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mummy2girls wrote: I think im going to have this wedding planned way before we tell everyone. I think maby just sending everyone an invitation will be my way of telling them...LOL. wouldnt thAt be funny. hand everyone an invitation at christmas and see what they say.

but the reason for this thread is... I was thinking about invitations and you know its usually the engaged couple or parents of the engaged couple asking for your presense in the marriage of so in so ? well how cute would it be if i wrote :

Jenna Lynn ____ asks for your presense in the marriage of her mom Shelly ____ to Marcus _____

A&A'smommy replied: OMG I have totally seen that done before and its ABSOLUTELY the cutest thing EVER!!!!! You should word it that way!!!

mummy2girls replied:
thats what i thought ... brings a tear to my eye thinking of it:)

moped replied: mmmmmmmm I say stick with the parents names - but cute!

luvbug00 replied:
TBH I am more of a traditional type so i'd be confused. My invitations were very traditional. But i like the idea to hand them out on christmas i think that would be awsome!!!

mummy2girls replied:
why? is there a reason why you think i shouldnt say jenna?

moped replied:
Not really.........and it is cute, but I dont' think of weddings are cute, I think of them as traditional classic

mummy2girls replied:
why would you be confused?

moped replied: Don't even think about what Nadia and I think - your wedding.......

luvbug00 replied: I'd be confused because a wedding is the passing on of a parents giving protection and care of their daughter to another ( man or woman) who loves them.

It's just my opinion. Like i said i'm super traditional when it comes to those things. I'm sure Jenna will be included in other important aspects of the ceramony I can give you pleanty of ideas on that if you want. we had a whole special thing going for Mya with my last attempt at the alter.

Calimama replied: That's cute!

mummy2girls replied:
what you have planned?

Kaitlin'smom replied: I think its totaly adorable, my sister did something similar with her second marriage.

oh and have jenna pass them out at christmas that would be so adorable

luvbug00 replied: HAD. remember I was supposed to get married last year.

just some quick ideas, Jenna is old enough for all of them.

1. get a necklace or ring, have it blessed and have marcus give it to her durring the ceramony.

2. have her walk down the aslie in a younger looking replica of your dress. ( mya and my dresses had similar flower embrodery)

3. Let her pick your enterance into the reception song. give her some choises and let her choose. ( mya picked "I like to move it, move it")

4. have her help cut the cake

and there is soo many more things. HAVE FUN PLANNING!!!!!

moped replied:
Great Ideas!

mummy2girls replied:
Marcus actually plans to do this...

and you know at the end when the new husband and wife walks out of the church. well i was thinking marcus and me while he is carrying Jenna:)

kit_kats_mom replied: We threw our own wedding. Paid for it, planned it etc and we had both been out of our parents homes for years before we got married. We didn't have our parents names anywhere on the invite. I say do whatever you want to do Shelly. It's your wedding, your family.

CantWait replied: I say go for it, I like the idea.
Not to be rude at all, but fact of the matter is, you've already threw regular getting married, having a baby tradition out the window long ago.
No wedding is alike anymore and they certainly are far from traditional these days. What you do for your wedding is what makes it YOURS.

mummy2girls replied: Thanks for all your oppinions guys! I know its our wedding and its up to us i just wanted to see the census here on it is all:)

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Shelly, Etiquette wise, you should have whomever is paying for the wedding at the top of the wedding invitation.

Like if you guys are paying, and your parents are helping to pay, and his parents are helping to pay, but your parents are paying MORE than his parents, the invite should read:

Shelly ** and Marcus **, along with their parents Mr & Mrs Shelly's parents and M & Mrs Marcus's parents, blah blah blah

If both your parents are paying for the whole thing andyou and marcus are'nt paying a dime, it should read:

Mr & Mrs Shelly, together with Mr And Mrs Marcus, blah blah in the joining of their children, Shelly and Marcus blah blah

And if you're paying for the whole thing:

Shelly and Marcus would like to... yadda yadda... so etiquette wise, it would be fine to have your daughter "extend the invitation". If your parents are helping to pay, might wanna check with them if they'd be insulted not to be on the invite. It seems sooo trivial... but some mothers, and especially mother in laws, get really upset over it.

Maybe you could do the Jenna thing with your parents... and see how they feel about for all the other guests.

In any case, the way the invitation is presented is more for the guests to know who to compliment on the nice stuff there is too see, and thank for the good food etc... and the really snotty parents who want credit for the financial side of it.

HuskerMom replied: I think it's a cute idea.

amymom replied: I am very traditional but I like the idea, it brings tears to my eyes. Cute and sweet and she really has to 'approve' anyway!

To announce it, you could have Jenna wear a t-shirt you make up that says .... Soon I will call Marcus ... step-dad or some such thing. Like people do with I am going to be a big sister shirts. Oh! It could say... I am going to be a 'step-daughter'. Something like that.

One of my brothers got engaged for Christmas and his gf wore the ring to the house and was there about a 1/2 hour before I noticed, it took a while longer for others to notice. ...

mom2patrick&jalin replied:

I like it and I think that is what you should go with. I also think it is very unique. I knew of someone who had a three ring ceremony. The Husband/Father gave a ring to his wife, The Wife gave one to her husband and the Son gave one to his new Step-Mom.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
I agree 100%
It's your special day, do what makes you happy! I think wording the invitation like that is super sweet!

Bamamom replied: I think it is super sweet and a great way to include her in the special day. And think how cool it will be for her to look back on that when she's all grown up

ZandersMama replied: I think its an awsome idea , getting teary just thinking about it

skinkybaby replied: I like the idea. I had a friend just get remarried and they included their kids' names on the invite. I found some more samples...

Please join
Janet Ana Pamilla
and
Matthew Aiden Day
as they exchange marriage vows
and together with their son, Quinn, celebrate their family
etc.

or

Please join us
At a celebration
Of the marriage of
Linda Rodriguez Winters
and
Gunther Ryder Marquez
And
The family of
Linda, Gunther, Jacob and Elise
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Etc.

Or your children could be the ones to host:

Mr. Jacob Rodriguez
Requests the honor of your presence
At the marriage of his mother
Linda Rodriguez Winters
To
Gunther Ryder Marquez
Sunday, January 1, 2009
Etc.

Or
Mrs. Alicia Wang Arnold
and her son, Jack Arnold
and
Mr. Thomas Gordon Roth
and his son, Thomas Roth, Jr.
invite you to join them
for the uniting of these two families
Saturday, May 5, 2008
Etc.