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mummy2girls wrote: Yes another vent about aron. I have decided to just keep myself from seeing him. whenever he wants to see jenna he has to either pick her up or i drop her off at his house. I cant have him come to my place and stay! He made me feel like a horrible mom!

I know i got to stop letting him make me feel this way but when someone makes me feel like a horrible mom that is my weakness....i cant handle hearing that from anyone! this is what happened..... Jennas cousin skylar is 5 months younger than jenna and aron is upset she is as he says SMARTER than jenna. Skylar can look at a pic and say cow, mooooo while pointing at a cow. cat,meowww while pointing at a cat etc etc. And if you ask her who auntie is she will piont to auntie, etc etc etc. Well jenna cant really do that. Im trying my hardest with her but i dont want to push her to a point where she says im not doing this mom kinda thing! I keep telling him kids learn at thier own pace and he is just mad at me because our daughter isnt ahead of sky being jen is 5 months older! UGH! Jenna sang to aron the song baa baa black sheep. she can say every word where it needs to go and can sing up to yes sir yes sir 3 bags full. Now for a 22 month old that i think is awesome. But aron didnt think that was something to be proud of because he still has it in his head she cant point out animals.. mad.gif AND jenna can sing the alphabet. she will sing abcd then hum for a bit in the tune of the song then say st then hum the rest. And aron still doesnt think that is something to be proud of!

I am trying to do my best teaching and working with jenna but geez give me a break once in a while please!!!!!!! I tell him to work for 10 hours a day cook and clean and still be able to play with jenna and see if you can handle it. nothing i do with jenna is good enough!

Please guys tell me im not a bad mommy and that jenna is not dumb!

aspenblue1 replied: You are a great mother and Jenna is very intelligent. I hate when people compare children. Every child does learn differently!


smash.gif smash.gif to Aaron!

A&A'smommy replied: Jenna is NOT dumb, and you are NOT a horrible, and I KNOW this!! ((((BIG HUGS))) I think you should stay away from him, he is SOO mean to you!!! mad.gif

TLCDad replied: No what is dumb is not wanting to be with you daughter... over-night for example.

Aron sounds very immature.

Alice replied: You are NOT a bad mom!!! A bad mom wouldn't care!!

Suggest to him that, if animal sounds are so very important (IMO, only to vets! rolleyes.gif ), there are lots of great videos and books out there-- he should start working on them with her right away!!

I think a sense of creativity in a child is SOOOO important, and it's clear that your'e fostering one in Jenna.

One of my favorite lines... from a Hallmark card I saw years ago: An entire herd of turkeys had trampled an elephant. The line: "Don't let the turkeys get you down"

Now go play with your wonderful daughter!

ediep replied: excuse me for saying this, but Aron sounds like an A$$!! First of all, he is very insulting to you and to Jenna. I would be fuming!!!!! Second, I would tell him to get off his tush and spend some time with Jenna so maybe if animal sounds are soooo important to him, he can teach her how to moooo or meow (while you work, cook, clean, shop, and basicaly take care of her completely on your own)!

BTW- Jason doesn't do animal sounds either. I never really thought to teach him that.

Kaitlin'smom replied: mad.gif OH I AM SO MAD AT HIM, he has absoulty no room to talk, if he feels she is behind the get off your ____ ___ and do somethnig. Jenna is smart, beautiful, and had a wonderful mother. EVERY child is different you CAN"T compair them. I say deffinalty stop communicating to him if he want to see her then let him call you and make the effort to see her, stop catering to him.....urg sorry but i just want to kick him in the head and tell him to grow up.

My2Beauties replied: banghead.gif banghead.gif Oh he drives me bonkers wacko.gif ! Shelly if I were you I would have made darn sure a frying pan accidentally whopped him upside the head!

FIRST OF ALL, Jenna is not dumb and by no means should he compare her to another child. Can the other child say their ABC's and sing BAA BAA Black Sheep? Puhlease...animal sounds, who cares!!! Just because that baby points to two animals and says moo and meow doesn't make them smarter.

I would like to meet Aron in a dark alley when I have a tire iron handy wink.gif

Shelly, my advice to you is, just don't go around his dumba$$!! Drop Jenna off when he wants to see her or have him pick her up.....leave it at that! He needs to stop commenting on her weaknesses and start worrying about his...and his is more serious than her....while he may think she needs to learn animal noises he needs to learn how to be a parent! mad.gif

MomToMany replied: Shelly, just cut him out of your life for good. He's not a dad, nor will he ever be.

kel replied: you are not a bad mom,comparing kids is the worst thing anyone can do. all kids develop and learn at different rates..
your jenna is also 5 mths younger and in toddlerhood 5 mths is like 5yrs!..

