Are all MIL's EVIL???? - MIL stories

CAMSMOM1 wrote: I was reading Kelly's & Monica's posts about their MIL, and it just brought up some anger inside of me!

What's the worst thing your MIL/FIL said to you???


Here's my story:

Ok, so my DH's parents are divorced. I love his step-mom, she's the best! We get along great! But his biological Mom...is EVIL! She has some major problems, she used to do all sorts of horrible things to her kids. DH still has alot of unresolved issues with her.
But I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt. I have always been SUPER nice to her. I was always making the effort to call her and go out of my way for her. Luckily, she lives 4 hours away from us, so I don't see her that much.
We would keep in touch through email. One day I sent her a forward of a funny joke DH's Step Mom sent me. Since the evil one hates his step mom, she went crazy on me! Asking me to never send her anything with his step mom's email address on it. I was thinking....what harm is that? Anyways, I let it slide and I wrote her back and told her that I was sorry to upset her by this, and I won't in the future.
Ok...here's where it gets CRAZY! So my evil MIL writes me back. She RE-WROTE my email, but all sorts of things in there that I NEVER SAID....to make me sound b**chy. Or course, it was a big pile of CRAP, she totally lied about everything, making up stories on how I was harrassing her!
So she told me to never contact her again, and she never wanted to speak to me again. I said, "FINE!" and I haven't talked to her since.
She didn't call on Christmas, and we haven't heard from her. My DH is upset by this, but isn't surprised at the lies she makes up. I'm just relieved to not have to talk to her. It's sad, because she lost a relationship with her son & grandson. But that was her choice, not mine.

MIL's are crazy!!!

Do you have any crazy horror stories of your MIL/FIL?

luvmykids replied: The highlights of MIL's visit so far:
1. I ruined her super secret gift for DH and BIL unknowingly ... scored big points there.
2. I stayed up until 3:30am cleaning because she said they'd be here first thing this am; they didn't show up until early afternoon, of course the house looked better at 8am than 1pm. She said "I thought you said you cleaned all night." I said "I did, if you'd been here an hour earlier you would've seen it." She said "Oh I'm sure. I've seen worse." But in that way only an MIL can say it, you know? That really says "Yeah right, but I'm going to let you slide."
3. They always insist on bringing their own airbed and sheets (we have fleas or something?) and this time (with no warning didn't). She walked in and just told FIL to take their stuff to our room (which I would've offerred if given the chance) and INFORMED me that they'd stay there and me and DH could sleep on the couch. Couldn't she have come in, told me they didn't bring their gear, and waited for me to offer?

She's really not totally evil, she can be really great. I just hate not knowing who to expect from visit to visit!

kit_kats_mom replied: My MIL is actually very nice. Can't say she'd ever do anything to intentionally hurt or upset me. However, she's about as bright as a box of hair and she is forever doing things that irritate me. I'm one of those who can't bear to see someone being incompetent. Drives me batty. When she couldn't close the minivan door during their Christmas trip to our house, I about went nuts inside my head. She also speaks baby talk all the time to everyone. That's pretty darn irritating. Oh, but then she does something so totally off of the wall, like cutting all of the clydesdales forelocks into Moe hairdos and I just have to laugh at the insanity of it all & wonder how my DH turned out as smart & wonderful as he did. Thank goodness they live 12 hours away.

ediep replied: my MIL is very cool, she loves Jay more than life itself....but she can be a bit b*tchy at times.....but who can't really, I know that I can for sure!!!

The only example that comes to mind is she was looking a picture of me and my sister on Christmas eve and she said "This pic is great, Angela is so photogenic"

uuummmm how about me

When Jay was a baby, she was always trying to tell me how to take care of him, but after a while she got the hint that I was doing it my way and she has since backed off.

BAC'sMom replied: Ok I'll be short...it's to early in the morning to get .

Dh is MIL only child; she didn't raise him his Dad did. FIL did a wonderful job I might add. MIL only came around to see DH when convenient for her. My children are her ONLY grandchildren, she does the same thing to them. Comes around only when she wants too! She has "visited" Brand 8 times, Ansley twice and Callum once. No excuse in my mind, she only lives 300 miles away.

