Darn daycare BRAT

Hillbilly Housewife wrote: He's a really picky eater by nature. His mom gave me alist that includes meat, veggies, pasta and dairy as foods the kid doesn't like.

Well since the beginning of August he's been doing pretty good... eating whatever I serve him, even if it takes him like 2 hours. Today, he SPIT the food in my FACE. I was livid!

Anyways...he'd had like 2 bites, and a mouthful of food (even after he spit it in my face) I sent him up to bed right away, made him spit out his food in the toilet. In retrospect, that probably wasn't the smartest thing to do... cuz now he'll do that when he doesn't want to eat.

Anyways I was soooo angry with the little crapper. I have just about had it with these two kids.... the 4 year old is so agressive, and RUDE, I just want to slap the fake smile off his face. Of course I would never...but visualisation helps.

I was chatting with his old provider last night at my dayhome monthly meeting...and she'd been having problems like that with the two of them for the last 6 months. So at least I don't feel anymore like it's something i'm doing wrong... and I sneaked a peak at the oder one's school agenda... it's FULL of notes on how his behaviour is grody.

I want to switch kids!!!

A&A'smommy replied: I hope you get something worked out cause that isn't right!!!

coasterqueen replied: Case in point why I could never be a dayhome provider.

What can the kid eat if that's the list of things he can't. GEESH!

Stay sane Rocky!

TheOaf66 replied: my wife has the same stuff to deal with

redchief replied: I say he gets brussels sprouts, beets, and turnips... nothing else.

gr33n3y3z replied: stay sane Rocky

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Not like this, thank God!!!

Rocky, if I had those kids I'd be giving them their termination notice pronto! That is over the top. Reminds me of a child I interviewed for a couple months ago. His family was here 20 minutes top. During that time he managed to bite his older brother who was here with him, kick my cats repeatedly, pull my kitten's fur out, and trash my son's room. I emailed them the next day to say "sorry, based on your son's behavior, he wont fit in here with the other kids, bu-bye!". I don't deal with that crap! Cut ties and be done with them. Your sanity is worth more than that.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Oh ya I woudl be getting that kid out of there. NO excuses for that.

I hope you stay sane.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I would suggest to dismiss those children and soon.

Boo&BugsMom replied: You know what? Sounds mean, but this would give me motivation to give everyone else ice cream or a sweet for snack and give him broccoli!!! Ha ha!

kimberley replied: yuck sorry you got stuck with little demons. i like the idea of veggies while everyone else gets ice cream hang in there.

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Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Well the two of them take FOREVER to eat... But what I've started to do is set the microwave timer once the first child is finished eating. Since they all pretty much get the same amount, give or take a few bites, they should ALL be able to finish their food within the same amount of time. (right? )

Anyways... i set the timer for about 15 minutes, and tell them - if they're not finished their food by the time the timer goes off, they lose their dessert privilege.

After they lose their dessert privilege, they lose their craft privilege and have to sit quietly doing a puzzle while we do the craft.

And I'm usually mean and give the other kids a really GOOD dessert... muah ha ha that USUALLY gets them to eat a little better, and generally, they all get to eat their dessert, but it's happened where one or both haven't.

I can't just give them a termination notice... but I've talked to the agency rep about their behaviour, and that it needs to stop, as it's reflecting on MY kids. It's not "that" bad, since I only have the older one from 7am to 8am then from 11:30 - 4:30 and from 11:35-2:15 it's luncxh and quiet time, then we go outside for 2:30 when zach gets home... outside until 3:30 then snack time, activity then mom comes at 4:30

so it's not "that" bad all the time... but I hate late afternoons.

CantWait replied:
Don't forget the liver.

One of the many reasons I'm trying hard NOT to watch little ones in my home. Like everyone else said, "stay sane girl"

mummy2girls replied: Oh i know what you are goign through Rocky. The 2 younger brothers in my care are picky picky eaters and are very agressive and rude and the 4 year old thought it was ok to say some swear words in my house. ive done time outs and taking priveledges away and they just look at me with a smirk on thier faces!

why cant you terminate?

hawkshoe replied: I feel for you. I watched my neighbors kid last week and he ate dinner here. He ate chicken and green beans. When he got to the mashed potatoes he began gagging. I asked him if he was okay and told him he didn't need to eat it all as he had tried it. He ate some more and gagged again. Thing is, I got the distinct feeling we was gagging on purpose, then he proceeded to throw up all over himself and the dinner table. Thankfully everyone else had been done as he was taking sooooo long to eat. I wanted to choke him.

Anyway, I think what I would do in your case is give the mother a menu of what you will be serving for the week and if there is something the kid doesn't like, then she should send a meal in for him. If she doesn't, give him an allotted time to eat his meal and when that time is up, take the food away. After a few days of going hungry, my bet is the kid will eat what is given to him.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
I wish it was that easy. Unfortunately, his last sitter did this constantly..the kid started to lose weight. He's very very small for his age...which is why I'm hesitant to do this as well. I'll take dessert away, but not his meal...i mean...my 1 year old eats more than him already.

I can't termintae because I work through an agency. I'd love to be able to just...switch children... but first - there needs to be other open spots for the kids to go to. Once new sitters are hired, THEN we can switch.

I feel bad for the parents, though, because it's people I know. These two boys went to daycare with MY kids before we moved to Quebec and back...so we know the parents well enough...and I don't want to leave them in sh** creek, you know?

So once there is a place for the two little snots to go to, i'm home free. I just hope I don't get stuck with worse kids!!

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I'm so glad our area is ran differently and we don't have to deal with agencies. I can terminate whenever I want without question no matter what since it's "my business". There is no way I would wait until someone had an opening for them. That wouldn't be my problem.

I wouldn't take away his meals either. That would be illegal here anyway. Treats I would not hesitate with though. Naughty kids don't deserve special treats!

Rocky, I think the timer thing is fair. I give my kids up to 30 minutes TOPS! Even that is a long time. They are usually done in 20 minutes. They only take longer if they start to chit chat a lot.

I have a picky eater too, but she knows that I wont put up with her pickiness as much as her parents will. She eats certain things at my house that she wont at home. I don't have behavior problems with her though. I can get past the pickiness since it doesn't directly affect me, but the rudeness and down right horrible behavior is what I wont tolerate!

mummy2girls replied:
odd. Im with an agency as well and if i want to terminate i can even if the parents havent found a new place for them. As long as i give them 4 weeks notice i can terminate...