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Are you afraid to die?


Nina J wrote: Ive always been a little afraid of dying, but not abnormally afraid. Lately though, I all of a sudden start thinking of myself dying and I get really afraid and have a panic attack type thing. It's usually at night when everyone else is asleep, I get really afraid and cry and everything. Sometimes it happens during the day, I went to see I Am Legend on Tuesday night and I was thinking about death in the movie and got anxious and everything, but it went away quickly.

I'm not afraid that I'll die soon, I am just afraid of dying. I think it's more that I am afraid of the unknown. I googled it and the phobia is called Thanatophobia. I think its normal for people to have a bit of fear about this sort of stuff, but lately I have been getting these panic episodes more and more and don't know if I should tell my doctor or something or just live with it?

I don't want it to get out of hand but I have seen it go from something that doesn't affect me much to something that does affect me. I feel like an idiot blush.gif

lovemy2 replied: I think that is normal - I have felt like that at some points - not necessarily to a point of a panic attack but I can see how it could get to that -

Me - I am not afraid of dying but VERY afraid of leaving those I love behind sleep.gif

Hope you feel better soon - try talking it out with someone - maybe there is something going on that you are not really aware of that is stressing you KWIM? hug.gif hug.gif

MommyToAshley replied:
Same here. I don't want them to be sad, especially Ashley at such a young age.

I think it is normal, but would talk to your doctor about it. If you are having anxiety attacks, maybe the doctor can suggest something to help. hug.gif

Danalana replied: I agree with the others. I think there is a little fear, even for people of faith or whatever, just because death is something we have never experienced before.
I'm most afraid of not accomplishing what I was put here to do...or not being remembered (DH kindly pointed out that, in 100 years, "who will even know we were here?"). Thanks, DH! dry.gif
I think you should mention it to your doctor or, if you have a pastor (or priest or bishop...or anything else I'm missing!), maybe you could discuss it with him...or her. If it's getting to the point that it's interfering with your quality of life, it needs to be addressed.
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Hillbilly Housewife replied: Not so much of dying itself... but of how, and when... and who I will leave behind.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: sleep.gif Yes terrified!

lisar replied: I am not afraid to die. I just dont wanna go just yet. Thats my thing.

PrairieMom replied: yes. I don't want to talk about it. It will give me a panic attack. sad.gif

sparkys2boys replied: I think that everyone at some point or time feels the same way and worries over it. Its a part of life but if you are always like this then I agree with the others that you should talk to someone about it. hug.gif

msoulz replied:

ITA. If I sit and think about it I get very sad because of all that I would miss. That has led to tears on numerous occasions. But not anxiety because then I make myself think about other things!! unsure.gif

Calimama replied: Yeah a little bit.

amynicole21 replied: I'm just afraid of what would happen to my kids if I died - psychologically, financially, etc.

Crystalina replied: I'm not afraid to die but I'm not ready to. happy.gif

Death is a very open topic in our house and I'm thankful for that. I am a bit morbid I think but I just keep thinking about the woman who was on Oprah years ago. She knew she was dying and made videos for her daughter for all her birthdays that would be missed, her prom and made sure her daughter would continue to get gifts from her until she was 18 and on her wedding day. She made videos for her daughter about make-up and boys and anything a girl may want to ask her mother. I'm the same way. I tell my kids that I don't plan on dying but if I do this ring is yours or hey, I just had a thought and I want to tell you this funny story even though you may be too young to understand it all the way but in case I ever die I want you to here it. happy.gif I don't always say the "if I die" part because I don't want to depress them but we talk about death a lot. I had to when my niece died at almost 2 yrs old. I had to explain to them why Olivia was not coming home from the hospital and since then we are very open about it.

I tell them that if and when it happens to not be sad for me because I'll be watching them and with them and all that stuff. I'm just scared to death that if I go unexpectedly that I will never have said a certain something to them or let them know that I'm not scared.

I pray I go before them but I would like for it to be when I'm about 90 or so. rolling_smile.gif

holley79 replied: Not afraid of the dying part but of the dying from part. If it's my time to go it's my time to go but I don't want to have to suffer to meet my Maker.

luvmykids replied:
Me too sleep.gif

I watched that movie "My Life" with Michael Keaton, the one where he is making videos for his son....it took me weeks to recover b/c I couldn't stop thinking about life after mom for my kids bawling.gif

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: I am afraid of dying but like most others it is more what will happen to my kids if it was soon.

FOr me what terrifies me is not dying yet being left incapacitated.

Monica I love that movie but haven't been able to watch it since I had kids. it made me cry before them....dont know if I could handle it now sad.gif

luvbug00 replied: petrified of dying and afraid because I'm not married and so mya would go to her dad. which would be my worst nightmare.

luvmykids replied:
So when you get married will you have your DH adopt Mya? I'm only asking b/c when my mom got remarried that was the only way to ensure that I'd be able to stay with my stepdad and not go back to my other dad. You probably knew that, just checking wink.gif

luvmykids replied:
I don't know what I was thinking....I remember seeing it in the theatre and EVERYONE was bawling uncontrollably. About a month or two I felt like I needed a good cry and thought that movie would be a good way to get it going....I still wish I hadn't watched it again.

It is a GREAT movie, just waaaaay too emotional for me, as a parent now sleep.gif

jcc64 replied: I'm afraid of being separated from my family.

gr33n3y3z replied:
Not really
But I agree with Jeanne


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