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He wants another baby!


Maddie&EthansMom wrote: Yep, it's ME and you read that right! ohmy.gif

Scotty told me out of the blue last night that he wants another baby, but he's not sure I can handle 3. You know, since he works so much. rolleyes.gif I think I handle 2 pretty well. happy.gif Of course it isn't always easy, but I do it.

I just don't know if this is wise. There's a lot to think about and some things are going to have to change. I was done. I've gotten rid of everything. I was SO DONE! wacko.gif I always wanted 3 kids, but he always said NO. So, I got rid of everything, started getting my body back into shape and BAM! He gets bit by the baby bug.

Oh you guys....what to do?? Talk me out of this. I miss my babies. I miss breastfeeding and all that good stuff, but do I really need another baby? On one hand it would be better to do it now b/c it was kind of hard transitioning between Maddie and Ethan. I'd want these 2 to be close in age, but then I think "I'll give it another year and we'll see how I feel then."

ARGH!! Did I mention I was done??? laugh.gif

gr33n3y3z replied: I cant tell you what to do but your young yet and only you know how you feel
If you really miss all those things that bad then maybe its time
Only you know what you need smile.gif

moped replied: THis is very exciting!!!!!!!!!!! I say go for it 100%......you know you would love it. I would contribute anything at all - I have everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

coasterqueen replied: Well I've been going through this too. athough Megan is younger than Ethan. I wanted one more but DH didn't want anymore. Then we decided to wait, but he still said he didn't want more. When we went to visit our friends all 4 of us had this discussion and for some reason it was that discussion that helped me decide what I want to do. I don't think I want anymore kids now, seriously. I like the 'idea' of having more kids, but I don't like the idea of my house being more cramped, kids having to share rooms due to space, nix the college funds because we can't afford 3 and this was very important to us, how could I attend 3 kids sports/extra events, etc AND how on earth (the biggie for me) could I give 3 kids the attention they all deserve. I have enough of a time trying to give both my girls all the attention they desire and I like the ratio we have, like Dh mention. 2 parents and 2 children. We just seem to fit the way we are. Unfortunately financial places a HUGE part in this, but for us it should. We can't do everything we want to know for the kids. Kylie wants to take ballet AND swimming classes right now and we just can't swing that. I am not going to deny my kids anymore than I have to and why should I just so *I* could satisfy my need for another.

Ok, so enough about my feelings on wanting more, lol. I will ALWAYS want another baby, but I think it would be selfish to the rest of my family. The good thing is I'm fine with the decision. I've told DH but he still stands that we should not say NO to anything just yet and we'll make a final decision in a year or so, so I'll go along with that, but we are done wink.gif. I'm giving everything away as Megan grows out of it too. I'm also getting excited about what the future holds for our family and for Dh's and my relationship - as well as what it holds for me and my growth.

Anyways, I'm sorry to steal your thread here. I suggest making sure it's exactly what YOU want before doing so. Look at all the aspects of it before doing it.

moped replied: Did I mention how excited I amabout this post????


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~Roo'sMama~ replied: Yay! Ooooh go for it Aimee! wub.gif It'll be fun buying all new stuff, right? wink.gif And if you have a boy I have some clothes you can have back. laugh.gif

Maybe if it doesn't take me too long to get pg again we can be pg together. wub.gif wub.gif

ashtonsmama replied: I would say go with your gut, and do what your heart is telling you....I'm really excited for you, BTW!!! If you do decide to TTC, good luck! Keep us posted! That's an exciting thing!
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CantWait replied: Oh that's very exciting I would think. I say go for it. I think from 1 to 2 is hard, but from 2 to 3 should be easy. Best of luck in your decision and if you decide what the hey, good luck TTC.

Boys r us replied: I say go for it!!!!

You have always wanted three...and I'm guessing at some point Aimee, you probably felt a little jipped that Scotty said "No, two is enough". So now he's agreeing a third would be great and well, I just don't think that there is a lot of ground to say no on!! LOL rolling_smile.gif Of course..that's because it's your life and not mine of course, but Aimee..you are such a SPECTACULAR MOTHER!!!!!! Seriously, what have you got to lose? your mind, your body..ahhh all of that can be replaced somehow..lol..for the love of another baby and to smell that new baby smell and bring a new life into this world!! I say if you can afford it and you can physically take care of 3 then there should be no question! now..off to the bedroom you go!

