Let's talk about - diaphrams

Bamamom wrote: So who has used one? Did you love it or hate it? Would you recommend it to others?

Without going into too much detail that you guys don't want to know...condoms suck .

So I'm looking into other alternatives. Since I'm bf my options are limited. I won't take the mini-pill or use and IUD as I'm opposed to the way they prevent pregnancy (prevent implantation rather than prevent ovulation). So my choices seem to be condoms or diaphram. And I hate condoms

A&A'smommy replied: Actually IUD's prevent fertilzation of the egg not implantation at least that is how the newer ones work anyway I would suggest the Mirena

There is no single explanation of how Mirena® works. Mirena® may:

Block sperm from reaching or fertilizing your egg
Make the lining of your uterus thin (this may also result in benefits like less menstrual bleeding over time)
Stop the release of your egg from your ovary (but this may not be the way it works in most cases)
It is believed that all 3 of these actions may work together to prevent pregnancy.

JulieJ replied: Diaphrams are ok, but my issue was yeast infections with it...just a thought.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
I had the Mirena for 3.5yrs before we decided to ttc and I will be getting it again after this baby is born.

PrairieMom replied: A
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Abstinence
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lovemy2 replied:


I just had my tubes tied - but if you aren't looking for something permanent then obviously not a good choice - I couldn't go with inserting anything into my body - ie: IUDs, etc. and I knew we were done and my DH is a wimp - so I had it done

jcc64 replied: Used a diaphragm in college and absolutely HATED it. The whole thing just sucked--the having to plan ahead, dealing with the grossness afterwards, etc...I also got yeast infections. My advice, pick something else. I briefly considered the Mirena, but read so many horror stories about side effects that I bailed on that one too. I take nothing with hormones, however minimal. So there are basically no good options for me. We use the "pull and pray" method, and it's served us well, though at this point, I think it's really time for dh to get a vasectomy. We are both 43, after all.

A&A'smommy replied:
its five year if i ever get af back thats what i'm getting

jacobsmama replied:
This is exactly what I was going to say. The mirena is awesome. 90% of our patients who have them put in, love them! I think it would be a good choice.

Why wouldn't you want to take Micronor?? (the mini pill) it is progesterone only and completely safe..

A&A'smommy replied:
yeah I forgot to mention the minipill I took that when I had alyssa and it was the ONLY thing that didn't mess me up.. of course NOW it does but I just don't take other harmones being put into my body very well that it why I'm getting the mirena I just cannot be careful enough right I do NOT want to have another surprise right now

Bamamom replied: Sorry I'm so long getting back to this - we went to a ballgame yesterday (ROLL TIDE).

My issue with the minipill and Mirena is that they affect the lining of the uterus so that the fetus cannot implant. Neither of them guarentee that the sperm and egg won't meet. I think (and this is my opinion - PLEASE lets don't start a debate here) that once the sperm and egg meet then there is a baby. If I'm affecting the lining of my unterus so that implantation can't occur then IMO I'm basically having an abortion.

We soooooo can't deal with another baby right now. My body is just worn out. 3 babies in 2 1/2 years will do that to you....

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I understand your concern about the pill and Mirena...I know several women who have delt with the same feelings! We haven't used anything to prevent a baby in years (thus the on the way now ) but I can ask what those women use. I believe that some of them use a patch from the holistic store that makes your PH sperm unfriendly-like a foam would....

MommyToAshley replied: I have been debating this issue as well. I can't take anything with hormones due to the fact that I have fibrocystic breast and had a history of calcification, so my chances of breast cancer are higher with any kind of hormones.

We've been practicing the same thing as Jeanne (and the occasional use of condoms), but that has me a little worried as of today.

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
Oh Dee Dee that would be the BEST news! Come on one more surprise baby!

Celestrina replied:
Same here!

Jamison'smama replied:
????? Dee Dee?????


We use the same method too (as Jeanne) and it's worked for us as well. However I had fertility issues so I am less of a risk for accidental pregnancy.

Bamamom replied:
Okay Dee Dee - you can't leave us hanging on that one......


I'm really scared of pull and pray as DH can just look at me from across a room and we get pg. Seriously - we DTD ONCE the month Luke was concieved...I mean what are the odds?!?!?!?!

MommyToAshley replied:
It's not that I am intentionally leaving you all hanging, but you know as much as I do at this point. AF was due to show up today and she didn't come, but that doesn't mean she won't come tomorrow. The only thing that has me worried is that I usually spot a day or two before her visit, and I am usually crampy, and I'm not a very pleasant person to be around the day before she comes. There's been no spotting, no cramping, and DH isn't hiding out in the basement. But, that still doesn't mean that she won't show up... right?

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
Right! BUT, I'm hoping she doesn't.

We also pull and pray. Or, he pulls and I pray we "accidentally" get pregnant. I can't take any artificial hormones, either...with my family history of breast cancer. So far it's worked for us. If I were super fertile I would probably have my tubes tied by now...or DH would have had a vasectomy. I'm actually considering that balloon surgery. I can't remember the exact name of it. It's sounding better every month as my cramps continue to worsen.

Calimama replied:
Oh gosh that'd be so neat!!!

PrairieMom replied:
I tend to agree with you on this one. Its one of the reasons that we aren't using any BC (other than abstinence) right now. Poor poor DH.

A&A'smommy replied: I guess I don't know that much about bc.. but we have used the pull and pray for 3 years or something before we decided to have Autumn and it worked great for us and i'm obviously VERY fertile. Good luck with your choice it is hard.. personally I don't like any kind of bc but you know you gotta do what you gotta do

Bamamom replied:
We expect updates three times daily . I'm with the others. I think people who have beautiful children have an obligation to have several in order to make up for all the not so pretty people who seem to procreate like crazy J/J but it would be cool for yall to have another.

A&A'smommy replied:
I know your going to hate me but I'm hoping that you are preggo

My3LilMonkeys replied:
I am the same way - I conceived 2 kids while using BC (condoms with Brooke and the mini pill with Bobby) and Madison was conceived less than 2 weeks after I stopped taking the pill. I can't deal with the artificial hormones either as they give me horrible headaches so given the options of 1) use condoms for the rest of our lives or 2) a permanent solution DH chose to get a vasectomy.

jcc64 replied: I'm selfishly wishing Dee Dee is pg too!

We've been successfully using pull and pray since I started having sex 25 years ago at the age of 17. I am extraordinarily fertile- have gotten pg on the first try 4 times (one was a miscarriage), but always had a cycle you could set a clock by. Now that I'm 43, my cycle is a little more unpredictable and I can't always tell with certainty when I'm ovulating. I think we need to go for the vasectomy, dh is game, but there is some irrational part of me that can't deal with it emotionally. It's ridiculous, b/c I don't want anymore kids, so I don't know what my problem is...
For those considering the Mirena, I implore you to do your homework online first.