Last night...

MyBabeMaddie wrote: I know I never come around much but I just need to get this off my chest. First of all I have to say that it is somewhat fitting this happened because this past week marks the one year anniversary of Adam going to jail for hitting me/us breaking up.


I mentioned months ago Adam got out of rehab again around the first week of January. Things were going okay I was supervising visits, he was working, was giving me extra money and seemed to be trying really hard to make up for all the stupid crap he has done (Not to get back with me just to be a good Dad). Well he started slipping in mid-February by gambling again, calling off work to go down to Wheeling Island (casinos), moved out of the Half-Way house and into an apartment with another drug addict.... So From Mid-Feb to the beginning of May he never saw her. Finally the first week of May or so I was at wits end of not having any help with Madison and I talked to his mom and we all agreed that if Madison was at his mother's house Adam could take her. So he started taking her overnight once a week at his moms house and everything seemed great. Well 2 weeks ago I started questioning him because he refused to go to his mom's house, saying she was too busy to have them over, he had no money etc.

Friday night something came up with my friend (long story) and She was an emotional wreck. I called Adam up and asked him to take her Friday night so I could go over to my friend's house and make sure she was ok. He said no, I'm not doing you any favors I'm busy. Whatever. Saturday we had arranged for him to take her overnight. Saturday morning I woke up and called him and said "I know we arranged for you to get her at 1 oclock but I am going to the pool and you can either take her before I go to the pool or I will take her to the pool and you can get her around dinner time". He was like well I have no food I need to go grocery shopping, my mom isn't able to pick Madison up... A bunch of excuses. I ended up dropping her off after the pool thinking that his mom was oging to come over later that night and get them whenever she was done doing whatever she was doing. I dropped Maddie off, came home, showered and started downtown for a night with my friends. 1030 last night my mom calls me screaming "Where the **** are you, GET YOUR *** home right now" I'm thinking OMG what did I do? Next thing she said stopped my heart. "The City of Pittsburgh Police called the house looking for you, Madison is in the police's custody right now, because she was in the back seat of the car and Adam got busted buying heroin in Mt. Oliver" (Mt. Oliver is one of the worst parts of the city, drive-bys, drug dealers) THen she said I'm coming to get you my phone is about to die I will be there in 20 minutes.

Ummmm.... I called her back, no answer, my brothers weren't answering.... I'm surprised I didn't have a heart attack. I called Adam up... He answered his phone, I asked him what the heck was going on, he was like "what are you talking about, Madison is with me we are at home I have no idea what you are talking about".

So what ended up happening is my mom got a police escort to Adam's apartment, Picked Madison up. My friend came and picked me up from downtown. I listened to the message the Police officer left on my house's answering machine... It's true. Adam is denying it. I called his mom last night, she told me I was crazy and that Adam would never do that.

So this morning there's a knock on my door CYF (Children Youth and Families - the people who can take your kids away from you if necessary) showed up to inspect my house. They also confirmed the story.

I am so glad people were able to keep me from doing something stupid last night I was ready to go over to Adam's house with a gun, seriously I was a lunatic last night, I wanted to kill him. It is a good thing, however that the police did not arrest adam at the scene because Maddie would have had to go to a temporary orphanage thing, and I wouldn't have been able to pick her up until at least Monday they said. He is still denying it today, says that the police are making this up. I can't express how upset I am with words. How dare that jerk put my baby in harm's way like that. Now I'm being investigated for neglect too. I have no problem with people searching my house there is nothing to hide, nothing wrong, Madison is very loved and very well taken after.

Sorry this is so long, I needed to get that out.

Cece00 replied: Oh my. I'm so sorry that happened!

At least you know now you have a solid case to keep him from Madison. Do you two still have any court proceedings going on?

MyBabeMaddie replied:
Yes, next Thursday... I can't believe he has the nerve to even try to gain custody especially after last night. He keeps saying he didn't do anything wrong. Geez, I wouldn't even feel comfortable driving through the neighborhood he was caught in last night, let alone make a drug deal on the street corner with my 2 year old in the back seat.

Cece00 replied:
You need to see if you can get a copy of the police report. That should be public record, or at least the record of WHAT he was arrested for and WHEN. Definetly bring that to court & ask for sole legal/physical custody with supervised visitations only to be supervised by YOU.

luvmykids replied: OMG, what a total nightmare How did he manage to not get arrested?

I'm sorry this whole ordeal happened but I hope it helps somehow in getting the custody straightened out.

eta: Did you play the message for his mom?

