I HATE Cancer - What do I say?

CantWait wrote: DH found out today that his mom was rushed to the hospital to have many organs removed (I know there's some stuff lost in translation, but that's what we got) and that she has cancer. They are far from close, but she is his mother.

He messaged me on facebook because he's currently away on course. What do I say to him? I suck with words.

Thankfully he's only one province away so he's going to see her this weekend.

I just hate this. His grandma (who he was very close with) died from cancer, my dad and grandfather also died of cancer. I just wish it didn't exist.

booey2 replied: Hugs Marie, words can be very hard at a time like this. Take if from one who has been there, my dad passed away last summer from it and my mom was just diagnosed over the weekend with breast cancer. Just be there for him, give a lot of lattitude when it comes to releasing any pent up emotions he may have. I am around if you ever need an ear, just shoot me a pm or face me.

Hugs,

Terri

Crystalina replied: I'm so sorry Marie. Like you said, even if they aren't close that is still his mother and no matter the history (for whatever reason they aren't close) it will still affect him a lot.

I would just tell him that you are very sorry about the news and tell him that you are there for him and be honest with him, tell him you aren't sure how to react or what to say to him. I'm sure he already knows that you care about the situation and that you care how him and the family deal with it.

It's sad that he isn't home when getting news like this.

....and I hate cancer also!

PrairieMom replied: Sometimes there just aren't words to say. A listening ear and hugs can go a lOng way. I'm sorry your family is going through this.

ediep replied: so sorry Marie, hugs to you and your family!! I'll be praying for you

my2monkeyboys replied: Oh, Marie, I'm so sorry! I hate that he isn't home - that will make things harder for him a think. But honestly, I think that just letting him know you are there for him will be enough... there really are no words to say in a situation like this.
And I, too, hate cancer.
Big hugs to all of you right now!!

CantWait replied: Thanks everyone.

MommyToAshley replied: Marie and Terri, I am sorry to hear this news. I agree, Cancer sucks and I wish it didn't exist either. I don't know the words to say either, but I wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I do wish that there was more that we can do, but hopefully being there for support is comforting.

coasterqueen replied:
I agree because that is all I wanted from my husband the MANY times I've lost family members to cancer. I just wanted him to listen because there was nothing he could really say that would make me feel better or take the pain away or the horrible-ness of watching loved ones go through it. Just let him know you are there for him.

I know all too well, as do others, about cancer. I lost my best, closest grandpa to cancer when I was eleven years old. I had to watch him suffer through it for months because my dad had to take care of him. I was there in the house with him the night he died. I've lost more people than I can count since then.

I'm so sorry, Marie. Please come here as well, if you need to vent, get it out, whatever, we are here for YOU as well, because I know it must be hard on you as well.

A&A'smommy replied: cancer is terrible!! I'm not very good with words either but just let him know you love him and you are there for him and if he wants to talk you are ready to listen.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Same as above... that you are sorry to hear the news, and that you'll be there for him and his family.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I'm sorry Marie! I agree with everyone else - just make sure he knows you're there for him and don't worry about saying the "right" thing!

luvbug00 replied: I'm sorry Marie my thoughts are with your family and ITA with everyone else just follow your heart..

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm so sorry to hear this, Marie. I hate the "C" word, too. We lost my MIL 11 years ago to breast cancer. Like you, I just didn't know what to say or do to support DH. I was really young and didn't handle it well, I'm sure. I think just being there to listen--and maybe even encourage him to talk about it, if he's not one to open up--let him know you are there. Be gentle b/c he probably has a lot of different emotions right now.

I'm praying for you guys---and complete recovery for her.

CantWait replied: Thank you everyone, as always you're the best.

Calimama replied: It's an ugly, awful disease. I'm so sorry.

youngmomofone replied: I'm sorry

Our Lil' Family replied: Marie, I am so sorry to hear this! I honestly have no better advice than what has been given already. Just want to offer hugs!

jcc64 replied: I'm really very sorry.

amymom replied:
yes it is!

Marie I am so sorry. I will pray for your family.