Breaking point!!!!!!!!!!!& - HUGE VENT!!!!

Boys r us wrote: I cannot take anymore!!

I do not know what is wrong with these two! I really don't! You would think they were the same age, instead the 6 yrs apart that they actually are! My throat is sore, I can hardley talk, it just keeps getting worse and worse, but no one seems to care..they just keep on acting up and making me tell them to stop. Tanner understands that I don't feel good and he also understands that he has no business picking at his little brother constantly for the last 3 days..the little brother who has done NOTHING but throw tantrums and talk back for the last week.
I feel like I belong in one of those calgon commercials! Rick isn't here, he's working late again with my brother on one of their houses, for the second night in a row and when he gets home at 10pm he'll probably go wake the kids up like he did last night after it took me 2 hours to get them to bed. You know because he MISSES THEM..ahh how sweet..wonder if he'd been here with them while I was gone, if he would still feel this way?

I'm stuck here with these two wild apes. All I wanna do is go to sleep. I just told Tanner that he's driving me crazy...and his reply was,"and I'm proud of that!" I wanted to send him to the moon!
Tanner keeps doing things to irritate B, for instance, B was in the high chair and Tanner will walk over there every 3 seconds and say, "I Love you braedon" To which Braedon screams at the top of his lungs, "GET AWAY FROM ME TANNER!! GET AWAY" So then Tanner walks away and before I can even blink my eyes it's being repeated again..and again..and again and then when I get on Tanner he looks at me all sly like and says, "WHAT?? I was just telling him I love him!" Which makes me feel like crap for getting on him about it, "Tanner don't tell your brother you love him.." yeah nice nichole..but he does it for one reason and one reason only..to hear that child YELL! and I'm SICK OF IT!! This has gone on since a little after 5!
It's constant, non-stop! They're both angels as long as one or the other of them isn't here, but when they're together..omg..insanity!


Anyhow, I'm pretty sure I just scarred them..haa(not really) but scared the crap out of them! They were just now in the kitchen under my feet fighting and Braedon clawed Tanner's face and neck and then Tanner shoved him off of him and then they were both screaming at each other and I had the high chair tray in my hand, I wanted to put it through the window, but instead, I just slammed it down on the kitchen floor and it made a loud noise, which got them both pretty quiet..pretty quickly! It's actually silent in here now, aside from the tv!


God help me make it 2 more hours!

mckayleesmom replied: Send them to bed woman...thats what I would do...and tell them that if they get their butts out of that bed 1 time...you will ground them from everything entertaining for a month... . Put the fear in them woman....LOL...Do you want me to come over ?

Boys r us replied: Pleaaaaaaaaaaaaaaassssssssse come over!!! That's my problem Brianne, I can't be mean to them! I can be mean to everyone else in the world anytime I want, but the second I even raise my voice tot hem, I feel like I've damaged them for life!!!!!!! That's why I say, I'm at my breaking point...cause when I just threw the tray in the floor..well, let's just say, that's so not me in regards to my behavior around my kiddies!! LOL I really am ready to explode!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Oh wow I feel for you! It's hard enough being sick without your kids driving you crazy. Don't feel bad for scaring them... at least you got their attention! Maybe now they'll give you some peace and quiet. I hope you can get some rest soon!

A&A'smommy replied: OMG you poor thing!!!! At least you got them quiet unfortuant that you had to scare them but OMG I would have been about to go nuts too... It is COMPLETLY normal what they are doing though my brother and I were worse than that, were fought until I got pregnant and now were close although sometimes I still want to knock his head off ((((HUGS))))

mckayleesmom replied: You don't have to be mean...just very stern and very consistant with the consequences...KWIM?....Im on my Dr. Phil trip again...LOL

coasterqueen replied: I'd be telling them one more chance to behave and if not it's off to their room! Hope you feel better soon and get a calgon moment .

BTW, something must be in the air..Kylie has WHINED from the minute I got home at 5:30 until just 10 minutes ago when I put her to bed. UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I agree with Karen.....something IS in the air! Ethan has been SUPER whiney today and well, Maddie has a good reason to be.

Send them both to their rooms until they can behave. Show them who is boss and demand respect.

Brianne is Dr Phil...just call me Super Nanny! I hope Rick makes it back soon and DOESN"T wake the kids!!! Geez, sounds like something MY husband would do.

GavinsMommy replied:
Wow I would have been ready to explode when he said "And I'm pround of that"! Whoo!

But I know what you mean. I could NEVER EVER yell at Gavin. I can't imagine myself ever yelling at him over anything unless he is doing something like sticking a fork in a light socket or something, you know, something that could harm him. But just over being bratty, I can't picture it.

Dunno what to tell you though except I'd feel the same way.

texasp3 replied: You know, I've found that the occassional temper tantrum on Mom's part does wonders. The key is to keep them few and far between so that they don't lose their power. I think there's nothing wrong with letting your kids know when they have, in fact, finally and absolutely, yes indeedy, pushed Mom to THE LIMIT!!!

Honestly, none of us want to be mean to our kids, but I think there's a difference between that and letting them see the consequences of their behaviors. I know that Michael has NEVER felt good about making me hit the end of my rope and I'd even go out on a limb and say he's learned a thing or two about treating people decently from seeing what happened when he DIDN'T treat me decently.

Josie83 replied: Nichole you are not going to scar them by shouting at them. IMO you are problem scarring them more by letting them get away with it! Just send them to their rooms and tell them to get out of your hair! That would be so annoying! My sister's three girls are like this at times, especially the youngest two, they think that they are wrestlers half the time. She spends half her life separating them and sending them away from each other. And tell Rick to get a gruip and make him get them back to sleep if he misses them so much! The fool! Hope thinks get better for you soon xx

Heather replied: WOW my mouth dropped open to the whole "I am proud of that". I thought i was going through a rough patch with just one little one...but with 2 and being sick. Your poor thing. Please understand that we all go through times where we have hit the breaking point and yelling and screaming is the only way to make us feel better. Go in your room and just scream and holler and punch the pillow (or the wall) or the bed or something. Just tell the kiddos that you need to get away and vent that you are really upset and go let it all out!! Somewhere they can't see you...but oh they will hear you ...LOL!! I totally agree that at certain moments it is the only way to achieve something...and completely agree that letting them get away with their behavior is really what is causing the problems. KWIM? If you let them get away with it, you are just telling them that they CAN do it and Mom who is really secretly losing her mind is cool with that!!

Take care, take a calgon moment to. Let me them destroy the house for 10 minutes and go relax in the bubbly!!

Hugs.

My2Beauties replied: OMG I would have done the same thing Nichole! I lose my patience with Hanna real easily now and she is only 15 months old....when I tell her no she constantly keeps going back to something and she thinks it's funny, plus she likes to smack me in my face now and thinks it's really funny and that drives me bonkers! Im sorry NIchole, I think it's ok to lose our tempers every now and again, it lets our children know that we are people too and we are not going to tolerate that terrible behavior! Hope you get a Calgon moment soon!