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loveydad wrote: Well it happened. I feel like the worst parent in the world. My son is now 17 and has two children.

I just want to say I don't want to be chastised and chewed out of over this post (which I know you guys won't do) and I'm not trying to cause a debate. I'm just annoucing the birth of my new grandson.
I hope all posts in reply will be positive, as I'm sure they will! You guys are the best smile.gif

Peter Alexander was born at 2:14 on Wensday afternoon and weighed 6 lbs 5 oz (huge because he was 5 weeks early!!!) His sister, who's only 10 months, was also born that early. He was 20 inches long.

They (the mother, my son, and the two kids) are all living with us now, (but not mooching off us at all!!) Henry's going to school and working. His girlfreind is going to start back to school in a couple weeks, but is doing her school work at home for now. I think she plans on working too. They buy their own diapers and formula (they're TRYING to breastfeed this new baby but I don't think it's going to happen) and pretty much get a lot of hand me downs from my kids. Henry's a really proud father (even though he realizes that he screwed up big time on this). He takes pictures and puts them in his locker at school . There's another couple at school with a newborn right now.

Anyway I'm happy and annoyed at the same time. I've got quite a few "oh those poor children, oh you poor man, I can't believe they've done this, you must be so embarssed/angry, maybe they should try living on their own, she should have aborted (NO FREAKING WAY). The truth is, it's done, it's happened, and now I'm getting on with my life and being the best grandpa I can be.

Oh, and I'm thinking of getting the two of them sterelized. LOL! If anybody invents a sterilization that wears off in 10 years, let me know!!! baby.gif rolling_smile.gif


kel replied: wow !..congratulations.i really admire you for being such a supportive dad..your son may have made a few "ooopsie's" but at least he is taking care of his responsibilitiies..and that is really good to see.

paradisemommy replied: baby.gif i agree - congratulations to you and your son. i admire your son for having these little angels and loving them so much and to you for taking them in and helping them out. at least they are trying to finish school. anyways - i think it's great! baby.gif

Lollie replied: Awwww...congrats on the new addition! wub.gif

I also think its so great that you are supportive of your son.Theres many parents these days that arent.

So a big thumbs up to you! thumb.gif

Josie83 replied: I can't believe you are saying and thinking you are a bad parent . . . okay the situation your son has got into isn't ideal, but the last thing he needs is to be judged or told what to do . . . I think you seem like a fantastic person for being so caring and supportive. I had a baby when I was eighteen, I know what its like to be judged and advised and so on, and having your mum and dad there for you is the best thing (my mum has never forgiven me for having Cassie and has tried her best to forget about us since we had her, believe me I know!). I just want to say that although most people wouldn't choose to have two babies so young, it has happened and every baby is precious. There must be a reason your son and his girlfriend have been given another baby! Good luck with everything, we missed you on here by the way! xx

Kirstenmumof3 replied: thumb.gif I have to say that I really admire the support you give to your son, his girlfriend and their children! baby.gif CONGRATULATIONS on your newest grandchild baby.gif !

I also wanted to say please tell them not to give up on the breastfeeding. It often takes premature babies a while ti figure things out. My DD took 3 1/2 months to finally figure things out. I pumped and gave breatsmilk in a bottle. See if there is a Lactation Consultant in your area that could offer some assitance. I can only imagine what the cost of formula and diapers are going to be for 2 babies! You can let your sons girlfried now that she can find support on this board as well!

Alice replied: I have to agree-- I think you and your wife are great parents!! And your son turned out OK. He chose not to pressure his girlfriend to abort or give up the baby. He's chosen to stay in the picture. He's chosen to stay in school to provide more of a future for his family. He's chosen to pay as much as he can for those things his family needs. I would say you've all done a great job and deserve a pat on the back, as well as a hug!!

For what it's worth, by brother and sister-in-law "had" to get married very young.. 17 or 18 I think. Well, their oldest (of 3) is now 23 years old, and they're still very happily married. Some of us just start earlier than others, that's all.

Once, again, congratulations on the new addition. Keep us posted.

amynicole21 replied: Congratulations on the newest addition to your family!! You must be so proud that your son and his girlfriend are working so hard to take care of their little family. smile.gif

I agree, please urge them to keep working on breastfeeding... preemies often need some extra help, but it is so important that they get the added protection breastfeeding has to offer. Not to mention it's cheap and renewable wink.gif

kimberley replied: Congrats to your son and DIL! welcome to the world little Peter!

i think it is wonderful that you are so supportive and that both your son and his gf are continuing their education. you are giving them the best start with a great support system! thumb.gif

KatieLeigh79 replied: Congratulations!!! A friend of the family is afraid her daughter will end up PG in highschool to so they started her on the shot so she is in the clear and they make sure to go with her to appointments to be sure she actually follows through - maybe something to look into if your afraid of #3 making an apperance! wink.gif

loveydad replied: Thanks guys! It's been wild around here. I've missed getting on here, I just haven't remembered at all! I've been soo busy! I hope to be around more.

Josie83 replied: Like I said, we'd missed you! You're one of the few men around who would actually be welcome on here atm I think! I hope you're managing to find five minutes to catch your breath and log in when you can. Look forward to hearing from you!! xx


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