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I have a question... - about kids and chores


NummyMommy wrote: I found this board while looking for some info on chores and what kind/how often/how good people had their kids do them...or even IF they have their kids do chores. I found nothing. Needless to say I liked the board so much I decided to stay biggrin.gif What does everyone here think? I have my older kids doing chores every day and they inform me that they are the only kids in town that do them. Of course my respose to that is basically "I'm not everyones mom I'm your mom and what I say goes" I also explain that I want them to have good habits now so when they go away they can take care of themselves. So this got me thinking....AM I the only parent who thinks chores are good? Aren't there SOME parents out there that have chores for their kids? I started them doing chores at 5 years old....too late...too early? I'm just wondering if I am that lonely wolf on the prairie howling at the moon?!?! banana.gif

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: My little bug is only 11 months old, but I plan to have him do chores. I agree with you 100%. And as my mom was fond of saying, "It builds character". And not the cartoon kind. biggrin.gif

mckayleesmom replied: Mckaylee already has chores...shes 2....she helps me clean up her toys in the living room and put them back in her crate....and she helps me load and unload the dishwasher. She loves helping in the kitchen.

luvbug00 replied: sounds good Mya does chores and she started at 4 she's 5 now. WTG!! thumb.gif

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I am all for chores! I thank my mom everyday when I see that I can actually cook and multitask around my house, or fix things because she made us do chores when we were younger. I see some of my friends who can't even boil spaghetti and I know it's because their parents never made them. My mom would leave recipes out for my sister and I and say make this tonight. Or she would leave shopping lists (when we were older) and some money and we would have to go to the store. We also cleaned. DH was raised the same way. I think that's one reason we get along so well. Most of the chores around the house are fairly equal. I do more now that I'm a SAHM, but I'm okay with it. Wil is definitely doing chores when he gets a bit older.

boobies4virtue replied: I think chores are a wonderful thing! The foster boy that we had did chores. I bought him a little broom and a little dirt devil and he had to sweep the bathroom (tiny) and vacuum his bedroom. I had to redo each when he wasn't looking, but he got a dollar each day that he did it. And he dusted the livingroom for me. I got those dusting cloths. I think it gives them a sense of accomplishment.

3xsthefun replied: I think chores are a good thing, Kaitlynn helps make up her bed and pick up toys and other few little things.

Maegan..she even tries to help put clothes away.

NummyMommy replied: Hmmmmm I'm thinking my idea of chores and others might be 2 different things....my 4 year old picks up her toys and makes her bed but I don't think of those as chores. What my older kids do is each one has a room and is responsible for picking up clutter, wiping the tables and vacuuming that one room and then the next day they switch rooms. This has been their chores since they were 9 and 10...before that they had easier chores (and no vacuuming tongue.gif) When they first started I didn't make a fuss over how well they did them, just "Way To Go!" and redid them when they went to bed....but at almost 12 and 13 and a half I think they should have to do it better. I guess I'm just old fashioned ohmy.gif

mckayleesmom replied:
sounds reasonable...when I was in 4th grade my mom made a deal with all of us kids...my brother had to mow the lawn...etc and I had to vacume and dust the living room......in order to get our allowance....I was the only one in the end to get her allowance every week....5 bucks was a great deal for me.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Chores, to me, are:

any cleaning up that has to do with cleaning up what isn`t your mess.

As in - the living room, bathroom, kitchen, hallway. Your room is your responsibility - but if you don`t do it, there`s a consequence.

At least that's how I was raised... other stuff was EXTRA. Like, I HAD to practice my music lessons.

I HAD to help set and clear the table, as well as unload the dishwasher... no ifs, ands or buts about it - it wasn`t a choice.

I never had an allowance, so it wasn`t for money - it was to learn HOW to do it, for my own sake later on. DH can`t fold a towel properly. At lesat, not to my taste... I always refold them - yes, it woul dbe easier to just do it myself... but he needs to learn.

I even showed him a trick to folding t-shirts with a flick of a wrist... (really neat chinese trick) and he just won`t DO IT!

redchief replied: All of our kids are older and all of them have chores. Once one of my kids said that their friends didn't have chores too. I asked if their parents let them stay out as long as they wanted to also. The answer, well yeah!

Hahah... get back to your chores and when they're finished you may go. But you're to be home by nine thank you very much! tongue.gif

NummyMommy replied: Well at least theres someone else raised like me.... tongue.gif sounds like our mothers felt the same way zachs mom...and thats EXACTLY how I feel about chores...we didnt get an allowance either...and my kids dont yet (I'm thinking when they get older I may start so I can teach them good money skills) my reasoning for this is that I provide for them all they need and if they want something they have to ask so I can decide if its worthwhile (exception is their birthday money which is "free money") They have already learned to save their b-day money and earn extra money for things that they really want but know I wont buy for them (like video games bleh! puke.gif ) They earn extra money by doing more chores then they are asked or baby sitting. Usually they are OK with this system but this summer they have really had a hard time accepting our authority. I thought at first it was because they are getting to that age....but today my youngest boy fessed up to the fact that a neighbor girl (which I have had nothing but problems with) had a "talk" with them about how they are being abused by me for making them do chores!?!?! Shes 10 years old and her only chore is walking the dog. I know her Mom would be upset about her saying that....but then she also probably wont do anything about it growl.gif Shes a nice neighbor but her kids kinda run wild....I have no idea what to do about it except tell my kids the same thing red chief said rolling_smile.gif and maybe take them to a farm to show them how hard REAL chores are! Thanks for all the input guys and sorry for the looong post thumb.gif

mumof2boyz replied: My son will be 4 this month, and he helps me with the dishes, helps tidy the house, helps with the laundry, and cleans his room. AND he loves doing it. He earns stickers for it, but most of all, he likes being the big boy and helping mommy. I think it's great that you are making him do chores, while he is a child;I think it helps him learn responsibility, and shows him what it takes to run a household.

ZACH'S MOM~ what is the chinese thing for folding shirts? I'm interested in knowing!!! Thanks

jacobsmama replied: Jacob helps to pick up his toys and picks up any mess he makes or that we make together. I had to do chores and it gave me a sense of responsibility and I think that children need that. As Jacob gets bigger he will be expected to do chores. rolleyes.gif


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