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I decided to confront my boss


coasterqueen wrote: about why he hasn't addressed the issue of the talk we had last week. Didn't go so great. dry.gif I asked him what the board had said to him as to why they weren't considering more for my salary/bonus for next year. He said "well, they were already griping (the b word was used here instead) about giving you 5%. They didn't even want to give you both (me and coworker) a bonus but I made sure you got that too. I mean they don't think you are just sitting around here doing nothing. They acknowledge your work".

Well for one...uh no I just don't friggin sit around here. Granted I'm on the computer a lot (which he doesn't know) but I always get my work done and half the time I'm taking it home with me because that's just me and I am 200% when it comes to my job! So BITE ME boss!

So then he says "well if your not happy with that..." I said "well I guess the word I'd use is that I'm shocked. I'm shocked that they don't see the increase in my responsibilities and reward me for that." He said "they did that's why they gave you what they did". I said "They gave that to her (coworker) too and her responsibilites have NOT increased". I said that I just felt left in the dark because we don't get performance reviews so I feel like my extra efforts aren't even recognized and it gives me no motivation to do a better job. He then said "well I can give you performance reviews next year if that's what you'd like but I can't guarantee it will get you any more". I said "I don't expect that, I just feel like we aren't being recognized individually when you give us BOTH the same thing and the same year after year.

He said "well I'm going to give Janet some of your responsibilities and if you get so overwhelmed with your job then I'll give her more". I said "it's not that I am overwhelmed, I can do my job it's just that I feel like I should be compensated in some way for the increase in responsibilities." mad.gif So it made things worse for me because now he's taking away responsibilities from me, not to mention the ones that come with extra income. See since boss was nominated as this Speaker of this whole organization for a year (besides our association) it comes with added pay. So now he's giving that to her. I was counting on that extra pay. mad.gif mad.gif mad.gif bawling.gif bawling.gif

So he said again "well if you aren't happy then I guess I need to look at things". Which basically means "you are nagging me woman and you know I hate that and I'm going to remember that later...say like when you are on maternity leave". UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

What makes me even more upset is that I KNOW he didn't talk to the board about it. The reason I know is at the meeting they had asked my boss, me and my co-worker to leave the room so they could discuss salaries. Then within a minute or so they called him back in to discuss my coworker and me and within LESS than a minute he came back out of there telling us both what we get TOGETHER. So he had no time IMO to tell them about our talk I will bet my life on it! I know if they knew they'd acknowledge and compensate me for my increased responsibilities but I can't tell them. If I go over his head I'd be sure to lose my job.

I just can't believe that DONKEY (I have better choice words, too bad I can't use them) sat in front of me last week and made me think I was really going to get more compensation. AND then for him to think he's compensating me so well is obsurd. He goes in there and puts the smooth moves on them every year and so then they give him this OUTRAGEOUS bonus and salary increase when it's me that makes him look good. mad.gif

I know some of you mentioned that I should look for another job but it's so complicated. My boss and I live right down the road from each other and see each other all the time. His new baby girl and Ashlyn will ride the bus together and be in class together. He's a very very powerful political man and if I leave, even on good terms.....believe me it will be very hard to find another job in this very political town. No one will hire me when they know I left this man. Trust me...he's like the mafia in this town!. He knows everyone, everyone knows him and they'd give their life for him. Besides my pay is very good here as well as the benefits. Who can say they get 12% of their pay put into a pension plan on top of their pay?? As well as getting every Friday 1/2 day off from June through September and every other Friday 1/2 day off from January through May and October through December. Plus he really doesn't complain when I need to be gone. I would NEVER NEVER find benefits like this anywhere else. No job is perfect. I've never had a man boss that wasn't a DONKEY (sorry men...just my experience) so I'd have to deal with it any where else, I'm sure.

Sorry I know I said I was going to stay away until I wasn't negative anymore but I had to tell someone. I did talk to my co-worker yesterday about it because she's like a mom to me and she knows I deserve more so that made me feel a bit better. Dh thinks I should get used to being the small fish in the sea...but I can't.
I guess I just need to be happy for what I have and go on with it. But for some reason I feel like if I just keep being the little fish....I will always be. The rich keep getting richer and the poor keep getting poorer. I know I'm in the middle but if I keep being happy with what I have one day I feel like I will end up with the poor because the rich just keep thinking about themselves. mad.gif Why am I republican????? dry.gif

aspenblue1 replied: grouphug.gif I am so sorry your boss is that way. Sounds like a rough situation!

