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Drama with Mom - Hasn't seen baby yet because she's mad..


TeagansMom609 wrote: My mother and I are very close but once in awhile we argue like any daughter and mother do. Well this time, its hit the fan.

My mom watched Teagan for us the morning I went into labor. Well I had the baby at 2:41 in the afternoon. Shawn asked me when my mom was going to come up with Teagan so she could meet her new baby brother. I told him to call her and ask and she said she wasnt planning on bringing her up, that she planned on coming up the next day and bringing me Aunt, but if I INSISTED she guess she would come. Well Shawn was really bummed out because he wanted to show Teagan her new sibling. EVERYONE else came up that night. In laws, step kids, brother in laws, their girlfriends. Everyone from my DH's side of the family. (my sister was there for the birth) So the next morning came and Shawn was basically pacing waiting for my mom to bring Teagan. Finally I call her and she said she was waiting for my Aunt to call her to let her know she was on her way to her house to meet her. Well I said, well cant you just come here and Aunt Cherie can come on her own when she gets ready? Well my mom got pissed and told me I was being a bi*ch and hung up on me. I was FUMING! mad.gif So I tried to call her right back and she wouldnt answer the phone. Finally, she does and answers by saying, "What do you want"?! I told her to not bother coming up and that Shawn would just come get her himself. She said fine. Well I havent heard from her or anything since. That was Monday morning. (Note, she lives 10 min. away) So she has not called or seen Matthew since he has been born.

Yesterday i asked my sister if my mom has been asking her about me or the baby and she said no. My sister asked my mom if she has seen the baby and my mom said no, I owe her an apology! blink.gif

So anyway, sorry for blabbing, but its really getting to me. She is being very stubborn and I feel like she is my mother so therefor if anyone should be acting like a child it should be me. But its not, its her.

Insanemomof3 replied: WOW! That is horrible! I would be fuming too!!!! I think she owes YOU the apology!!! growl.gif

5littleladies replied: I would be upset if I were you too. How could she not understand that you wanted Teagen to see her new brother as soon as possible?!? I think she owes you an apology. dry.gif

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: OMG! You just had a baby and I think your mom is being completely chidish. She should be helping you regarless of something you said to her over the phone. Even if you were acting b**chy on the phone, which I don't think you were from what you wrote, she has got to understand what you're going through right now emotionally and physically and she should just let it go! I'm so sorry...this should be a time to celebrate, not time to worry about who should apologize and such. Hopefully she'll realize what a child she's being and go rejoice in her grandson's birth like she should be. hug.gif

BAC'sMom replied: I am so sorry. I think she owes you an apology. I would have wanted my child there too.

Hopefully she will come around and stop so childish.


Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I agree with everyone that she owes you the apology!! I hope everything works out!! hug.gif

Maddy'sMommy replied: Sorry to hear about that! She definitly should be the one apologizing.

C&K*s Mommie replied:

Everyone hit the nail on the head with their comments! I hope she comes around soon enough, and celebrates with you. hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

Kaitlin'smom replied: ohmy.gif I am flabergasted, what is her deal? I just dont understand why she would not want to come the same day, espically since she has teagen.

1moremakes4 replied: I'm so sorry! That was such a special time and you understandably wanted your daughter AND mother to share it with you. I think she totally acted wrong and owes you the apology. But maybe she's afraid to step up. Maybe if you call and invite her over, she'll open up. I know you shouldn't have to invite your mother over after you've just had a baby. It should be a given that she come over. But it might open the door of communication. You wouldn't want her to miss out on something so important as seeing her new grandson.
Just my two cents. wink.gif

MyLuvBugs replied: No offense to you...but your mom is the one being the B@#$%. Seriously! She was basically holding your daughter hostage b/c she wanted to wait on your aunt that was being a slow poke. WTH?!?!? growl.gif I'd be FUMING mad as well, and would NEVER give her an apology. But that's just me. And I'm sorry, but any grandmother that's not JUMPING into a car, plane or train to go and see their brand new grandbaby has something majorly wrong with them! JMO! mad.gif

Freckled Momma replied: hug.gif hug.gif I'm sorry this is happening right now...it's her loss, that's for sure hug.gif hug.gif

My2Beauties replied: You are the one owed the apology IMHO wink.gif

luvmykids replied: OMG! I'm so sorry you've had this kind of drama at what is supposed to be such a happy time. I can't imagine that she didn't want to be there ASAP much less allow Teagan to be. I hope it works out soon and you can get on with celebrating your new son! hug.gif

3xsthefun replied: I'm sorry. I would be upset also. She is the one owes you a apology.

