In search of a mother's wisdom - friend just had a baby

mac2mar wrote: Hi! My best friend (28 yrs.) just had her first baby on Saturday after 36 hours of labor. Needless to say, it wasn't the greatest delivery. They are releasing the mother from the hospital tonight, but not the baby. They have a few more test they would like to run. The baby has a heart murmer.

Anyway, I've never been around anyone with kids. I know that must be miserable to go home without your new child even if only for one night. Plus, add that the fact her husband was called back to duty and is in Iraq currently. (He will be there for 10 more months.)

I wanted to get a little gift for her to leave at her house for when she gets home tonight as a little pick me up. Those of you who know what it is like to just have a baby and imagine this situation... what would you like? Do y'all have simple gift ideas? I was going to go with flowers, but do you really want flowers at that moment?

Thanks so much. I wasn't sure what forum to post this in.

Mel

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Mmm, maybe someting for her to pamper herself with? Maybe a basket with lotion, bubble bath and a couple other little things in it or something like that. Or if you want to get her flowers, get her a simple bouquet and a little thing of lotion or something more personal to go with it. Good luck!

paradisemommy replied: i would suggest dinner and maybe a little gift basket full of little snacks and water (things that she can munch on when she's nursing the baby).

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: I think the idea of a little pamper basket is a good one...Bubble bath, lotion, champagne, chocolate....THey all would have been winners for me

ediep replied: well, I was released form the hospital after 2 days when i had Jason, but he had to stay for 7 days. My advice is, bring her some food.

I spent everyday with Jason at the hospital after I was released, I just went back there everyday. I didn't get to the grocery store and I had takeout food for quite a while, so a home cooked meal would have been nice

amymom replied: I agree with food and pampering. You seem like a great friend!!

mammag replied: Food, food, food!!! The worst part was trying to figure out what to make to eat. I would get her a gift certificate for either pizza or something else that can be delivered or something you're husband can get take-out.

Kaitlin'smom replied: deffinalty some food, weither you made it or picked it up. Other than that maybe some nice things for her or maybe even a little charm symbolizing her baby or family

moped replied: Food - cause she won't get much time to eat so i would whip up some muffins, healthy treats, lotion, a magazine.....................something she doens't have to put too much effort into

Celestrina replied: I agree with everyone here - food and something to spoil herself with. A great place to go for lotions & bubble bath is Bath and Body Works. There is probably one at your nearby mall. They have gift sets to make it easy for you.

JAYMESMOM replied: Food and healthy snacks!! My daughter was re-hospitalized a few weeks after birth and the meals my friends provided helped or I would have lived on take-out and that is not the best thing to eat.

My2Beauties replied: First I want to say you sound like a wonderful friend Ok and I agree with everyone else...FOOD and LOTIONS!!!!

kimberley replied: definitely food and some pampering products would be nice too. could you maybe keep her company also? i am sure she would like that. it is very sweet of you to do this for her.

0-10andbackagain replied: 1. Suggest she join us here.
2. Fruit?
3. Chocolate?
4. Gift certificate

iluvmysweetiepies replied: I have to agree with everyone else. My twins were in the hospital for weeks and I don't know what we would have done if people hadn't ave brought us food! Lotions, etc. are always nice too.

0-10andbackagain replied: I thought of another:

1. day at the spa