Josie83 replied: mad.gif mad.gif Who does this bilge rat think he is, as if he has any right to say that sort of thing when he won't change his own daughter's nappy or have her to stay . . . if he knew anything about children he wouldn't say that sort of thing. What an idiot. As if it matters anyway, of course Jenna's not stupid! Maybe Skylar can point to animals but I'll bet there are plenty of things that Jenna can do that she can't. It really seems to me as though Aron is in need of one giant boot up his ar*e . . . if I lived near u I would be happy to do it! The posts you put up about him make me so annoyed, Shelly, he is an IDIOT!! xx

MommyToAshley replied: mad.gif mad.gif mad.gif mad.gif
Shelly, I would never recommend that a parent not see their child, but if he is that critical of her (and you) then he is going to do more harm than good. Children can really pick up on these things. Growing babies/toddlers need support and encouragement when they do something well, not disappointment about what they can't do. The worst thing a parent can do is compare to another child. All children have special talents, not all children excel in the same thing and naming off animal sounds isn't the most important thing in the world! mad.gif And, what about when she gets older... disapproval like that from Daddy can really do some harm to a girl's self-esteem. Aron needs to realize how much his actions will affect his daughter. If he wants to be a parent to Jenna, he needs to act like one.

Elle replied: I agree with everyone here, there's nothing I can add. mad.gif
And hey, Brighton doesn't do animal sounds either. Sometimes he likes to imitate our cat, but no one taught him to do that. wacko.gif

kimberley replied: mad.gif Shelly, Aron is the dumb one, plain and simple. you can't let him get to you like this. he is doing more harm than good in yours and Jenna's life. might be time to cut him off a little so you and your daughter can find some peace. someone who breaks down people's self esteem like that is an ABUSER!!!! get rid of him before he starts hurting Jenna anymore than he already has.

chloe&tysmommy replied: OMG Shelly, I would have told him off right then and there!!! I agree with everyone here!!!

I just want to say that you are doing an awesome job raising Jenna, that's got to be tough doing it all by yourself! I couldn't even imagine how hard it would be--It's hard enough for me and my dh helps out quite a bit (when he's not working)...

mummy2girls replied:
jenna is 5 months older....

mummy2girls replied: Thanks guys wub.gif I know jenna isnt dumb i just hate when he makes it out as she is not smart! I told him also that im at work all day and she is a big percent with daycare staff so i havent had time to teach her animals his sister is home all day wth skylar so she is able to sit with her more and teach her.

My mom said to me ... shelly dont listen to aron ...just because she isnt making animal sounds and names of animals doesnt mean she doesnt know them. She could just be one of those kids that dont say much! Then jenna started to sing baa baa black sheep to my mom and my mom said ....now that is a smart kid! LOL. gotta love grandma:)

He is always that way with jenna. because he will read that at this age she should be talking so and so amoubnt of words, she should be walking, she should be running. etc etc and if jenna doesnt follow suit of the book he gets critical of his child.

Alice replied:
Has he read the part of the book that tells what fathers his age are supposed to be able to do.... love their kids unconditionally, change the occasional (?) diaper, and generally BE there for their kids??

Oh, and by the way, isn't "Baa baa black sheep" the correct animal noise???

Ignore him, Shelly, he's an idiot. There are so many decent men out there (where, I don't know, but I found one so I know you can too.) Don't waste any more time or emotional energy on this jerk.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: grouphug.gif You are not a bad mommy! Plus Jenna is in Daycare all day so she is learning there too! It's not easy working full time and then take care of a child! Jenna is doing just fine! grouphug.gif

momof2girls replied: My gosh I dont know how you even put up with him, I would have pushed him down the stairs already!!!!
He sounds like a total butthead!!! I agree with what everyone else has said..
He is a total jerk!
He sounds like such a total &*(&&*#$@(#)$#(_$_@
ARGHHHHHHHHHHH

juliajaj replied: I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. Our ped. told us not to pay attention to any of the milestones since children develop at different rates from ages 0-3.

If I were you, I would demand that he go to your next ped. appointment. Then he can ask the doctor any questions he might have regarding Jenna's development.

loveydad replied: Okay, thats just wrong. If you have a child growing up in that enviroment, they'll THINK they're stupid. Jenna's a smart, bright little girl. All kids develop at individual rates. If you feel she's developmental delayed, (which you shouldn't!!!) then thats your business, not his.

I have my a cousin who's son is really slow for his age. He walked at 15-16 months, barely talks now at 20 months, but that doesn't make him dumb!!

Jenna's really smart to know baa baa black sheep! My 5 year olds are just learning to learn and remember whole songs! You're doing your best working with her. Kid's don't have to be super geniuses! Skylar's mother may be pushing her too hard too! I don't know about you but I'd rather be a loving, caring parent of a child who can't say the pledge of alligence at 12 months then a pushy, mean parent to a child who walks at 16 months. Jenna's a cute, happy little girl, and that's what matters!

BTW i had to change my sn if you're wondering who I am.


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