MamaJAM replied: Oh man! I'd be ticked beyond belief! growl.gif How can any adult be so dang childish -- especially when she's really just punishing herself by not meeting her new little grandson! baby.gif
hug.gif hug.gif I'm sorry you have to deal with such stupid behavior. hug.gif hug.gif

holley79 replied: I'm so sorry to hear this Kelly. Shawn's mother has only been by the house for 5 minutes to get some chili and hasn't even looked at her new grand daughter. It's always tough when it's family. I hope that things get better with you and your mom. This is supposed to be a happy time, don't allow it to be taken away. hug.gif

MommyToAshley replied: So sorry she is acting this way. hug.gif I can imagine how much it must have hurt you. Even though she is the one that owes you an apology, I think I would just call her up and invite her over anyways. Life is too short, and she is missing out on some very special moments in your life and her grandchildren's.... you both may regret it later if neither of you make the first move.

kimberley replied: omg, sorry she did that, Kelly. she was definitely the one being childish and you do not owe her any kind of apology.. it's the other way around dry.gif. i hope she comes around and you work things out for the kids' sake. hug.gif


so how are you feeling hon? how does Teagan like her little brother?

momto8yes8 replied: Oh how sad. I hope by now she has called and apologized. I can't imagine how sad this has made you at such a happy time. I am sorry.

scattytart replied: im so sorry that you mum treated you that way. Was she happy when you told her you were pregnant or did she not like the idea from the start. I think she owes you an apology at least for the baby.gif sake. I dont think she really meant it i guess it was just a heat of the moment situation, hopfully by the time you read this all is back to normal with your mum.

i have my finger crossed all goes well with you you husband your darling daughter and handsom son and not to forget your mum biggrin.gif

ions_momma replied: OMG thats terrible! I think she owes you an apology! Im so sorry that this happened. How can she stay that mad about it? And how can she not want to see her new grandson? that is just awful.

TeagansMom609 replied:
I feel good. Back to my normal self. smile.gif Teagan loves her new brother. She loves looking at him and petting his hair. wub.gif Its cute.

TeagansMom609 replied:
No she was fine about it. Maybe just concerned that my daughter was too young for us to be having another but besides that she was fine. She bought ALOT of stuff for him. She was really excited.

I guess she's over it. dry.gif

scattytart replied: I bet it wont be long until she changes her mind and wants to see him biggrin.gif no grandma can forget about there granchildren expecially a new baby.gif

CAMSMOM1 replied: I was reading your post, and thought why in the world would she be acting this way??


And then it dawned on me, maybe she was hurt that she couldn't be in the room with you and instead had to be the babysitter? Do you think that could've bothered her? With everything you said, it seems like she has a big chip on her shoulder about something. And she was a fuse waiting to be lit...KWIM? I think it has to do with something more than you calling her. Maybe she felt left out??? Just a thought.


Regardless of why or what she was upset about, she has something she is with holding from you. And the only way this can be resolved is if you call her. I know how hard it will be to be the one reaching out...after how badly she hurt you.

My mother didn't talk to me for weeks when she found out she wasn't going to be in the delivery room with me. So I budged, called her, and invited her in the room. I didn't know it was so important to her to be in the L&D room. I had no idea why she was mad until I confronted her on it. IT took all I had to not chew her out, but I was missing her and wanted her to be involved.

KUP on what happens. And try to enjoy this beautiful time in your life. Give her time to cool down, and visa versa.

Hugs to you grouphug.gif

Ann sunflower.gif

CantWait replied: Oh gosh, I'm so sorry...I would be fuming if I were also. She'll come around soon, she's just being stubborn. hug.gif hug.gif

fashionmumofboys replied: So sorry you are going through this with your mother. I hope she calls you soon.

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