy replied: first off.. emlaugh.gif rolling_smile.gif franks and beans!! emlaugh.gif rolling_smile.gif

i think it would be different for say like a team - guys have such good comraderie (sp?) that i think everyone gets along so well that they are comfortable and it's not like being around strangers.

i also think that there is such a stigma about their *size* that that is why they are so shy with the masculinity.

i'm so glad women are not like that!!! i would get dressed pretty much anywhere. i grew up with 2 older sisters and a brother and maybe that is what helped but i'm not shy when it comes to changing!! plus like alice said..being in the military kinda takes away any inhibitions you have too!! they give you such little time to shower that you had to basically run to the shower with a blob of shampoo ON your head, toothbrush in your mouth and soap on your hand..LOL

jcc64 replied:

Well, I wouldn't say comfortable, but I do it nonetheless. I definitely would not hide in a bathroom stall.

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: At the Y where we live they have family locker rooms. It is awesome, it is the small room with shower, toilet and a couple benches to put you stuff on. It makes it so much easier than having to change and put the swim diaper on at home and praying she doesn't *go* in the car on the way there.

Josie83 replied: well I wouldn't just let it all hang out. No way! I don't have a bad body but the way i see it its only for mine and Jason's eyes! I woud get changed out in the open but wriggle in and out of clothes so that noone could see anything. I wouldn't be mincing about giving anyone an eyeful. My family are strict catholics and sex and nudity are not looked upon favourably. personally I don't appreciate seeing other women's parts in my face either, just a personal preference. And Nichole HOW funny are you anyway? xx

coasterqueen replied:
We have a few of those at our Y too...but it just seems weird going into them..I don't know why. We just use the regular women's locker room.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm with Josie on this one. I'm not ashamed of my body, but I am shy around strangers. I just don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. blush.gif With that being said, I dont' think I have ever been in a locker room with Maddie. wink.gif

But, around the house it is different. Scotty and I both walk around naked after a shower or while getting dressed. I don't want Maddie to be ashamed of her body or the male figure, either. She has never pointed to Scotty's frank and beans and asked what it was and she has never noticed that there is a difference between she and Ethan. (I'm guessing b/c Scotty has never been shy) Sure she knows she is a girl and he is a boy, but she thinks nothing of it. I'm sure as she gets a little older things might change, but probably not. My parents always would run and hide when I was little. I just dont' want to be that way. I was very naive and was ashamed to talk about sex and the male figure as I got older. It is very natural and we should not be ashamed.

Jamison'smama replied: We are also 'naked around the house' people but Jamison has noticed that DH has something different and tends to 'run towards it' so he has to be much more careful. I know that it is my issue and I need to get past it but I am a -change in private- person. When we took swimming lessons, we took them with a friend so we would change our kids while the other person changed in either the restroom or in the shower stall. I just can't change in front of other people--I think it would have been a little easier if I didn't know anyone but changing in front of a friend..I just couldn't do it--this has been an issue for a LONG time. I used to go in the shower fully dressed at cheerleading camp--remove clothes, take a shower and put clothes on before coming out. My family is not modest so I am not sure why I am......hmmmm

mama3x replied: I voted other: I would put on whatever at home first so that the only thing I would have to take off of myself or my kids would be the outer clothing. Before going home, I'd probably either take the kids into the bathroom stall and change us there or I'd do the wrap the towel around the body and change under it thing.

I personally feel that no one has a right to look at my body and especially my kids' (I am paranoid about weirdos). HOWEVER if others don't feel the same and let it all hang out, well good for them! I just don't look.

Franks and beans... laugh.gif I never heard that before... laugh.gif That's a good one! I think that's a little more complimentary than pickles... laugh.gif Green and bumpy if you know what I mean...sorry! laugh.gif

lsjulee replied: I guess we are probably more conservative here. All of us go to bathroom stall to get change. happy.gif

Except for one popular gym chain here. The girls are all simply so out of extraordinary. They could just bare it all and walk around in the locker rooms. I wouldn't get bothered so much if they could just stop massaging (applying lotion) themselves naked in the open. Mann, what a show!! puke.gif But to a wrong target of 'audience'. wacko.gif

lsjulee replied:
rolling_smile.gif sorry have to laugh at the way you illustrated. rolling_smile.gif

loveydad replied:
ITS TRUE! Nah it doesn't bug me at all. I just don't look. I spent a time when I had to a lot - so I don't care anymore.

However I won't change out in the open, even though right now I'm fairly decent looking (or so I hear from my gf) I used to be way way underweight and sickly...ughhhhhhh . Anyway. I dont' think people should judge.

Boys r us replied: Lovey dad said it..the whole football team may walk around naked...but they don't LOOK...
Heaven forbid anyone's eyes go below the shoulders! Guys are WEIRD!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: blush.gif I change in the washroom where noone can see me! I will breastfeed in front of anyone, but I just can't change in front of other people! blush.gif


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