I need to explain - and apologize

moped wrote: Hi Everyone,

It has come to my attention that my husband has taken out a username and made a couple posts in the wee hours of the night. I do not want to start any drama, I just wanted to vent because I always feel better when I do.

I am so sorry to bring issues like that on the website.

I am hoping that a mod will delete that post for me.

I am really upset that he has taken this away from me (privacy) and I am not sure what my next step is..........this is just a great place to talk and get opinions etc, but apparently he wanted to check up on me.

I am sorry for the post. I may not be on too much anymore.

Jen
Boohoo

mammag replied: I'm soooo sorry for you Jen. I can't even imagine how upset I would be. I know my dh does check in but I would be really upset if he started posting things. I know what you mean about the privacy thing.

Big hugs to you!!!

A&A'smommy replied: Jen I'm SO sorry I cannot find the posts that you are talking about but you can send the link to me and I will take care of them for you!!! (((((BIG HUGS))))

My2Beauties replied: I'm so sorry, I didn't see any posts but that would make me a little PO'd to say the least Well you're always more than welcome here, can you change your password or something and set it to not remember you when you come back! You may have to get sneaky but hey he invaded your privacy!

Boys r us replied: OMG!!!! Are you serious??

Jen, please don't feel badly..YOU didn't do this and it does not reflect on you in any way! I am so sorry, for you!! I can't believe he would steal your sense of privacy!
I would be so furious with Rick if he ever did something like that! I would get mad at him if he even came and lurked here..but even more than that..what is it your DH thinks you're 'up to" on a board filled primarily with a bunch of women?
Ohh I'm mad for you hun!! great big hugs and please don't let this keep you away, you've become such a big part of our commmunity here and we all love you and baby Jack Jack to pieces!!

Are there still posts that need to be deleted? U can pm me if you want!

Jamielou replied:
Thats what i was going to say Im sorry he invaded your privacy like that.

ferocity302 replied: He made his own account so unless someone blocks him from doing it..... he can keep coming back as much as he wants.

Unfortunately if the IP address gets blocked then Jen can't post here either.

I wish I had some help for you because I feel it was an invasion of your privacy too. Your just reaching out to others for support.

mckayleesmom replied: Men!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Don't leave! There has to be a way around this. I'm so sorry he did that to you!! I would be furious if Scotty ever did that so I can totally understand your reasoning.

I really don't want you to leave.

amymom replied: Jen, I feel for you. I don't think he should have done that without talking to you first. But, it seems like he is a good guy. And you love him and you both love Jack. Work this out, but don't let this take this forum away from you. We need you and I hope you need us.

I always appreciate your take on things.

JessC replied: What? Really? Why would he do something like that? That is just plain rude and has no respect for you whatsoever!

I am sorry... I hope you stay on here!

MomToMany replied:
Yep, exactly. It IS a public forum.

But to post offensively is wrong.

My2Beauties replied:
Sorry I read it wrong, I was thinking he used your username and password DUH! Well I hope this doesn't make you leave us! What a butthead

gr33n3y3z replied: Dont leave hang in there Jen

Who cares what he reads just as long as he doesnt offend you in any way

Mommy2BAK replied: Jen, please don't leave here. You are so sweet and we would all miss you, don't let him make you leave this place. This is your place to vent, and if you have to you could use the private forum to vent!

Josie83 replied: Jen, it seems to me as though you're the last person who needs to apologise! And I really hope that all this doesn't make you leave. I think of you as a really valuable member of this place, who always has something positive and constructive to add to everyone's posts. I would hate to see you leave, but if that's what you decide to do then its your decision to make! xx

mom2tripp replied: PLEASE DON'T LEAVE JEN WE LOVE YOU

MommyToAshley replied: Oh no Jen, I didn't read any of the messages, but I am so sorry this happened to you. But, you do not need to apologize, and I hope you do not leave. We would all miss you terribly.

aspenblue1 replied: That would be very frustrating. Hopefully you wont leave.

ions_momma replied: Im so sorry to hear this! That would definatly make me mad if my husband did that to me! I hope that you dont have to leave though!