Josie83 replied: Wow, what an afwul situation. It sounds like a catch-22 to me. I 'm so sorry about this, karen, you really don't need this on top of your pregnancy, Xmas etc. I wish I could say something more helpful, but I can't. We're all here for you xx

DansMom replied: grouphug.gif Uggh, what a day. I hate it when you speak up and the person you speak to makes you regret it or even punishes you for it. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of bosses make you regret asking them for anything or complaining about anything. It sounds awful to be in such a political situation. I'm so sorry.

TANNER'S MOM replied: I completely understand. I am having alot of the same feelings around here. We didn't get Christmas Bonus's and that is really effecting my attitude. Well come to find out my boss, is getting a new 2005 Tahoe, as a new company vehicle. And that is killing me......500 bucks verves 40 grand...

So, I completely understand.. Lets just stay in there.

Maybe it will get better for both of us!

coasterqueen replied:
Thanks wink.gif. I wish you didn't have to be in your situation either. sad.gif I honestly don't think it's going to get better for me though. I had an inkling of hope until I talked to him today...now it's gone. I honestly feel like I can't get my "chipper" attitude back even by faking it. I've been a BITTY to him all day and I've tried everything to fake being happy and I can't. I have a feeling that in itself with get me fired. I guess it's just going to make salary review time MORE fun next year....NOT. hee hee.

Oh well I guess eventually I'll give up and just go on with life. The sad thing is now I really hate my job or I should say my boss. I could leave my last job easily when I got to that point....this time I'd be committing financial suicide if I leave this one. dry.gif

amynicole21 replied: You should NOT have been made to feel like a nag for speaking your mind. Had you been a man, I feel certain it wouldn't have been viewed that way dry.gif I know on paper it sounds like this job is the best, but there are things that are more important than money... namely job satisfaction. I'm one to talk though - I hate my job, my company, my industry, my boss... and I'm still there rolleyes.gif Hang in there - hopefully things will turn around soon.

MommyToAshley replied: I'm sorry, I hated one of the jobs I had before starting our own business. I stayed way too long because the money was good.

I hope things work out for you, one way or another. Even if you decide to stay in your current job, it wouldn't hurt to look around... you may just find that perfect job that you didn't think existed.

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momof2girls replied: I feel really bad your in this situation, it really stinks.
Any job has its ups and downs, and if you dont think you would be able to get another job with the good benefits your just going to have to learn to do what you can when your there, not bust your you know what anymore.... and when you leave for the day you leave
There are things way more important.

My current job used to have me soooo stressed out, I get paid very good for working part time and they are very flexable with me, and my boss, a man happens to be wonderful. But it got to a point where I was having anxiety attacks on the way to work I basically just said this has to stop. So I go in, I work... dont kill myself and go home.

Especially being pg you just cant let this upset you soo much, you spoke your mind which I think is great, he sounds like a butthead.
TRY to focus on other things, work stress can really make you nuts and its sooo not worth it.

Good luck!

MomToMany replied: Wow, that is so awful. I would be furious too. But like you said, it's more than just a job. DH has been working the same job for 13 years now, and I think he should get paid a lot more than what he does. He did mention to his boss (a great guy), and his boss is trying to get him to the next pay level. It sure would be nice if he does!

I wish I had more advice for you Karen. I hope everything works out for the best. I hate seeing you so upset; no pregnant woman should have to deal with that stress.

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Boys r us replied: I'm sorry you're having such a rough time with work lately...Just think..soon you'll have some time off when your new little baby doll arrives!
Hopefully things will get better for you there hun!

Sunflower04 replied: I understand what you are going thru. I don't get the people we work for. You would think that they would try to make you happy so you will stay with them long term.
This year one of my bosses gave me a bonus that was half the usual, then another one buys me a new printer, which is really a used one he purchased off of Ebay! They make buckets of money but when it comes time to give they don't. mad.gif

I hope things workout for you. wink.gif

TANNER'S MOM replied:
Well, let me know how you are feeling? It is hard but we will get thru this together. I know you are having a hard time in your preg and that makes it some twice as hard. Us women have a hard enuff in our jobs, Matenity leave feels like instant replacement in our minds etc. But it will be ok. I think your boss knows what a trooper you are, and in honesty he prob feels like a richard noggin for treating you this way.


HOpe it gets better!

coasterqueen replied:
OMG! It took me a second but I figured out who richard noggin is! rolling_smile.gif rolling_smile.gif Now that gave me a good laugh for the day. Maybe I should accidently call him that today! biggrin.gif

TANNER'S MOM replied:
I am glad I gave you laugh! Seeing your response made me laugh out loud today too..Cheers to the laughs!

favre4fan replied: My gosh what a stressful situation to be in. Not to mention the holidays and the things you are going through with your pregnancy. Sometimes people just don't realize good people when they have them. I don't think that you should be condemed for speaking your mind either , geez what a pompus a**hole!! I sure do hope things get better for you.


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