AlexsPajamaMama replied: Oh wow how awful
I would not send her with him again emergency or not, that is scary stuff.

Calimama replied:
I agree.

How can he be so freaking irresponsible?

lovemy2 replied: Doesn't something seem screwy to you with this? How can he be caught buying HEROIN and be allowed to take his 2 year old daughter back to his house unsupervised?? I would be awful concerned with how the cops handled this....

Goodness - thank god Madison is ok - I agree - emergency or not - no break for you or not - I wouldn't allow her to be with him EVER again...

Calimama replied:
I was thinking that too.

MoonMama replied:
I was thinking the same thing.


And I agree would not send her with him again know matter what.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: holy cow! I'm so glad Madison is ok. That's just NUTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CantWait replied:

Mommy2BAK replied: THATS CRAZY!!!

I know its hard to be a young single mom, but if you can't completely trust him then I would just find someone else to watch Maddie if you have to go somewhere.

Teesa®© replied: Sheesh! I don't even know what to say to all of that, I'm in a kinda shock that someone would even THINK of doing that with a child in the car! I'm so glad that Madison is OK. I can imagine all the thoughts going through your head!

I TOTALLY agree with Cece00 with getting your hands on a copy of that report! Good thinking, Cece00

Maybe when I'm actually awake - I just dragged my butt outta bed like 5 minutes ago - I'll have something way more coherent to say. If it wasn't for Firefox's spell check, you wouldn't even be able to read this,

luvbug00 replied: Idoit of the year award goes toooo......

yeah he and brad tie.

What is it with thease dudes. you'd think being in a coustody case would straighten them up but they just get dumbber and compleately sabbitoge themselves.

HuskerMom replied: That's horrible! What an incredibly selfish thing to do!

holley79 replied: I'm glad that Madison is ok.

I'm a little confused though, Heroin is a felony possession charge. I don't see them just releasing him to go home with his 2 year old daughter. I would get a copy of the police report because something doesn't add up with all that.

Danalana replied: ^^^I second that! How in the world was he home?

MyBabeMaddie replied: I actually just got off the phone with the Police officer that was there. He said he did not have enough "manpower" to watch Madison to wait for someone to come and get her. Adam told him that he was going to call me and take Madison straight home to me. Adam is being charged with 1. Endangering the welfare of a child and 2. Paraphanalia with intent to purchase. The officer found Adam conversing with a black guy on the street corner, that guy took off before another cop got to the scene, Adam had 2 needles in his pocket. A lot of people are saying that cop was wrong for not arresting Adam at the scene but I take it as a blessing because I probably wouldn't have gotten my baby out of child custody even today. The Officer said because she had a clean diaper on, a diaper bag in the back seat, and looked well fed he thought it would be okay for him to just bring her back to me. Needless to say Adam never even called me that night I was the one who called him.

My2Beauties replied: OMG thank God Maddie is ok and back with you. And OMG I would never ever in a million years let him have her alone again. What a freaking stupid idiotic jerk!

mckayleesmom replied:
Did the cop at least follow him back to his house to make sure him and Madisson arrived safely?

That is my only problem with that scenerio.....How did that cop know he wasn't high on drugs and letting him drive back with that baby?

I am really glad that you got to have your baby back with you safe and not in a home....but it still sounds dangerous that he let a guy on drugs leave with a baby.

MyBabeMaddie replied:
No he didn't follow Adam back to his apartment because if he did he would have caught Adam in another lie. One of the conditions of releasing them was that Adam take Madison right to my house. Adam never called me to inform me of the situation. Yes I agree he let them drive back home high which is wrong but he said due to understaffing he was unable to do so. Adam's roommate was driving.

Calimama replied:
And if something happened to Madison on the way home? All because they are understaffed?

I'd be writing a letter to my mayor or SOMEONE.

A&A'smommy replied: WOW thats insane I would make sure that he NEVER saw my baby again!!!!

holley79 replied: I'm sorry but still doesn't add up. I don't see any agency taking on that kind of liability understaffed or not. We are extrememly understaffed for our area and population but there is no way we would do something like that. I would seriously write the Chief (if City) or Sheriff (if it were county). I work for an agecy and this just totally floors me. I'm not saying agencies don't do things stupid but I wouldn't let this one go.

Danalana replied: ^^^Ditto. Makes no sense, still

Crystalina replied: Did he really think you wouldn't find out the truth? And how did he get her after he was busted?

I can't see why you are any part of this. He doesn't even live with you (Thank God).

I would have killed him and asked questions later.

HuskerMom replied:
Ditto!

I agree I would write to the sheriff or someone.