TLCDad replied: Yes, please do not leave. Although we could not ban someone just because they are someones husband, wife, etc... (everyone is welcome here), you can always use the P&I forum to discuss things that need to be semi-private... at least until they have over 500 posts which I doub't would happen at least not anytime soon.

jcc64 replied: I'm sorry Jen. Please reconsider your decision to leave. We'd miss you and your adorable little Jack!

jem0622 replied: I'm sorry that you are so torn about this. I can understand that it is a difficult situation. Just wanted to offer support.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I think that's very childish of him to do.

My DH knows I come on here. He knows I've vented about him. But he also knows that I don't vent about him if I haven't spoken to him about it, either before or after.

Cuz sometimes I'm just so ANGRY at everything and anything, and I come on here to vent, and then replies and stuff said from others makes me calm down and realize that just maybe, Icould have been overreacting a tad, and that NOW is a better time to go and discuss with DH, whereas before posting, it would definitely have led to a big fight.

So he respects that this is my safe haven, and that anything I write on here is as if I was talking on the phone to a friend of mine. He wouldn't pick up the phone extension to listen on the conversation, he shouldn't read what I've posted.

My DH doesn't have a "haven", so if he came on here to post, which I doubt because he's more of the "other" website variety I'd be ok with it, as long as he respected my "personal" posts. You know?

So dont apologize, you've done nothing wrong - and, as much as you might not like to hear it, he did nothing bad in reading your posts - it IS a public forum....but he should have talked to you about it, not post to us like a child tattling to a teacher at school.


,maybe he's just jealous that you have people you can talk to about things like this... i'm sure his buddies won't give 2 sh!!!s about relationship probs, you know? Guys aren't like that.... they're more of the my "johnny" is bigger that yours type and that's about it (sorry guys...but you know you'd be talking about that before you'd be talking about how hurt your gf/wife made you feel about something, without having the other guys laugh at you)

akbutterfly83 replied: Jen don't go..... I'm sorry that has happened....

I'm hopping my DH hasn't done that..... I know he's signed on as me and lerked, and I yelled @ hime about it.... and to know knowlage he hasn't done it again.....

I say talk to him, and ask him not to come on and post, that this is your private area....

I hope everything get's better... just don't leave...... we all love you and Jack...... you have to stay......

chloe&tysmommy replied: Please don't leave, Jen!!!

I think you need to sit your dh down and talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel....I would be a little PO'd to if my dh did that to me behind my back!

But please DON"T go....!!!!!!!!!!

uwishucudfly replied: OMG! You can't leave....you give such great advice, and we all love you! I understand your reasoning though. It was really immature of him to go behind your back and invade your privacy like that.

I haven't seen any offensive posts or anything like that, but I can still understand your concern.
DON'T LEAVE!!

DansMom replied: I'm bummed for you. I would feel angry at DH too. I hope he will come to his senses about what this place is for and why you come here

JAYMESMOM replied: Don't leave!!! I am sorry he did that to you. I understand about the husband feeling left out. My husband has made comments and usually the board is up on my computer and he is free to look but he doesn't.

He has come to understand better that I need my space.

TANNER'S MOM replied: This is just my two cents..

My Dh gets jeolous of the board sometimes too..

But I would tell him that you cared enuff about your marriage to seek help..maybe not in the same way as him..but a way you trusted.

You are sorry that he felt attacked..but in honesty you were just venting. Everyone needs that release and this is yours..

I hope it gets better for you. I will be thinking of you@

Mel

redchief replied: In the interest of myself, and I believe the administration of this board, I have deleted my post on it. I did not realize when I replied that the subject had caused so many hard feelings and I hope that can all go away as easily as my post has