Freckled Momma replied: My MIL is pretty decent, normally nice. She minds her own business most of the time, unless we ask for her opinion. She's just weird...as in, not like my family... But I guess my only true complaint about her...she doesn't make time to see my kids as often as she does DH's sister's kids. We rarely talk to them, whereas she talks to DH's bro and sis, a lot. We are the only ones that live in town with her, too. I thought living a 1/2 mile from her, we would see her more, but nope. But that's ok, whatever, KWIM?

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: My MIL and I get along pretty well now since Wil has been born. There is just a better understanding between us I guess, but she still has her moments. She says little things that bother me all the time, but nothing really worth talking about. But the worst thing she's done to me was when DH and I went through a major breakup. He had postponed our wedding and I was completely crushed. My MIL just happened to have a layover in our state and asked if we would both meet her at the airport. I agreed, to be nice, although I was at the point that things were pretty much over with DH, although we were still living together for financial reasons...long story. Anyhow, I'm sure I had a chip on my shoulder to begin with, but we sit down for lunch and she starts in with her opinion of how I'm acting and giving excuses as to why DH postponed the wedding. All I could think of was "she's loving this, she is happy he postponed". She of course COMPLETELY takes his side and is literally explaining (in her words) HIS feelings to me!! The little baby just sat there as mommy spoke for him. It was probably the only time I've ever made a huge scene in a public place!

As much as I truly love and respect her now, that moment will always stick with me. I thought it was completely rude of her to even butt into our life without asking and to feel the need to speak for DH. He let her of course, but the fact SHE thought it was okay (to speak for her son who was about 27 at the time) makes me sick! She still does a lot for him, which kills me sometimes, but now that I have a son, I have learned to let things go.

SOUTHERN MOMMY replied: Well i don't have a MIL she died but i have a Grandma in law which is way worse she once came over to my house after andrew was born the day i came home to be exact and things were everywhere you know not organized yet i had only been home like 2 hrs. and she said to me " we all understand why your house is a mess and i say why maw and she says we all know its the way you were raised" And i said get out of my house you old bitty and don't ever come back no of course she has but i will tell you one thing she keeps that loud mouth of hers shut.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Do you have any crazy horror stories of your MIL/FIL? no... they are great! love them both very much, actually ALL of them (my MIL/FIL and Chris' biological father & his new wife) His bio fathers new wife, is borderline Type A personality (she is not totally though) which kind of gets under my skin a little, but they are some of the best IL's someone could have.

MyLuvBugs replied: My MIL is usually the sweetest thing in the world, but she has had some moments. The worst thing she ever said to me was that by calling Lorelei a chunky monkey I was going to turn her anorexic. TBH...My parents are worst sometimes with comments then my MIL and FIL are. However, the SIL tops the cake with bad comments! lol

I'm so sorry that you've had such a bad experience. Just blow her off, and realize that she's just ignorant when it comes to you and your families lives.

ions_momma replied: I actually get along VERY well with DH's mother and father. I love his mother so much, and talk to her at least a few times a week, as I do with my own mom.

There are times we have had disagreements, but who doesnt have that with family?

CAMSMOM1 replied: Well, I think I should repharse my previous post. I do get along really well with my husband's STEP-MOTHER. Her and I are the best of friends. She and my FIL have helped us out so much. She has helped us get of of debt, helps us with Cameron and loves to babysit, ect. So at least I do have one normal and great MIL.
But now I can see why my FIL got divorced from Justin's mother. She is seriously evil. I still can't get over how she lied about me, and tried to make me look bad to our family. Thankfully, nobody believed her, because she is a complusive liar.
I do feel bad that we don't talk anymore, but it was her who closed that door.
But I am thankful for Justins step mom, and his father.

MamaJAM replied: Yes.....the are. Oh - should I elaborate?

