Does anyone else have this problem - seperation anxiety from your child

mckayleesmom wrote: Don't get me wrong...I loved the time to just me and Russell when Mckaylee was in school, but I couldn't bring myself to go far from the school. We lived right accross the street from McKaylee's school in Jackson...so she was right there. I would only make super quick trips to the store or walk with Russell in the neighborhood when she was in school. On McKaylee's last day of school..we were running around town paying off bills and having them disconnect our utilities...We had about 2 hours before McKaylee was to be let out of school. Dh suggested we drive about 30 minutes away to his office to pick some stuff up. I dang near had an anxiety attack. I couldn't go that far from my kid... Especially since she wasn't with a family member. I made up tons of excuses not to go...we might not make it back on time, the car could break down...etc. Finally I got my way...

grandma replied: lol...I thought you were gonna say your child had seperation anxiety, not you!

mckayleesmom replied:
I honestly didn't realize I had it until he wanted to drive that far away....I have no problem with them staying with relatives. They have never had a babysitter outside family and that is only like once a year.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Nope. I love my three hours with just Wesley when Wil is in school. Now I keep my cell phone always on, but I have no problem dropping him off and going and doing stuff, even far away.

bawoodsmall replied: me too....nope sorry no problems here.

grandma replied:
How old is Makaylee?

Calimama replied: Nope, DH does. I think because of his job, that when he IS home he has a hard time leaving her.

Kaitlin'smom replied: honestly somedays I do. I know she is in good hands at school or the sitter (who has been watching her since she was 6 weeks old) but somedays I just want her with me.

boyohboyohboy replied: i always have felt that way. i never leave the house when caleb is at school. he is less then 2 miles from the house..
and i dont have sitters because i dont like to be without the kids...
thats just how i am.

HuskerMom replied: I've never had to leave Keith with anyone who wasn't family and of course he's still too young for school but I know I'll have a hard time leaving him at school. It'll probably be harder on me then him.

holley79 replied: Well I work 22 miles from home/ Annika's day home. I don't like leaving her but you get use to it.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I get sad, but I don't get anxiety like that. I think it helps that I really like Tanner's teacher and he really enjoys going to school. I do get sad watching his little self walk up to his classroom door though and wave goodbye to me. Aiden, I haven't experienced it yet because he is home with me during the day and Troy in the evenings so he isn't in daycare or school.

msoulz replied: I have an issue with distance more so than time away. I should be more specific - now that Jake is older the time away is not as bad but with Erin I don't like her to be away at all.

I think the distance bothers me because I can't be right there if I am needed. If he is at school I can be there in 3 minutes so that doesn't bother me, but if he is at his grandparents' house 45 minutes away I get a little freaked.

So it sounds like you are not alone!!

Boo&BugsMom replied: Just to add...I think a long distance would probably bother me. I'm a worry wart.

luvmykids replied: I don't have that problem, at all I miss them when they're gone, but I get so much out of the time to recharge or get things done...if I didn't know they were in good hands it might be different, but then again if I didn't think they were in good care they wouldn't be there

mckayleesmom replied: I don't think its a time away thing...more of a distance thing. If I was that far and something happened to her...I couldn't be right there...kwim?

Brias3 replied: I get what you mean. I used to be horrible about it during Aliyah's first year of nursery in Brussels. The kids attended school about 28 miles away from our home and traffic in between was busy. I always had so much to do, yet didn't want to venture far, so I ended up getting even less done than I needed to sometimes.

Who do you have on your emergency contact list? We have some family members and a close neighbor on ours, many of whom don't venture too far during the day. Knowing that they're around in the event of an emergency puts me at more ease when I'm out and about further away from school.

mckayleesmom replied:
We had our parents....with the nearest being 14 hours away.....and dh's sgt in his office...who lived in our town....

Mommy2Isabella replied: I have a SERIOUS issue ... I don't leave Bella with anyone really. She stayed overnight at my mom's a few weeks ago and my mom lives 7 min. away, I called her SO many times to see how Bella was doing.

I don't leave her with a sitter, and my parents BEG to keep her because they never get a chance to. I think however it puts a damper on the marriage because we never have alone time!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: HECK NO!

I cherish every precious moment spent in peace and quiet wayyy too much!

lol

Cece00 replied:
Honestly, no. My boys go with their dad about 2 days a week, and I am happy to let my younger 2 go with my parents or DH parents so we can have time alone.

I miss them, but no, I dont have anxiety about being away from them.

abunky replied: welli admit i have that problem to this day , my oldest is in a speacial school because of his condition, and for the first 2 weeks i must have called 3 X a day to see what he was doing , where he was , what he was eating LOL , they finaly told me to chill out he's ok LOL , now my deal is with my youngest , they go to see there dad on the weekend for a couple of hours and i panic and call my X every hr , to check in LOL...my grandmother said i'm a worry wort and it will get better as they get older or it will get worse , LOL....for everyone elses sake i hope it gets better LOL

redchief replied: It's imprinted into every mom's DNA to want to protect her child. That much is certain, but when you are unreasonably, physically unable to place distance between you and your child, I would definitely be worried. The key word here is unreasonably. If you have reason to fear for your child's safety, then of course being nearby is essential to your peace of mind. But if there is no reason for you to feel as you do, other than cataclysm, then I think you need to work on this.