I am incredibly angry right now - Angry isn't even the word

My2Beauties wrote: OK...so remember my post the other day about Desiree making the step team. OK so once I talked with her mom I found out the following, I probably had some stats messed up on my first post, she picked 21 girls out of 72 possible candidates and Desiree made the team. So last Thursday she had a parents meeting, a mandatory meeting for all parents of children who made the team. I was wanting to go really bad with her mom but I couldn't because I felt incredibly awful that day, migraine headache. So anyways, she calls me that night and is like you're not gonna believe this. The coach had done some research and found out that all the competitions they were going to go to this year (1 in Nashville, 2 in Atlanta, and 1 in Florida), there was a maximum of 15 girls allowed. So she had to cut 6 girls. We were devestated. With Desiree being a 6th grader we thought she may not make it ya know. She made it very clear that there was to be no alternates (which I don't agree with alternates anyways, neither does Desiree's mom). OK, so the new tryout would be held Monday and she told each parent she'd call them Monday night or the child would know Tuesday. At 9:30 at night that Monday night she calls Staci and says well I really don't want to let Desiree go, so I've decided that I am going to go ahead and have an alternate 16th girl which would be Desiree. She said one of our coaches said that Desiree approached him about her parents not being able to afford the uniform and what not Excuse me...ok for one even if we did have issues Desiree would never ever say anything like that, that girl is so spoiled rotten it's pitiful, she just had a cell phone bought for her, we have to pay over $70 a month for her plan. The girl dresses in NICE clothes, has every pair of Jordan's you could imagine..her mom was like I'm not trying to be rude but money is no factor when it comes to my daughter and extra curricular activities, she said we will do what it takes to purchase uniforms, go to competitions etc.. She said and furthermore Desiree is so spoiled by her dad that I can never see her saying this. She goes around telling everyone that Brian is rich, we all laugh about it, but I swear she thinks he is for some reason. So Staci sked Desiree she said did you tell one of the coaches that...Desiree blatantly said No I would never say that. So the coach was like oh really I didn't know this. So the coach and Staci got to talking about parental support for the team, fundraising (Staci was Desiree's cheerleading coach last year so she knows about a lot of stuff), she said they were on the phone for over 30 minutes, well she called me at 10:30 pm at night if that gives you any indication as to how long they were on the phone. So at the end of the conversation, the coach says you know I've changed my mind I am going to make Desiree my 15th girl and pick another alternate. She said I go back and forth about alternates but I can't let these girls I have go. She said I know who I am going to make my alternate now. So....Staci tells Desiree she made the team, they take her out to dinner last night and everything, we'd planned on taking her tonight etc...So she goes to practice yesterday and the coach says to the entire team: I know you guys see 16 girls here, I decided to have an alternate, I just couldn't let this girl go she has too much talent, Desiree will be our alternate! WTF!!!???? After you've done told her mother that she is going to be on the actual team and we've celebrated and gotten our hopes up, this was a big deal to Desiree, she is so passionate about this. She also missed cheerleading tryouts because of this, the tryouts were at the same time. I'm LIVID at this point. Why do we wanna pay $250 for a uniform and hundreds of dollars for weekend long trips to 4 different out of town competitions, help fundraise and all of that to sit on the sidelines and watch?? I'm sorry but she's either on the team or she's not. Staci just called me and told me just now about this - I am so livid. She said she is going to the school today when she gets off work (around 3:30) during practice to have a talk with the coach! You don't do that to kids. You don't pull a kid off of a team after you've told them and their parent that they've made it. I'm so PO'd.

I'm also baffled as to why the coach mentioned money to Staci, first of all I thought that was rude if it was to be true, how embarrassing, secondly if she was going to make her an alternate and make her go to the competitions and buy a uniform anyways, why even ask the question about money. A student's parents financial situation should not be of concern. That is why they have mass fundraising events for the uniforms and trips. Most of the time we've always shared our fundraising money (unless the team splits it up, which some do and some don't) with other girls whose parents were less fortunate for these types of things. I mean I just thought to myself what does that have to do with it. Desiree wants for nothing and she makes it clear, she thinks it's cute to be spoiled (it's a teenage thing I guess) but she even boasts about it, which we've advised her is not cute at all, but hey what can you say to a rotten teenager. We do try to limit her to things now in that aspect (cell phone was an exception because Staci and Brian wanted her to have one) but when it comes to sports and stuff we've always backed her 100% so she knows that is far from the truth.

I'm just so &*(^ MAD about this. I'll have to update you guys as to what this coach says to Staci today when they talk.

moped replied: OH geez, that is not cool!!!!!

Please keep us posted on all this!

luvmykids replied: WOW, that coach is not right in the head Poor Desiree, KUP

luvbug00 replied: That is competiditive sports for you. for private instatutions I've seen many times this thought prosses the coach has. although it was handled badly...very badly. But if the coachs concern is the trophy and not the kids, the mind set is "if you want to win, you want the best" regadless who get hurt in the prosses..

Boys r us replied: That's freaking messed up! I'd be PO'd too LeaAnn!

Let us know what comes of this!

A&A'smommy replied: OHHH I read this earlier, LeaAnn I would be SOOO


KUP

gr33n3y3z replied: it sounds to me the coach doesnt have a set of b***s and one of the parents is breathing down her throat about her daughter being an Alt. and its all one mess
I hope she gets to the bottom of this bc its just so wrong

CantWait replied: That's not right at all. Hope it gets straightened up. I agree with Lisa, time for the coach to grow a set a nonads.

lisar replied: I would be mad also. Thats wrong.... KUP

My2Beauties replied: Well Staci tried to call the coach last night, she said she left messages and of course the coach won't contact her back. Here's the thing and I'm not just saying this because she's my step-daughter, but Desiree is better than probably half the girls on that team. She's way more coordinated, she teaches the others the routine for pete's sake, Desiree is good, she's made every single thing she's ever tried out for dance/cheerleading/step wise, everything. She's been in competitions and stuff, the girl is hands down good. I think the bottom line was they had her confused with another girl on the team saying her parents couldn't afford the uniform which is definitely not the truth. Brian and I both have really good jobs as does her mom, by no means are we rich, but Desiree knows that we can afford uniforms and school functions, etc...So when this was told to the coach she immediately was like oh ok then Desiree is on the team then...I mean WTF, money shouldn't have been an issue, either she can do the routine or she can't! Which I know she can. So I have no updates yet, like I said she never called Staci back. Staci said she's gonna go up to the school on her lunch next week if she doesn't hear back from her and ask her face to face. I'm still so PO'd right now. It was almost like she told the other parent their kid was going to be the alternate and they blew up on her or something so she made Desiree the alternate again or something, I don't know. As soon as I hear something, you guys will know.

mommytobailie replied: i'm sorry that's just not right.. hope everything works out..

NaturalMom replied: thats a bunch of poo. i would be livid too! poor desire! im sorry girl!! Good luck !!