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: I basically could have written your post about 5 months ago. I had always wanted 3 but dh was absolutely done with two, so I spent 2 years convincing myself I only wanted 2 also. Last fall he decided he wanted a third too so now #3 is on the way.
Obviously no one else can tell you what is right for you but if you were sure about 3 and now Scotty is onboard it could be a sign.
Can't wait to hear the updates biggrin.gif

5littleladies replied: Well I am a baby factory over here so I'm sure you can imagine what I'm going to say. wink.gif I say-

Go for it!!! redbounce.gif redbounce.gif I love love love having lots of kids. Sure it's alot of work at times, but honestly I feel like I do less now at times than I did when I only had 2. The pros really outweigh the cons-at least for me. happy.gif

You make such sweet kids Aimee. How could you possibly say no to another? wub.gif wub.gif

MyLuvBugs replied: Yikes!! ohmy.gif I hate when men do that out of the blue. It makes you feel like you're being targeted by a sniper or something. laugh.gif I don't know what to tell ya. Baby's are wonderful, and if you always wanted 3, then this is the perfect time.....but if you're gut is hesitant about it, and you feel like you're done.... wacko.gif I don't know sweetie! hug.gif If it was me, I would get PG in a second b/c I love being PG. lol smile.gif But that's just me. Talk it out with Scott and really weigh out your options. hug.gif

amynicole21 replied: Woo hoo! I say go for it wink.gif You make awfully cute kids. wub.gif

I *think* I want another, but like Karen I keep thinking how perfect our family is right now. Ugh! So many things to think about. rolleyes.gif

luvmykids replied:
ITA!!! There is not much difference IMHO. You can only go as fast as your slowest child, thats about all I noticed! lol

Best wishes making this decision! hug.gif

Maddie&EthansMom replied: rolling_smile.gif Oh gosh! Y'all aren't helping! laugh.gif

I'll talk to him some more tonight. There's not a bit of telling how he feels about it tonight. Sometimes his mind changes with the wind. happy.gif I don't know what happened yesterday that made him decide he wanted another one. He just said "Ethan is getting so big" wub.gif

We have to....MUST talk about finances. It's a biggie for me, too. wink.gif I just want to be able to afford to send the kids to private school and college. If we aren't able to do this with a third then I don't know that I can compromise. He would feel the same way, I'm sure.

It doesn't help that Ethan has been walking around pointing at babies for the past week saying "Bah-bee" laugh.gif wub.gif Scotty wants another girl so bad. I told him I can't promise him a girl.

There's so much to think about and consider. wacko.gif

Thanks for being happy for me though. biggrin.gif hug.gif

luvmykids replied:
I go through that with Macie and wish I had another just to "do it all again" and enjoy it more, cherish it more, etc but when I think about it I don't really want to do it all again. wacko.gif

Boys r us replied: darn..I thought you were going to post that you just took a test and it was positive! LOL

luvbug00 replied: WOW!! It's tottaly up to you!! but the fact that he volenteered sounds good. Good luck and let us know what you decided..

Maddie&EthansMom replied: LOL Gosh not that quick! laugh.gif AF is here right now so if we want to try, it will be 2 weeks from now. ohmy.gif Gosh, I might be pregnant in another month! wacko.gif

Do I think about it? Or do I just jump right in? Do I really want to do it all again?? Up all night cuddling a sweet baby, nursing, smelling their sweet scents, preparing for the birth, feeling them grow inside of me, the sonos, the doctor's appts, getting fat rolling_smile.gif

The only thing is, I just found out my best friend is pg. rolleyes.gif I dont' want to make it seem like SHE is the reason I'm doing this. AFter all, this was Scotty's decision and he could care less what she thinks.

AlexsPajamaMama replied: I also say go for it!! baby.gif baby.gif

I must say since I have joined this board I have gotten bitten by the baby bug and keep bugging DH about having another one!! He says he wants another one....just not right now!! Well When!?!?