I definately have some stories to tell -

~~Short version - MIL refused to babysit my young children so I could attend my beloved grandmother's funeral (may she rest in peace). MIL's reason - "It wasn't a good time for her" because she had to 'work' (in this particular case - 'work' was cleaning the office that she works at...cleaning that could happen any time over a three day weekend - though she 'had' to do it Friday morning).
~~Short version - MIL told me I shouldn't have any more children (this is when we announced our 4th pregnancy) because we were already raising our kids wrong. (She has a serious problem with our being Jewish.) It was months before she even attempted to bond with DS#1. Let's just say - news of baby #5 was NOT met with happiness.

I could go on - but I need to get off the computer right now....maybe I'll share more later.


FTR - I absolutely ADORE my FIL...he's a wonderful and kind man. I'm the "Daughter he never had" and his home-improvement buddy. Too bad he's married to such a witch!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: OK So I am guessing I should just pick ONE story right? The BIG one that sticks out for me(and trust me in that this is not the ONLY one I could tell) is when in August of 2004 Tay and I broke down on the way to the store-keep in mind that in August here it is at least 100* this particular day it was 107*. My ILs had a extra car and by extra I mean it just sat there...I called MIL after being broken down for 1 hour and said Bill is on his way but he is 2 hours away-we are broken down(10 minutes from her house) can you please come get the baby and take her out of the heat-we had no drinks and were in the sun. She said NO!!! She was cleaning and it was HOT like that was a shocker!! .... OK....thankfully a work crew stopped and gave us some bottled water and we found a near by shade tree and just hung out til DH got there. He was IRATE btw! He had just figured that his mom would have come to get us-I did not call him and tell him she had said no cuz I was so mad at that point I would not have held my tounge!!! It got worse from there and now they are OUT of our lives-for the better I guess! Anytime I get sad and think maybe we should try AGAIN to have some sort of family with them-I dust this story off from the back of my mind!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Oops sorry double post!

CosmetologyMommy replied: I can't stand my mil...no special story, just her attitute and all the crap she has done.

luvmykids replied:
Sounds exactly like my GIL (grandma in law). That could be a direct quote!!!!! As much as my MIL spikes my blood pressure, she's better than GIL anyday!

CAMSMOM1 replied:

Ok, I think your story topped all of them! I can't believe that! Wow...I can see why you don't speak to her...if that was only 1 story!

holley79 replied: I get along wonderfully with DH's stepmom then his evil mother. My MIL only lives 5 minutes from me and has seen Annika for 5 minutes. She hasn't even held her. While I was pregnant with her and found out she was a girl she insisted that I had messed around on DH because she had all boys. She also said that she wouldn't bother spending anything on Annika till she knew for sure that she was DH's.

This has been by far the worst thing that she has ever done to me. She has always been hateful and spiteful when it came to me. She goes behing our back and spends time with DH's ex wife, who BTW did mess around on him while he was out to sea and got pregnant by another man. Go figure right? Oh well Annika has plenty of Grandparents without her in the pciture and I don't want someone hateful and spiteful like that around my child.

3_call_me_mama replied: Nope not all of them

My inlaws and I get along great. i think I've had 1 complaint about them in almost 5 years. (well they baby dh a bit~ but he's theri only and they live 6 hours away)

We actually are waiting for them to move here, so we can see them more. They bought a house about 5 minutes from us and we are alll very excited about it. MIL is especially wonderful, she NEVER would think to tell me how to parent. I tell her what I'm doing adn she's like WOW you really have it all figured out don't you. She wont' offer advice unless I ask, and NEVER takes DH's side over mine (unless he's clearly right, and if that was to ever happen I'd let ya know )

FIL is really great too. VEry helpful and will do anything at a drop of a hat for us. (Has a small irritation for whiney small children, but who doesn't some times!!) So I have NO complaints abot them and couldn't be happier with teh ones i got. Sorry to hear some are SO awful !! (it was kinda a prerequisite when I was dating. I HAD to liek their parents!! and they had to liek me and my family or it was a no go!)