I really need some advice right now - Please read

3xsthefun wrote: I am very UPSET with my brother right now. He called me from school about half hour ago see if I could come and get him out. Why?

Because he took my dad's truck out sometime, I don't even know when he done it. He took it up on a mountain road and it ran out of gas on him. I have no idea how in the world he got to school or anything. He hasn't told me everything.

The worst part of it all the truck Does Not even have any insurance on it or a new sticker or anything. I have no idea how he could had drove it like that! It has a old sticker on it I know. But still!

He wants me to come and get him so he can put gas in the truck, so that he can get it home before my mom and dad knows. They are going know it has been moved. He just doesn't want to get into trouble. But I know he will, and he should.

I called my husband and see what he thought I should do. But he was no help. He said he would leave work and go get it himself, but he has no clue as to where it is on the mountain. He said he would go but he does not really want to loose any hours at work.

My dad is on a plane right now as we speak heading to Texas. My mom is at work right now. I'm not sure if I should call her or not?? I don't really want my brother get into trouble but he done this to himself.

The other thing is I doubt if his school would let me get him anyways without a parents permission. Even thought that he is 18 now.

I really,really need some suggestions right now. I'm so lost on what to do?

Boys r us replied: I would just go help him. At this point, it's not like you're aiding him in doing something worng..the wrong has already been done..you're just helping him get it home.
I'm a firm believer in not getting in the middle. My advice is to go help him and feel honored that he called you for help and feels close enough to you that he can confide in you and try to remember what it's like to be a teenager doing crazy things! Give him a lecture, he'll listen to you before he will your parents!

kimberley replied: ugh he has put you in quite a spot for sure. if i were you, i would get him, get the truck home before it gets towed and sit on him til your parents get home. i don`t know how the schools are there but if you explain the situation, i would think they would let him go. i would remind him all the way there and back how incredibly irresponsible his actions were and make sure that the keys to that truck are put away for good. what an awful thing for your parents to deal with as soon as they get back from a trip but they should know and deal with him. let your dad tell your mom or wait til she is home from work. nothing like a problem child to ruin your day at work. i hope you get it all figured out. ((((hugs)))) sounds like you need lots of them.

aspenblue1 replied: I know with our schools if you are 18 you can sign yourself out. That is a hard one. Could you mother even go and get him if you called her. I would proabably end up going and getting my brother. If the trucks has expired tags you father could get a ticket.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I would go and help him get the truck. But at some point (maybe not today) I would sit down with your brother and both of your parents and let them know what has happened.

Julie (jem0622) replied: My first instinct is that you don't be an enabler. That means you don't help him. BUT the truck is the property of your parents. So I wouldn't want it to suffer some demise that they don't deserve.

If it were me...I would make other arrangements (not involving him (e.g. having a tow truck handle getting it back and leaving the bill for a nice long chat later)) especially if the registration isn't current. He should not be getting out of school to right a big wrong. So leave him to stew. As him where the truck is. Ask for directions to it. Then have a tow company take it back to your parents home. Or take him to it (with a tow truck) AFTER school and handle it in that way.

I would not not not take him out of school or allow it to right the wrong. Can't stress that enough. I don't know what he was thinking. A lot could have happened to him pulling a stunt like that.

I would call your parents after the truck has been properly placed at the house. You don't need to have them worrying about where it is or if it will be retrieved.

NICE

Julie

3xsthefun replied: Well I got to go feed Maegan, I'll do some more thinking while I'm feeding her.

Errr..Why me?? I love my brother, but he is really making this hard on me!

I asked him if he could wait till after school? And he said that he didn't want my mom and dad to find out.

Please keep the suggestions a comming!

Thanks,
Tina

coasterqueen replied: Well, I would help him get the truck since it is your parent's truck. You would be helping them by getting the truck. Not sure about the school, hopefully he will be able to sign himself out like others said.

When my sister has done things wrong, I help her out but eventually my parents will know either by me or by her, it's her choice

3xsthefun replied: Well after talking to my husband some more, we think it will best if we wait until he gets home. That away he can haul the truck instead of trying to drive the truck back home with out any insurance. We just don't want to take the chance to get pulled over and get a fine and get points taken off our licence. And they could even take the truck away from us.

It wouldn't had bothered me as much if the truck would had insurance on it or even a new sticker.

Just thought I'd let you all know what we decided to do.

coasterqueen replied: I forgot about the insurance issue. I think you are doing the right thing with that considered

jen replied: Sounds like you made a good decision Sorry your brother put you in that spot. My brother and my sister for that matter don't tell me anything because they think of me as a snitch! OH well, I do tell my parents what they are up to because I am worried and don't need/want the stress and burden they carry. But they do things that endanger their lives like drugs and make poor decisions.

kimberley replied: glad you figured it out. and you are so right, it is not worth it to drive without insurance.