Boys r us replied: Don't mull it over..just as soon as he gets home say, "Scotty...on May 8th(ot whatever) mark me on your calendar..b/c we're making a baby"

luvmykids replied:
Oh gosh sounds so terrible. Definitely do not do it. (can you read the sarcasm in that? emlaugh.gif )

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I SAY GO FOR IT!!! banana.gif If you've always wanted three, than why not? I think it is wise to go over your finances and talk about the private schools and such, but I truly believe that you can make it work if you both are on board 100%! I've heard pros and cons about having three, since it's an odd number, but hey, you can't base your life and love for your family on a number, right? You're such a great mom Aimee - you'll make it work! bigtup.gif

garrettsmom replied:
Oh my gosh, I couldn't agree more!! rolling_smile.gif

I think about another baby so much thru the day, and it only gets worse when I'm on the board!!

I say GO FOR IT!!

Brias3 replied: Awwwwwww......how exciting! I think you should go for it too. This would be my train of thought in a similar situation. I'd be thinking, well heck- I wish I could get my husband to agree to this (Check for you- he brought it up!) and then I'd think, if I even have the SLIGHTEST inkling that I might want another, I should give it some thought now and write out the pros and cons (always helps me smile.gif) otherwise I'll think about it someday and wish I had done it at the time! biggrin.gif Ok, I know I'm probably no help either.....I just have to say go for it, I've got the baby fever bad myself so maybe that's what making me say all of this laugh.gif

Good luck in whatever you choose! hug.gif

(And did I mention I'm giving this idea the thumbs up? thumb.gif tongue.gif )

booey2 replied: Hi Aimee, I just read all the posts and I really don't have any advice other than what has already been offered. DH and I have finally come to a decision that 2 is our magic number. The only way we would ever have more is if we could decide to go on to 4 because I am not fond of uneven #'s. Growing up it was always my mom and us (3 kids) so I always thought I wanted 3, until I realized that we were really only 4 people. I look at people with 3 and wonder how they do it when it comes to travelling and stuff. I guess I just find 2 easy, my sister who has 4 says the transition fro, 1 to 2 was the hardest after 2 it isn't so hard. Definitely think about finances, that is another major reason we are not doing it. Also you and the kids are all still so young, if you decide to do it do it while Ethan is still young, with Thomas being 4 and half now I don't know that I would want to start all over again.

Wow, I guess I did have 2cents.gif to put in here. Hugs and you and Scotty will do what your hearts decide.

Terri

jcc64 replied: Well, I certainly could never suggest to someone else how to make such a life changing decision. All I can offer you is some perspective from the land of 3.
As you can see, there is a big 7 year gap between #2 and #3, so you can see that I struggled with the decision for awhile, but in my case- it was pretty much my call. Dh was fine with 2, but he was willing to have more if I so wished. I went back and forth, back and forth, and then all of a sudden, Noah was 7 already. Although I have absolutley no regrets about having Corey, I have to admit that I was not prepared for how different our lives became after the 3rd child. For one, I really had to readjust to life with a baby- my friends were all done having kids, enjoying the freedom that comes when your kids become a little more self sufficient. Here I was back at square one again. Now at baseball games, I can't just sit and watch my kids play, I have to chase Corey all over the field. Now I can't sit and help Noah study for his tests w/o Corey distracting me every 2 minutes. And she's basically spent her first 3 yrs in the car, going from this sporting event to that. Having 3 kids has led me to the understanding that I will simply not be able to meet all of their needs all the time. Sometimes I feel badly when I see how much quality attention children in smaller families receive from their parents. Sometimes I feel badly that my 13 yr old has to help me parent Corey when there just isn't enough time for me to do it alone. My kids will undoubtedly have to attend a state school when it's time for college- and I'm sorry I can't offer them more financially, but I can't.
Those are the negative thoughts. And then I look at Corey's smile, and how much she's brought to this family. How Alec has learned how to nurture a young child- how it removes him from his adolescent self absorption, how Corey lures Noah back into the innocence of childhood. (he still secretly likes Sesame Street, I think). How she just melts Steve's heart- to watch him parent her in a totally different way than the boys. And I now know just how fast it all goes. It's kind of nice to have the last one knowing it's truly the last one, b/c it makes you really savor every little moment in a way you didn't the first time around. Anyway, would I do it again, absolutely. But I probably wouldn't have waited so long.
I probably wasn't much help, was I?


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